or more am I being stupid?

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I am in a nasty situation at the moment whereby I have found myself arrested and I am currently on bail for an accusation of fraud by position because I paid for my old netball teams affiliation on my credit card and then when peoples cheques for their contribution were paid into netball teams bank account I took back money to pay off my credit card which was agreed as a team this is how it would work but one malicious woman has told the police she did not agree etc etc so as treasurer i have now been framed. I have not slept for last 10 days or so whilst all this is being investigated as even though I have done nothing wrong I feel unsettled.

I am a childminder. On monday I lost my full timer as her mum left college, Yesterday I had a lot of stress as the parents often bring sick children to me e.g. sickness & diarrhoea anyway yesterday I felt enough was enough as two children came in like that and the mother lied to me so I gave notice to all my under 5's as I can't afford to pay my assistant anymore and I just felt it was more stress but have I been stupid whilst so much else is going on in my life?

thank you everybody no she does not have an idea and quite frankly i doubt if she would care what she has done to me i am round a friends now who weirdly felt she needed to come home from work and i weirdly drove there as was in my car and did not know where to go it is great to know people are supporting me

You don't have to go through this alone, your friend being there for you shows you this.

LM1 - I've been following your story and you have my greatest sympathy. I think you are doing really well at coping in a difficult situation. I am amazed it has got this far. I could easily see myself in your situation,

I manage the accounts for our block of flats and could imagine how easy it is to pay for something and claim it back afterwards. I wouldn't have given that a second thought until reading your thread.

I really wish you well and hope this is resolved soon for the sake of your health and your family. You do not deserve this rubbish.

I wish you all the best and am sure that there's absolutely no likelihood of the police holding you for 72 hours. Leaving out the fact you are innocent and being horribly practical for a moment, they won't have the room. But your solicitor should make sure that the police are aware of your mental state right now since it is perfectly possible to be "unbailed" but still required to return if and when required. I know this wouldn't make the whole nasty business go away but it would stop you feeling like a criminal and hopefully help life return to a semblance of normality.

I'd also second my advice about not accepting cautions.

thanks pikelit will ask solicitor about the bail situation

Bestr of luck I know that you are prob there now and my heart goes out to you and your DP and congratulate you both on the strength of relationship that she is supporting you.

PLease let us know how you got on we all are behind you.

i am home thank god have been re bailed til 13th april at 16:40. Solicitor asked police what likely to happen when i go back they said i won't be interviewed again they just waiting on taking the statement from the other woman. Feel really good as the police officer and solicitor don't feel i will have anything to worry about. Solicitor spoke to me like an old friend not a criminal

I'M REALLY PLEASED FOR YOU. I know you have to go back but that is only because the vindictive moo has a DVT and can't answer questions. I wish I could be a fly on the wall when the police produce the receipts that you paid and that the club still owes you £15!!!!

Keep us posted and in the meantime enjoy the eatsre hols with DP and DC's.

thanks mumbar

of course the solicitor spoke to you like an old friend and not a criminal
that's because you're not a criminal .

Well done on keeping so strong ,sending all love ,support and postive vibes.

thanks violetqueen am starting to believe that again now

Fantastic news, hope you mind has been put t rest alittle.

yes feel a lot better now feel at least human again but obviously I not gonna rest completely til it's all over

I wondered if you can suggest to the police, once this is all over, that they take some action against this woman for wasting police time or harressement or something.

think i will do also solicitor may be able to advise on all this she seems to be giving me positive vibes

Love being a mummy I love your thinking!!!!!

This is good news LM1. I did think about you today. I hope this has put your mind at rest and that DVT cow gets her come-uppance. She will, her type usually do. As my mum says, every dog has its' day

how i am feeling now

Positive thoughts and good vibes from here too. You'll be fine. I just know it. xxx

woken up feeling human today I am gonna fight all this and have my name cleared I will be taking this further and turning tables on her I will not let this rest

Good for you LM - hopefully if she doesn't get away with it she won't be likely to try it on anyone else and you will feel much better. Will keep an eye on what happens...

still no news from police!

I now know which children I child mind for are leaving and which are staying I feel bit more settled as some of the ones I am loosing are really stressful families. One family I am loosing the youngest but was expected as he also attends nursery and is entitled to more free sessions, one family left before all this happened as mum had personal problems the other was really hard work and the parents never worked together let alone with me so for the small amount of money I will loose I will also loose loads of stress. I now have 2 full timers and 3 full time vacancies as opposed to weird hours here and there that nobody could hope to fill

LM1 - GREAT NEWS! I'll send that striped jumpsuit and shackles back then

Stay positive, you know you are innocent. The police know you are too. Keep the thread updated as and when you get news.

Good about the work situation too. Get yourself sorted.

Take care x