To expect 11 year olds to use the loo properly?

[Alouiseg]

Ds2 has 2 friends for a dreaded sleepover. They are both in year 7 at ds2 new school. They both live fairly close to us, one over the fence and one 2 miles away.

I just went up to check on the state of play and found a lump of poo in the toilet bowl and a lump of poo on the bathroom floor!!!!! I am horrified. I cleaned up then spoke to all 3 boys very strongly. I pointed out that I had cleared up the disgusting mess in the bathroom and if it happens again I will be driving everyone home. I didn't ask for an admission but I am shocked beyond belief. I feel sorry for ds2 who will be mortified that one of his friends did that.

I don't really want anyone here now and wondering what to say to the parents, one of which hasn't even contacted me to confirm that her ds is staying here for the night. So bloody cross.

My beloved MIL once left a 'present' on the bathroom floor. I can only assume that my toilet bowl didn't meet her exacting standards of cleanliness and she was trying to hover

Oops, meant "for us to find".

I cannot fucking believe this. Some people think you shouldn't even say anything if AN ELEVEN YEAR OLD SHITS ON THE FLOOR.

I'm telling the Daily Mail about this...

Alouiseg I agree with mumee my ds went to play with a friend when 6 (the boy's mum is a tad obsessiveIMHO as she popped newspaper all over the kitchen floor the one time I came around with ds we were not in wellies. Her house is sparkling and fair play but I think she finds visitors a little stressy anyway ds had the runs that one evening and had to go to the loo a couple of times and when he came home he was a little stressed and said he had used alot of loo paper at friends house when he had been to the toilet. A few days later he had a classroom spat with his friend and the little boy shouted out "My mam says you can't come round and play again because you left pooey marks on our toilet" I know my ds was mortified as his teacher and other friends heard and he was upset. ds is typical little boy and not a filthy slob accidents happen, my nan did these once yes YUK to clear up but I would not have shamed her. Just move on one day God forbid your ds may have an accident at another house so don't over react. INHO YABU

alouiseg suggest you hold next sllepover in HBlock at Maze Prison in Northern Ireland I believe the dirty protest was dealt with in (equally shocking) strong arm tactics. Your situation pales into insignificance in comparison.Yucky, yes a moratorium on rowdy sleepovers yes, a quiet word to your ds ref;his mates "accident" yes. I am fairly house proud and like a damn clean bathroom but I could not have bawled mates and ds out over this, a quiEter word defo better.Dc's are pretty insecure ref their street cred in yr 7. Softly softly move the turdey would have been my approach.

typos again sleepover andloads other

Quite liking "softly softly move the turdey" ( not sure turdey is spelt with an "e" but couldn't find in the Oxford)
That would have been my path too. Hovering happens.... unseen slippage happens (not to me I hasten to add), it's not the end of the world unless you're the one it happens to... poor kid, this could scar him forever.

Sod the kids, i'm scarred for life for walking into that mess.

Have conducted a straw poll amongst rl friends, all would have done the same as me.

Now i just have to stop the puppy peeing in his bed!

Alouise I would have done as you did. Forget the softly softly approach they're 11 year old boys and I would be absolutely mortified if my ds went to a sleep over and did that. I would expect the parent to have a go and he would get the same when he came home.

My ds was made to feel 1ike high after his little accident and he did NOT shat on ze floor,and I like to consider myself as a house proud touchy feeley possibly about to vote "Tory mum" but I would not want to give them a complex . If it happened every time they came over I would be" merde" as hell but some 11 year old "dropped a doris" by mistake "shit" happens, and speaking as a slightly repressed mum at times how do you know Aloiuseg tht your ds has a full, neat and tidy bowel evacuation at 8;00 am sharp each morning. You may have someone sitting on your sofa who has an accident with a colostomy bag one day how would you deal with that one? If it was the first time with these kids notch it up to experience dont get so "anal" about it.

should have read "1 inch high" above

I would love MrsMargate to get tip of the week for her classic

'Can I just ask everyone to tell their children if they poo and don't hear a splash

GO AND FIND WHERE IT LANDED'

Talk about spitting my coffee on the keyboard

MrsMargate, you're a star

On serious reflection I would have sent for Hercule Poohrot "ee would ave cleared up the little myshitstery dans un instant non"?

Sorry, while I appreciate that leaving a shit in your bathroom was vile, I think bollocking the boys was bloody terrible.

BTW OP, how do you know it was one of your ds's friends who left the poo there?

I think you are being smug as well as cruel, tbh.

I'm with Dolphin and Cat on this one. I think you were cruel beyond belief. It is highly unlikely it was done deliberately and you have probably made any problem there was (if there was one) 100 times worse.

I feel for your son - he must be very embarrassed about your behaviour which was incredibly rude.

Pink, cruelty beyond belief is making your childrens rifle through the bins to get something to eat, or beating them to within an inch of their lives, not giving them a sami-bollocking for finding shit on the floor!

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I just spat IN my coffee after reading "go find where it landed" very

OP I think you're a bit mean though

This thread is exactly why I don't want to remove my shoes when visiting someone's house.

Oh yes, i'm smug and cruel and have standards.

It's pusillanimous twits who forgive all vile behaviour that mean children have no standards these days. it's the thin end of the wedge.

I havn't sent them home for not knowing which knife and fork to use. I made them aware that i had to clean up another persons excrement. I made them aware that if it happened again i would take them home.

BIG DEAL

What you have done, Alouiseg, is give the whole school some ammunition with which to bully the hell out of an 11 yo boy.

I think that's a BIG DEAL.

My ds is not a bully, i would hope that his friends are not either.

11 year olds DO NOT SHIT ON THE FLOOR. IT IS UNACCEPTABLE.

If their lazy parents won't teach them then at least they know not to do it in my house.

Why are you defending the indefensible?

The whole school will not know, just 3, 11 year old boys.

BIG DEAL?!

Your attitude towards this could have really knocked his confidence, scarred him for life, left him vunerable to bullies and taunts.. He's 11 - at that age things like this matter.

Maybe one day, you will lose control of your bowels, leaving shit on the floor.. Just remember this thread as everyone is laughing pointing and judging you.

Horrible, vile woman, hope you are proud of yourself. I would rather pick up shit than ever know you.