To have sex infront of 18 month old

[TwoDotZero]

We were having a cuddle that turned into a bit of a quickie. Ds was playing in his room and occasionally sticking his head around the door but generally not paying much attention to us.

Afterwards I turned around and came face to face with ds sitting on our bed, reading a book and showing me a picture.

He didn't seem at all bothered.
Thoughts?

Don't think it's appropriate myself. Interesting that some people think it is okay.

When families were living 8 to a room, surely lots of toddlers, pre-schoolers and adolescents saw their parents in action. D'you think we're all a bit antiseptic nowadays?

Everyone's kids are different? And I am not her so can't comment on what happened in that respect.

And I didn't say it was ok - I said it was far from ideal but it's not a blardy hanging offence!!

Noway even if ds was asleep near you no. Dh would never ever do it and me, no would not feel comfortable with it. Dh would not even have sex with me when i was pg as he felt uncomfortable as there was a baby inside

gets worse the older they are ...ds1 is17 and ewwwww we have to time it for when he is out - his bedroom is under ours

I am with Dumbledore and Lockets

Not nice and I couldn't but not that bad

nasty thread title

if they put the toddler in his room, then fair enough, he's in a safe environment but to just let him roam around the house, it just seems really reckless and irresponsible. surely using a bit common sense first (if they really had to do it then!) would be make sure their child was safe. or is that just too sensible

No way could i have sex knowing that ds was pottering about & coming in & out of the room.

I find the op a bit wrong for slinking off to bed for a quickie whilst her ds was wandering about the house on his own,i mean he could have been drinking bleach,sticking jam butties in the dvd player,eating crayons.

YABU & your thread title is disgusting.

nah, lovechoc

that wouldn't be attention-seeking and dramatic enough, would it

That's the bigger issue for me. He obviously had a degree of free reign to be able to stick his head round the door.

this has got to be a total wind-up. who on earth would deliberately have a 'quickie' if their toddler was wandering around nearby??? yep - attention seeking seems to be the phrase standing out anyfucker

Not only the thread title but putting it in AIBU. Bit sad frankly

How you wouldn't be put off by your DS coming into the room is beyond me.
I also don't understand how you noticed him popping around the door but didn't notice him getting on to the bed?
Surely he has to come through that previously mentioned door?
I find it disgusting, the thread title is even worse, kind of like you are seeking approval. But, that's just my opinion.

We let our 11 month old 'roam' around the house. He has safe areas, like the hallway outside our room which has toys and a stairgate at the top of the stairs.

The areas he is allowed to roam in are childproofed, he likes to be able to pop in and out of rooms...

As for this notion of the child copying sexual behaviour, what exactly is he going to copy? Shuffleing around under the duvet? I'm sure that would get him chucked out of nursery in no time

When I said daily mail crowd, I was actually referring to those posters who shouted paedo, not those who just said they wouldn't do it.
Sorry for the misunderstanding!

I wouldn't/couldn't

I often can't do it with DH in the room.

Obviously I have offended lots of you with my title - my appologies I will give it much more thought in the future. I'm not bragging/attention seeking etc, I was just interested in others points of view.

As I said in a response earlier I think IABU was probably the wrong place to post this.

I understand the questions about supervising my ds but as it isn't clear in my OP it is disappointing that so many of you have jumped to extreme conclusions.
We have a stairgate which limits him to his and our child friendly bedrooms so he's not 'wandering the house'. He's also content to have a play on his own for a while in the morning and this would be the same if we were in bed having a chat.

SolidGoldBrass got it right I think
"If this toddler is used to pottering in and out of Mummy and Daddy's room first thing in the morning when they are in bed, he's not going to make any particular distinction between them lying in bed or wriggling a bit under the duvet. "

Thanks for your comments Ifancy - I'd buy you a shandy today.

Well 2.0
You certainly got plenty of opinions!

When he is 18, ask if he remembers and if it has afffected him in anyway.

I don't read the DM, ta very much - much more brainier than that! Nor have I shouted paedo. BUT, I find the thread title horrible and offensive. It's an unnecessary post really.

'It is disappointing that so many of you have jumped to extreme conclusions'

with a thread entitled 'Am I being unreasonable to have sex in front of 18 month old' what the hell did you expect? Downright disingenuous

Entirely inappropriate imo. I actually do not know how either of you could have continued knowing that your child was wandering in and out of your room. Bleh.

You see OP, you tend to get extreme conclusions/opinions if you post extreme thread titles.

Well, it seems as if your ds was safe then, but I would still find it impossible to "let go" and enjoy myself if I knew there was even the remotest possibility of any dc walking in on us. Wouldn't matter to me how discreet we were being, I just couldn't carry on. And I think dh would feel the same, not that he'd have much say in that particular situation, cos I'd have jumped up and got dressed before he'd have blinked.

(Hello, Ifancyashandy, didn't there were two of us shandy girls here)

You're welcome and mine's a large one! Oh sh&t, I'll probably get told that is inappropriate language

Well said LadyB!