To have sex infront of 18 month old

[TwoDotZero]

We were having a cuddle that turned into a bit of a quickie. Ds was playing in his room and occasionally sticking his head around the door but generally not paying much attention to us.

Afterwards I turned around and came face to face with ds sitting on our bed, reading a book and showing me a picture.

He didn't seem at all bothered.
Thoughts?

Mumof, yes your scenario was plausible. But so is the scenario that she was under the covers, head too, and didn't see him come in. Though I admit I would have thought she would have felt him getting on the bed.

I'm just impressed they made it under the duvet - this was a quickie after all!

Me and my DP would have just done it up against the wall.

Get a flippin' grip you lot!

goes off to find some people less rabid. Wanna join me Mrs Wobble?

wow that's impressive that your partner was able to get it up when there was a child present. Slightly disturbing actually...

No we wouldn't do this - not appropriate for the age he is anyway. We only do it when he's out the house (at a relatives) or when he's napping or asleep. Can't imagine I'd be able to relax (or DH!) to actually enjoy sex.

DH wouldn't be able to get it up if DS was hovering around the door anyway. I don't think he'd be comfortable being in an aroused state like that infront of his own son.

Bit weird actually. YABU.

I wasn't avoiding you all, just putting ds to bed and catching up on all these posts.

I should have been more clear in my OP. It was a gentle under the duvet shuffle.

If its ok with a baby in the room and not ok with a child in the room, there is a grey area in the middle and I think thats down to individual families and a good amount of discretion.

Think I should have posted in a different area. I was interested in peoples experiences and when they felt their children were too old.

Thanks Mrs Wobble & lol ifancy

my 15 months old woke up and said 'hello diddy' the other day when we thought we would have a quickie - does this make me a sex offender???? crikey

Well done for coming back, OP. I for one, was beginning to have doubts. I think the thread title has shocked/upset people - "AIBU to have sex in front of 18 month old." Not nice. Anyway, I guess if you wanted to know whether you were being U or not, you've got your answer.

indeed

and doing it when you have a newborn in your room is different to having a toddler nipping in and out of the room. huge difference there.

DS sees DH and myself kissing but that's it. He doesn't need to know anything else - it's not necessary for him to know. He's only 2.11!

The fact you were both sexually aroused in and acted on it whilst your toddler was awake and in the near vicinity is a bit disturbing though. Seriously.

I'd be surprised if many men could get it up if their toddler was lurking around the room door totally aware and wide awake.

Lawks, will ye all leave the girl alone, making rude nasty insinuations about her and her husband is frankly sad and pathetic.
They did nothing wrong
It was sex, thats all in a slightly, slightly embarrassing situation.
Twodot, walk away now before the loons upset you any more than they have.

This happened to use when DS#1 was about 20m.

He didn't seem interested.

But later I caught him 'humping' a camel teddy . I found that quite insulting actually.

I think there is a BIG difference between
'accidentally being walked in on'
and ' happily carrying on shagging in front of your toddler'
I think OP has behaved inapropriatley.

hear hear SixtyFootDoll

exactly lockets - a child being near of any age would be a passion killer!! how a man could still maintain an erection whilst a child is nearby does seem strange, surely it would put most people off?

inappropriate behaviour in front of your child

and even more so...to come on here and try to pass it off as just "one of those things"

it isn't

shag when the kid is asleep, simple

you can control yourselves, can't you ?

what would you do if you had visitors around, and fancied a poke ? Your MIL ? The Vicar, come around for tea ?

do you think etiquette and good manners re. sexual behaviour don't apply to your own child ?

childish and self-indulgent, frankly

OP, yaNbu,

I think you're fine with that.

Take no notice of the Daily Mail crowd, I'm sure me and DP have been in this situation before.
It's no big deal. At least you have a healthy relationship with your partner and you're not shouting at each other, much more inapropriate in my opinion.

shag when the kid is asleep, simple

you have summed it up AnyFucker

I'm sorry but how the hell can anyone relax enough for an enjoyable shag with a wide-awake kid in the same house? Jesus, can you not wait till bed/naptime? To carry on with him sticking his head in the door from time to time is just bloody odd.
I dare say he wasn't bothered, but weren't you or your OH?!

and fwiw, dh and I don't shout at each other.

and I read the guardian.

I'm sorry but how the hell can anyone relax enough for an enjoyable shag with a wide-awake kid in the same house

nickytwotimes this is the bit I don't get either. I'm still waiting on OP to answer this one....

Yes, lovechoc. I like to know I can, ahem, let go a bit, if you get my drift.

Im just impressed you still fancy your dh post kids. I think its wonderful. We a are always being told we dont talk about sex openly enough in this country and these replies prove it. She didnt do it intentionally - you gotta grab it while you can with kids, good for you OP!

we don't shag or shout in front of our toddler. and we don't do both at the same time.

this is a wind up surely

Yep if stop having sex when faced with your 18mth old child you undoubtedly are a Daily Mail Reading Prude, Framey, no doubt about it

Most of us are parents, we have sex, doesn't mean we are uptight simply because we don't relish the idea of our DC witnessing our shagging.

It is the carrying on with the deed once having been interrupted which is extremely odd.