To have had enough of ex-wife's quack b**s***

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So partners little boy comes to stay with us every other weekend and it is great. No probs with that. But control freak ex-wife (actually still wife, they are not divorced yet.... long story) is an "allergy therapist" and every time he comes there is some new friggin food he can't have. It changes every few weeks coz she "tests" him by bending his arm. Load of rubbish in my opinion but I tolerate it but now I am sick of it all interfering in our lives. Latest thing tonight is that he can't "run around" tomorrow as he has "had a treatment" that needs to "settle". So no tennis for us as planned.

and the OP specifically says that the dss is taken to a kinesiologist. The mother is interfereing with his enjoyment of life ie banning chocolate at easter etc on the word of a quack!

The ex-wife hasn't taken him anywhere, she's a kinesiologist herself.

Well the ex wife is quack then!

I think every test has its own problems, even those recognised by the medical profession like RASTs and Prick tests. They are never totally accurate, and vary a lot between them. For some reason unknown to me, kinesiology test results sometimes emulate those achieved by recognised medical tests, but any serious kinesiologist will tell you to follow the medical results when there is a risk of severe allergies.

I believe that the abundance of alternative therapies in the area of allergies, is a consequence of the lack of immediate availability of testing on the NHS. A lot of people is pushed into those therapies during the, sometimes months long, wait to see an allergician. They are definitively not very reliable tests, but for many people they could be the only ones available. :-(

"Naive? Because I'm not shouting Social Services?

You have a couple of lines of info on an anonymous messgaeboard and you think you know everything about a situation....and I'm naive?

Apparently there are many conkers around."

Who said anything about shouting at Social Services?? I did not say I knew everything about the situation just because I have a "couple of lines of info" on this message board. I was voicing my opinion (as we are able to do so on here) based on your attitude on this thread on other threads in general.

My point was that you appear to base everything on black and white evidence but being a parent is also based on instinct. Have you never been in the situation with your child where you just "know" something is not right? We don't always have to have solid evidence to know something is wrong in a situation.

I have fruity, and it was at the hospital appointment that everything was yelling at me "they're missing the point". That's what led me to the kinesiologist in the first place.

Point taken Abundantia.

"My point was that you appear to base everything on black and white evidence but being a parent is also based on instinct. Have you never been in the situation with your child where you just "know" something is not right? We don't always have to have solid evidence to know something is wrong in a situation"

Er, what? I have plenty of instinct for my own children, but none for other peoples based on little information as here. You aren't making any sense, and you are very judgmental.

No I am not "very judgemental", perhaps you should try reading posts in more detail and thoroughly.

I did not say you had NO instinct for your own children I asked if you just "knew" when something was not right.

I think it really is up to DP and ExW to decide whether this way of testing is correct... it is true that NHS and traditional medicine can often come up with few answers as costs are often considered. If DP has not confronted EXW about this I guess he does'nt really object. OP I suggest that you talk to EXW and show you support her in her choice of testing, but ask her to let you know at the start of the week of any 'progess' and therefore what food to buy in for that week....

We can't 'know' something is 'not right' about the little boy's mother or her allergy ideas based on hearsay.