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Original poster

... but when I go to the hairdresser I do not want a head massage!

147 replies

frankie3 · 31/03/2010 18:17

I went to the hairdressers yesterday and while washing my hair they put the conditioner on and then started a very slow, intense head massage. I was not in the mood for this! And I am not into massage anyway. I felt that I could not ask her to stop as that would have been insulting to her.

....urgh makes me feel all shivery to think of it.

Or am I unusual to not like this?

OP posts:
justallovertheplace · 31/03/2010 18:19

This is my favourite part of the whole haircut! Really relaxing for me, and I hate massages as a rule (I once had an indian head massage that felt like I had been assaulted )

nancydrewrocks · 31/03/2010 18:20

ooh I like that bit!

hana · 31/03/2010 18:21

just say you don't want one - how is that insulting?

RatherBeOnThePiste · 31/03/2010 18:21

That is my favourite bit!!

But they do ask first if you want one...

coppertop · 31/03/2010 18:22

YANBU. I hate that too.

darkandstormy · 31/03/2010 18:22

I love head massages,can't stand feet being massaged though.You should hve just said though,as it isn't everyones cup of tea, they would not have been offended.

picmaestress · 31/03/2010 18:22

Bleugh, I hate it, makes me feel very uncomfortable.

JaneS · 31/03/2010 18:22

Ooh, I love it!

bellavita · 31/03/2010 18:23

I like the head massage bit too.

Tiredmumno1 · 31/03/2010 18:23

I nearly fell asleep last time that happened .

Is there any way of having a dry cut, or if when they ask if you want conditioner say no thank you.

fluffles · 31/03/2010 18:23

i love it. it's the best bit. i hate when they are too gentle with the shampoo and conditioner and barely tickle my scalp.

PfftTheMagicDragon · 31/03/2010 18:25

I don't mind the head massage I just hate it when they talk to me! I like the momenary silence before they start jabbering on.

MudandRoses · 31/03/2010 18:28

Advise you not to go to Japan, then! There it's a standard part of the haircut, and can take up to 15 minutes; they even cover your face with a little paper towel so you can relax without having to look at anyone (or have anyone looking at you while your eyes roll in ecstasy! Or disgust... )

Tiredmumno1 · 31/03/2010 18:28

I think i found out my hairdressers life story last time i was there

llynnnn · 31/03/2010 18:29

the massage is definitely the best bit!! also not a fan of the chat, I don't know what to say a stranger for 2 hours!!

shoptilidrop · 31/03/2010 18:29

oooohhh i LOVE that bit. makes me go all goosebumpy. Or maybe i shouldnt admitt that!

cakeywakey · 31/03/2010 18:30

Hate hate, hate the head massage - just ask them not to do it as they take you over to the sink. Say you don't like it, job done. I can't imagine it's their favourite part of the job either

2shoeskickedtheeasterbunny · 31/03/2010 18:31

yanbu
I hated it when the girl did that. and if it happens againg I will tell her to stop

DelsParadiseWife · 31/03/2010 18:34

Oh no, - that is why I hardly ever have my hair cut. I want in and out job done.

I used to go to toppas in London for a dry cut until they changed their policy and said they HAVE to wash the hair and charge for it. Same with drying.

I survived for a while by saying I'll pay for the wash if they just promise not to do it, but given the staff turnover in those places it usually meant having to speak to the manager first which made an even bigger deal of what I wanted to be a quick no fuss cut.

I eventually found a more expensive local hairdresser and just asked before I made an appointment if she would just do a dry cut and no faff. She likes to spray it and offer to dry it but I turn that down now.

Sometimes I only arrange to go when I know it will forecast rain so I can justify the no drying with it only going to get wet again.

Slimcea · 31/03/2010 18:35

i LOVE it

missmoopy · 31/03/2010 18:37

I love that bit - its almost too mice IYKWIM!!! I would pay just for the head massage.

Original poster
frankie3 · 31/03/2010 18:40

No, she did not ask me if I wanted it first.

And yes, it did give me goosebumps - but I would rather feel like this when I am in the privacy of my own home, not when I am being massaged in a busy hairdresser by a young girl I have never met before!

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missmoopy · 31/03/2010 18:41

Hey, take your jollys where you can!

LaDiDaDi · 31/03/2010 18:43

I feel the same as missmoopy .

SearchingForMyInnerJoan · 31/03/2010 19:10

They do generally ask you first, don't they?
Only problem I have with them is getting a neck crick in the uncomfortable position you have to be in whilst they do it.
Cancels out any benefit for me...