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to wonder if some ops deliberately misread threads

140 replies

swanandduck · 02/03/2010 11:22

Have seen this several times on here of late. It usually goes something like this:

OP: I was at the supermarket the other day and I saw a little girl (about 6) shove a bag of crisps up her jumper and the mother just laughed and put her own stuff through the checkout. I was really shocked. Am I being unreasonable to think this was wrong and training her child very badly.

Respondent 1: What are you? The Tesco police? I suppose if it had been a tub of hoummus or a box of organic crackers, that would have been okay. YABU.

Respondent 2: YABU. You know nothing about these people. Maybe the mother has had a really really hard life and is living on benefits and suffers from a medical condition. And you grudge her one lousy packet of crisps.

Respondent 3: Actually, I sometimes let my dd eat a bag of crisps. Didn't realise I had to seek approval from all the other shoppers in the store first.

OP: No, no, sorry, maybe I wasn't being clear. It wasn't the crisps I was giving out about, it was the fact that she didn't pay for them.

Respondent 4: How do you know she didn't pay for them? Did you follow her all around the shop? Did you check her receipt before she left. YABU and need to learn to mind your own business.

Respondent 5: You sound like a total snob, not wanting to shop in a store with a chavvy mum who lets her kid eat crisps.

Respondent 6: This is why I hate shopping in supermarkets, with people constantly complaining about other people's children. Maybe I should leave ds at home in future so he doesn't annoy people like you.

Respondent 7: Well, I'm really sorry if children in supermarkets annoy you. Maybe we should only shop in the dead of night so you don't have to see them. I really can't stand these childhaters.

Respondent 6: Well said, Respondent7.

OP (horrified). Whaaat? Where did I say I hate children. I love kids, I have two of my own. This is ridiculous.

Respondent 6: Would you calm down. Who accused you of hating children? We're just pointing out that you need to be a bit more tolerant when using what is, after all, a public place.

Respondent 5: You sound jealous to me. Was the little girl prettier than your dd.

Respondent 4: Actually, I've just checked and this is only your second post and you have had the nerve to actually start a new thread . Are you sure you're not a journalist?

Respondent 3: Well, I've just checked the cupboards and they are bare. I was going to go shopping but I have a dd. Maybe it would be better if we all starved though, in case you're lurking around my local Tesco with your big judgy pants on, deciding what my daughter should and shouldn't eat.

OP: (Feebly) No, no, that's not....(voice trails away).

Respondent 8: Well, I wish other kids eating crisps was all I had to worry about. Try having a MIL who calls around and retiles the bathroom and puts the house up for sale when you've just popped out to post a letter. Honestly, that woman....

OP drops to knees, bangs head off floor and starts to weep quietly.

OP posts:
ShowOfHands · 02/03/2010 16:19

Sorry, I've only read the OP but...

Only read OP poster is told off for only reading OP.

Only read OP poster snaps 'sorry I have children, I don't have time to read all of this blah blah'...

It's Groundhog Day really.

MouthAndTrousers · 02/03/2010 16:21

LOL!

OrmRenewed · 02/03/2010 16:21

Well if that does actually happen what does the OP want to hear? I've always wondered.

StealthPolarBear · 02/03/2010 16:25

they want to hear
" I am totally on your side. In fact i am writing to my MP on your behalf right now, as well as starting 10 other threads to tell your story in slightly different ways"

Don't we all?

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 02/03/2010 16:28

I am in awe and admiration of any thread that gives a poster the opportunity to use the phrase; ".....about something only tenuously related in a chipped potato sort of way...." Sheer genius.

tethersend · 02/03/2010 16:31
OrmRenewed · 02/03/2010 16:31

Hmmm.. I always wonder if they want a little tar-and-feathers (bring-your-own-pitchfork)party. A celebration of communal dislike of 'those who do things differently'. Because usually it's painted in such black and white colours it's hard to credit.

tethersend · 02/03/2010 16:32

What a fantastic witty and inciteful point tethersend, well done.

StealthPolarBear · 02/03/2010 16:32

why does no one ever respond to MY posts?

OrmRenewed · 02/03/2010 16:35

Oh but I did stealth!

StealthPolarBear · 02/03/2010 16:36

oh...they never usually come back on and say that

StayFrosty · 02/03/2010 16:38

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

EggyAllenPoe · 02/03/2010 16:38

or...respondent 25

Yabu if the crisps were worcester sauce flavour.. i lurve worcester sauce flavour, and stealing is very understandable.

YANBu for cheese and onion. yech.

Chipper10 · 02/03/2010 16:54

Brilliant, this is hilarious.

pagwatch · 02/03/2010 17:10

i miss tethersend. whole place has been shit since she left

EggyAllenPoe · 02/03/2010 17:31

respondent 26 -

i whole heartedly agree with the op! eating whilst walking is shocking behaviour, especially junk food like crisps. the woman you saw is evidently a total inadequate parent and should not have been allowed to have kids!

StealthPolarBear · 02/03/2010 17:36

i agree. she should be forcibly sterilised. crisps indeed

WeNeedToLeaveInFiveMinutes · 02/03/2010 17:39

poster 69

Was it a nice jumper?

tethersend · 02/03/2010 17:40

I miss her too, pag.

sasamaxx · 02/03/2010 17:41

Excellent OP - enjoyed that!

JustAnotherManicMummy · 02/03/2010 17:41

OP YABVU. She is probably on benefits and knows no better. Shame on you.

BritFish · 02/03/2010 18:02

love this!

what gets me so annoyed is when someone goes

she could have special needs for all you know you heartless cow.

and then someone else always shares their special needs child thief story and everyone feels really bad for judging.

and now i feel bad for getting annoyed at it!

AnyFucker · 02/03/2010 18:43

funny thread

has anyone mentioned counselling ?

EggyAllenPoe · 02/03/2010 18:51

poster 49 alpha OP- if you though it was wrong why didn't you report it at the time - those crisps get paid for by everyone who shops there you know! its not a victimless crime.

Vinomum · 02/03/2010 19:04

Excellent thread SwanandDuck. My laptop took quite a bashing when this happened to me as an OP recently...