To expect that at 32 I was past all the someone waiting for me at the gates at 3 o clock to batter me....well it would seem not!!

[ElizabethWakefield]

There was an incident at DD's school on Monday, a game went wrong and a boy ended up wrapping a skipping rope around a girl's throat, outcome was the girl got quite badly hurt and it was fairly serious.

Now the story i have heard from DD and the story that has come from the school are very different.

So, today i am sitting in work and i get a phone call from the school, warning me that through some kind of crossed wires the mum of the girl has been informed that my DD was in some way involved in the whole incident, and she is now "on the war path" and will, apparently, be waiting for me at 3 o clock. I mean in what kind of bizarre world is that a normal conversation to have with your child's school!

The mum is not someone you would ever want to be on the wrong side of and apparently there is nothing the school can do!

Really, I am 32...a reasonable person and I don't fight!!

Sigh... might have to ditch my shiney ballet pumps for some steel toe capped boots on the way home!

Sorry for coming back with the boring update I should have just lied shouldn't I? Gory details of how we fought to the death!

Anyway, I've still not actually seen her, there could be a more exciting update tomorrow

I do agree that the names should never have been given out, and at the end of the day, the head is never going to say that her staff were incompetent, but she did pretty much say that they were in the wrong and apologised and will speak to the staff, so i really don't think taking it further would achieve anything more, after all no actual harm has been done.

I think i will risk wearing my ballet pumps again tomorrow rather than the steel toecaps, and just take a skipping rope in my bag

LOL no I am not crazy school gate lady..... well I hope not

I would not lower myself to go brawling at the school gates (or anywhere else for that matter) but when this dickhead silly little man and his brother turn up at the school and kick off all you can do is laugh at them.. funny thing was he looked really stupid and was getting madder and madder and going redder and redder, I thought he was going to have a heart attack (I would have laughed at that too).

Parents like him and the mother in the OP really let their kids down by making fools of them self

Can't believe how badly the school acted in all of this- giving out a list of names??

And as for saying that they couldn't do anything about the threats- nonsense. At the very least a quick phone call to the community police officer. My school has had similar stuff on occasion, and we've always been able to get a community officer on the playground at hometime.

EW.... I will bring my car round
Wipe on wipe off wipe on wipe off
Then you can do my windows, just leave my bonsai trees alone

Way to go, Kimi!

When you've got an attitude like this (I know, I have one, too!), it throws off 'Don't fuck with me!' vibes.

Or maybe it's just my fav sweatshirt that I break out just for fuckwits. It's got a picture of a handgun and it reads: Guns don't kill people. People kill people.

I've got the tshirt, too, for summer. Except it reads: Bullets go where they're aimed.

I do think you should call the police as she threatened you. Yes, she now knows she was wrong to threaten you, but presumably still thinks she'd have been justified if your DD had been involved?

EW me and Expat will come to the school with you

Right see you both about 2.50pm tomorrow

Oh, you should see my dad's tshirt collection.

Okay, he lives in Texas, that's true.

But he loves the one I got him, and has had loads of 'Where did you get that?', with a drawing of a tank and the caption: Lighten up, hippy. Tanks are cool!

And his 'Kill 'em all. Let God sort 'em out.'

Have I also mentioned he's a card-carrying member of the NRA, an ex-Army drill sargeant and I've been using firearms responsibly since I was 6?

I come from a place where you just don't get in someone's face and go all ghetto.

That's just so not on.

Oh, talking of aggressive t-shirts, I once saw the most awful one: "Rope, Journalist, Tree. Some assembly required."

EW, I think you're really cool- well done

if it was me I would be shaking too much to type, let alone go and sort it out all calm and collected, like

Lol at expat and the t shirt collections!

I am ridiculously pleased that you think I am cool, SHJ, which probably doesn't really make me that cool!

I think because we have had a run in before, I was less bothered, I was quite scared at that time!

DD had just started school and her birthday is in October, so i thought it would be nice if I had a party and invited the whole class as the kids were still getting to know each other, so I hired a local hall, got a magician and stuff, sent out invites for the nearest Saturday to DD's birthday (which was 2 days after her actual birthday) had no idea it was crazywoman's DD's birthday!

Next morning, crazy woman storms into the playground demanding to know where I was, how dare I arrange something on her dd's birthday, that I was dead, telling people to tell me that she would be having words with me all kinds of crazy madness.

Then she comes up to me after school screaming like a banshee, how dare I, going on and on. Anyway, the outcome was she decided to have a party for her DD on the Sunday, sooooo every single child came to DD's party and only DD went to hers

Although to be honest I think she scared most other parents off. I think she still holds a grudge (nearly 5 years later)

OK in my significant experience with people like this if you go through the school she'll think your daughter did it. Confront her, calmly. Ask her why she thinks your child had something to do with it. Could it possibly be that the boy who really did it has a mum who's aggressive so the mum starting on you doesn't want to front her?
This sort of shit goes on all he time IME. Front her and she won't touch you. Trust me (she says)

I am ridiculously pleased with the mental image I now have of EW ( who in my head is a poshbird) turning up at school to take on crazymother with a mumsnet posse.

It is like Quadrophenia for modern day women or This Is England without the whole racism thing.

C'mon mumsnet....fight fight fight!

I'll come down EW. With my sleeves rolled up and my earrings OUT. And I'm a chav from Tottenham so will help your rep no end

Elizabeth, I've been in a situation where a nutty parent was threatening and abusive to me and like your DDs school's first reaction, school was at a loss as to what to do (then screwed up and covered up but thats a different story).

It was only after I'd had to withdraw my DDs for our safety that I discovered there's a fair bit a school can do and the "victim" must.

The Teachernet website had (hopefully has) detail on this... it includes template warning letters to the aggressive parent, posters to print off and put round school warning of the consequences of aggressive parental action, advice on how school should call the parent in for a formalwarning, legal advice and template forms for reports to the LA. The school is within it's rights to formally withdraw the parent's implicit right to enter school land/premises and to take action for trespass if this request is not met. For your own sake, if you have any more threats you MUST log them with the police.

Will try and find that Teachernet link for you although I hope you won't ever need it.

Here is that Teachernet link, with all the legal info you'll need.

The Children's Legal Centre's solicitor helpline is ace in dealing with this sort of problem too, btw.

heh! heh! at mumsnet posse and Quadrophenia

bagsy me be Lesley Ash

pag - its not so much This Is England as This Is Glasgow.

EW - I'd be writing to GCC about this as well (if you are in the city).

Am about what school it was (being in the city myself) but will be very restrained and not pester.

The school needs to get a complaint though - cos then there is more reason to act on it - I find if you don't complain officially then things get swept under the carpet.

EW - Wear your ballet pumps, and then you can communicate through the medium of dance

oooh! now it's gone all West Side Story

We could bring some of those long ribbon things to dance with!! Yay! And if that doesn't work we could strip gobshite and tie her to a lamppost!! Yay!

We could use skipping ropes