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Original poster

To expect 11 year olds to use the loo properly?

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Alouiseg · 06/03/2010 21:47

Ds2 has 2 friends for a dreaded sleepover. They are both in year 7 at ds2 new school. They both live fairly close to us, one over the fence and one 2 miles away.

I just went up to check on the state of play and found a lump of poo in the toilet bowl and a lump of poo on the bathroom floor!!!!! I am horrified. I cleaned up then spoke to all 3 boys very strongly. I pointed out that I had cleared up the disgusting mess in the bathroom and if it happens again I will be driving everyone home. I didn't ask for an admission but I am shocked beyond belief. I feel sorry for ds2 who will be mortified that one of his friends did that.

I don't really want anyone here now and wondering what to say to the parents, one of which hasn't even contacted me to confirm that her ds is staying here for the night. So bloody cross.

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PixieOnaLeaf · 07/03/2010 19:06

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cat64 · 07/03/2010 19:13

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MrsMargate · 07/03/2010 19:17

OR

if you child has such an unfortunate condition, you suggest they check about the place after using a loo, so as not to embarrass themselves?

Because iirc at that age, I would be v careful around the loo when I had my period. Because I didn't want to be embarrassed.

I think this is more a careless kid who should learn to check about the joint after he's been for a poo.

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Morloth · 07/03/2010 19:17

But cat surely by age 11 if you have bowel problems you are aware of it and would have a quick look behind you before leaving the bathroom?

I am truly amazed that anyone thinks it is OK to leave crap on the floor of a bathroom and just leave it (whether their own bathroom or when visiting), after the age of say 3.

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chipmonkey · 07/03/2010 19:19

maybe one of them has a phobia about strange toilets or has been told by his mum not to sit on other peoples toilets and so hovered rather than sat and then didn't notice?
I don't think my lads would do that but they have been known to forget to flush and I would be happy for someone else to tell them off for it because I am blue in the face telling them!

MmeLindt · 07/03/2010 19:20

Maybe the boy stood up too soon and did not notice another wee poo slipped out. Assuming it was a raisin and not a battleship.

It was surely an accident. Yes, pretty disgusting not to clean up but perhaps he did not notice.

The OP needs to clarify how large the offending object was.

compo · 07/03/2010 19:21

In your own words 'ds is mortfied' that one of his friends did that

so by raising it you have caused him to feel like yhat about his friends I wouldn't have said anything tbh

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Alouiseg · 07/03/2010 19:21

How I wish I had taken a photo, it really did have to be seen to be believed.

But I can imagine the wrath that would have rained down on me for violating a piece of poo's privacy.

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MrsMargate · 07/03/2010 19:25

Can I just ask everyone to tell their children if they poo and don't hear a splash

GO AND FIND WHERE IT LANDED

melonian · 07/03/2010 19:26

My DH was once accused by his flatmate of shitting on the floor. It turned out a cat had got in through the back door, and had left a poo in the bathroom. How she thought it was a man-sized poo I do not know.

Bizarre behaviour from whoever did the poo. Why on earth wouldn't they at least try and wipe it up with loo roll? I wouldn't have gone in all guns blazing, but obv. I can see why you are pissed off, OP.

MrsMargate · 07/03/2010 19:27

lol at the poo's privacy

pointydog · 07/03/2010 19:34

If the poo was fairly firm, then it is possible to wipe it, assume it has gone in to the bowl but you have actual;ly flicked it and it has landeed unnoticed - yes, unnoticed - on teh floor.

There's one example. It's hard;y a conundrum of epic proportions.

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Alouiseg · 07/03/2010 19:40

Ffs! It was in the middle of the floor. It was the size of a mouse! The turd that actually managed to get into the bowl was stuck..... Yes stuck to the side of the bowl, it hadn't hit the water. The phantom poo dropper obviously aimed, fired and ran, no doubt pulling up his skiddy pants as he ran without looking back and certainly without washing his hands.

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MmeLindt · 07/03/2010 19:42

I do think we need an answer on the raisin vs battleship question, OP

The judgement of IYABU depends on it.

PixieOnaLeaf · 07/03/2010 19:43

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MmeLindt · 07/03/2010 19:43

XP

a mouse

Hmm.

He really should have noticed a mouse.

Unless it was a very small mouse.

hellzapoppin · 07/03/2010 19:45

My lovely, but somewhat dizzy mate was at a student house party and picked up a piece of hash she saw on the bath mat while having a bit of a wee...

.. it wasn't hash. boak.

pointydog · 07/03/2010 19:47

STicky poo, in a rush, not checking, running off to play. Mouse-size poo on floor.

It is easy enough to imagine.

Many adults get up to much more bizarre behaviour than that. They just get better at covering evidence.

MmeLindt · 07/03/2010 19:48

Is this your DS's friend?

MayorNaze · 07/03/2010 19:48

i'm sorry but i am laughgin so much at this thread and would like to nominate it for classics - never have i heard the rights of poo discussed before

OP - i stand by my prev post but this is now truly hilarious

MayorNaze · 07/03/2010 19:51

did it look like this

MmeLindt · 07/03/2010 19:56

Alouised
next time take the boys here