Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

or more am I being stupid?

176 replies

stressedatnetball · 24/03/2010 06:06

I am in a nasty situation at the moment whereby I have found myself arrested and I am currently on bail for an accusation of fraud by position because I paid for my old netball teams affiliation on my credit card and then when peoples cheques for their contribution were paid into netball teams bank account I took back money to pay off my credit card which was agreed as a team this is how it would work but one malicious woman has told the police she did not agree etc etc so as treasurer i have now been framed. I have not slept for last 10 days or so whilst all this is being investigated as even though I have done nothing wrong I feel unsettled.

I am a childminder. On monday I lost my full timer as her mum left college, Yesterday I had a lot of stress as the parents often bring sick children to me e.g. sickness & diarrhoea anyway yesterday I felt enough was enough as two children came in like that and the mother lied to me so I gave notice to all my under 5's as I can't afford to pay my assistant anymore and I just felt it was more stress but have I been stupid whilst so much else is going on in my life?

OP posts:
LesbianMummy1 · 29/03/2010 22:41

yes sadly it's still going on I have seen gp twice and have another 2 appointments soon have also told police 3 times how desperate this has made me feel and how i can't function. The pc's aren't in til 3pm tomorrow so not sure what will happen before I get there I hope it will be thrown out before 18:15 when I will have to leave home

BelleDeChocolateFluffyBunny · 29/03/2010 22:46

Is there someone who can go with you as some support?

LesbianMummy1 · 29/03/2010 22:47

solicitor will meet me there I don't know if anybody else can come too this is problem it not something I ever been through before so I don't know how it all works

brassband · 29/03/2010 22:47

I tell you what,after this you'll know who your real friends are.
I am surprised the doctors haven't given you anything to calm you down a bit.Could you try another GP ?

LesbianMummy1 · 29/03/2010 22:49

have seen two different gp's first thought that dealing with police issue first would be beneficial second was concerned about me starting meds as if they chose the wrong ones they could make things worse as side effects could exasperate things

BelleDeChocolateFluffyBunny · 29/03/2010 22:57

I know what the GP means, my mum was prescribed diazepam, she takes it at night but leaves her off her face. I switch off when things get too much, I'm there but not really if you see what I mean. I just go with the flow of things and hope it will all turn out OK. If I lived near you I would come and hold your hand, I'm sure people here will be thinking of you tomorrow though.

LesbianMummy1 · 29/03/2010 23:03

thank you all for your words of kindness I will post updates as and when I can tomorrow I am hoping I will either not have to attend or if I do I will be released quite quickly I am however aware I could be kept there for up to 72 hours if that happens I don't know what I would do just hoping everybody is right and all this will be thrown out by cps before I have to attend

BelleDeChocolateFluffyBunny · 29/03/2010 23:11

Please do post. I know we all have times when it feels like things are so shite we can't take any more, it always gets better though and we grow stronger by going through this. She is a really nasty woman, I find that people like this always get what they deserve, karma will give her a lesson she'll never forget.

I really do wish you all the best.

LesbianMummy1 · 29/03/2010 23:13

thank you

LesbianMummy1 · 30/03/2010 07:13

feeling pretty crap today and this huge overwhelming sense of fear knowing today could change everything as I know it

MrsVidic · 30/03/2010 07:47

Take a deep breath, you know you're innocent. What time is your appointment?

violetqueen · 30/03/2010 08:34

So wish I could be there with you .
There's no way they're going to hold you for 72 hours !
Have you got the strength to phone police ,ask if the fact this other woman is not there is going to cause a delay ?
Do you have to wait until 18.30 to go into police station ?
We're all thinking of you ,sending postive vibes .
This time tomorrow ,it will be over .

pearlym · 30/03/2010 08:42

Jesus, poor you. Get a lawyer you trust and feel comfortable with, part of lawyer's role is to guide adn assist etc which should include reassuracne where possible.

LesbianMummy1 · 30/03/2010 09:32

have just phoned solicitor they emailed police station yesterday but got no response so doing same again today trying to find out if i need to attend and if so what for if not will have to wait til 18:30 and hope for best

violetqueen · 30/03/2010 09:44

Well done .
Hope soicitor gets reply - maybe solicitor should phone ,not email ?
PS Bear in mind advice about not accepting a caution ,it will seem like easiest way out .
But isn't ,and is same as being charged and found guilty .And will leave you with a record.
If it does come to it - and it's only likely to come to that because police have started paperwork and this is easiest way for them to conclude it ,go to court .

violetqueen · 30/03/2010 09:47

PPS and the caution will always be there ,eating away at you ,you'd regret not persisting with your innocence and putting that to the court .
Who probably wouldn't want to proceed anyway ,given what you've said.

brightspark2 · 30/03/2010 09:53

LesbianMummy are you OK? Thinking of you, hope it got sorted yesterday.

LesbianMummy1 · 30/03/2010 09:59

is today and i am petrified

LesbianMummy1 · 30/03/2010 12:10

solicitor just phoned they gonna re bail me tonight but I have asked a solicitor to be there too as I don't trust the police after the way they behaved last time. I am gonna give solicitor copies of all my paper work and then they have it on file too. They told me to try not to worry and that bail will probably be for another 6 - 8 weeks. They do not think I will be charged and even if I return for further interviews they have said I have so much evidence on my side to try not to worry they also said it's not a very serious crime even if things don't go my way.

Dp has told me I need to find a coping strategy as I can't go on like this indefinitely she is going to come with me tonight as well to give me moral support. I can see where she is coming from as myself, our house and even now the kids are falling apart as I have just stopped functioning I not sure what to do about work at all but gonna try and think things out for next week

Jackstini · 30/03/2010 12:20

Wishing you luck for tonight LM, glad dp will be there with you.
What a nightmare this woman is - she should be ashamed of herself for causing you so much grief for no reason.

cocolepew · 30/03/2010 12:30

LM1 I didn't know you'd started this thread (I replied to your earlier one) I'm sorry this is being dragged out. Stay strong and always use your solicitor, hope it works out.

LoveBeingAMummy · 30/03/2010 12:34

LM, just want to add my best wishes for tonight, at least you kinda know what to expect. They are bprobably only doing bail again cause of the evil cow being ill. ONce they speak to her and talk about the evidence you gave them I've not doubt this will be over for you.

thumbwitch · 30/03/2010 13:05

LM1 - here's hoping real justice is served for once and this is thrown out immediately, ending your stress. I doubt you'd want to but you could always sue the bitch for defamation of character afterwards. Hopefully the police will "do" her for wasting police time and bringing false charges.

BelleDeChocolateFluffyBunny · 30/03/2010 13:26

LM, it still looks like they are going through it all. Are they waiting for the evil b*tch to get back? Thumb's right, she should be arrested for wasting their time.

It's good that you have a friendly face going with you.

Mouseface · 30/03/2010 13:39

God LM1, been following this thread. I can't believe how much this person has affected your world. I bet she hasn't the faintest idea what she has done to you and your family!!

I really hope all goes well for you tonight and I'm sure you won't be charged as you have a whole heap of evidence to back your story up, what does she have other than too much time on her hands???

What utter nonsense on her part and a waste of police resources. Good luck xx