Does your dh know what you earn?

[Kathyjelly]

Following the thread about whether a SAHM mum should have access to a joint account and see funds as "our money", I just wondered, how many people tell their dh or dp what they earn?

My dp doesn't know and because we have separate accounts I don't think he has any idea.

I was responding to StealthPolarBear, who said

I can understand not wanting to take on someone else's debt I suppose - but if you are married, planning to be a partnership for life, surely you both want to pay off the debt as fast as possible, so you can both have a better lifestyle?

ER, no. But then we're not married.

We sat down and sorted out our finances before we moved in together.
We were both in our thirties and each bringing a child.
We still each have our own accounts and he transfers virtually all his wages over to me as all the bill's come out of mine and I buy the shopping/clothes/treats etc.
I have access to his account and him to mine.
I find it difficult to imagine running a household any other way.
What do you do when you need to buy a new washing maching for example and you don't have access to the money as its sitting in your dp/dh's account thats his private money?
Maybe its because we actually don't have much money that we need to do this, but tbh we have always seen both our wages as ours and the kids money.
We both work hard in different ways, me mainly in the house (I work very part time outside the house) and him at his full time job.
I just find it bizarre to be any other way, but as I said, we've had to be like this anyway as we certainly don't have enough money to hide or stash away.