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AIBU?

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to wonder if some ops deliberately misread threads

140 replies

swanandduck · 02/03/2010 11:22

Have seen this several times on here of late. It usually goes something like this:

OP: I was at the supermarket the other day and I saw a little girl (about 6) shove a bag of crisps up her jumper and the mother just laughed and put her own stuff through the checkout. I was really shocked. Am I being unreasonable to think this was wrong and training her child very badly.

Respondent 1: What are you? The Tesco police? I suppose if it had been a tub of hoummus or a box of organic crackers, that would have been okay. YABU.

Respondent 2: YABU. You know nothing about these people. Maybe the mother has had a really really hard life and is living on benefits and suffers from a medical condition. And you grudge her one lousy packet of crisps.

Respondent 3: Actually, I sometimes let my dd eat a bag of crisps. Didn't realise I had to seek approval from all the other shoppers in the store first.

OP: No, no, sorry, maybe I wasn't being clear. It wasn't the crisps I was giving out about, it was the fact that she didn't pay for them.

Respondent 4: How do you know she didn't pay for them? Did you follow her all around the shop? Did you check her receipt before she left. YABU and need to learn to mind your own business.

Respondent 5: You sound like a total snob, not wanting to shop in a store with a chavvy mum who lets her kid eat crisps.

Respondent 6: This is why I hate shopping in supermarkets, with people constantly complaining about other people's children. Maybe I should leave ds at home in future so he doesn't annoy people like you.

Respondent 7: Well, I'm really sorry if children in supermarkets annoy you. Maybe we should only shop in the dead of night so you don't have to see them. I really can't stand these childhaters.

Respondent 6: Well said, Respondent7.

OP (horrified). Whaaat? Where did I say I hate children. I love kids, I have two of my own. This is ridiculous.

Respondent 6: Would you calm down. Who accused you of hating children? We're just pointing out that you need to be a bit more tolerant when using what is, after all, a public place.

Respondent 5: You sound jealous to me. Was the little girl prettier than your dd.

Respondent 4: Actually, I've just checked and this is only your second post and you have had the nerve to actually start a new thread . Are you sure you're not a journalist?

Respondent 3: Well, I've just checked the cupboards and they are bare. I was going to go shopping but I have a dd. Maybe it would be better if we all starved though, in case you're lurking around my local Tesco with your big judgy pants on, deciding what my daughter should and shouldn't eat.

OP: (Feebly) No, no, that's not....(voice trails away).

Respondent 8: Well, I wish other kids eating crisps was all I had to worry about. Try having a MIL who calls around and retiles the bathroom and puts the house up for sale when you've just popped out to post a letter. Honestly, that woman....

OP drops to knees, bangs head off floor and starts to weep quietly.

OP posts:
Heebiejeebie · 02/03/2010 19:51

YABVVU
why didn't you inform SS/HV immediately? It takes a village to raise a non-crisptheiving child, you know. How can you just turn your back like that?

ScreaminEagle · 03/03/2010 00:09

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GingerSling · 03/03/2010 08:14

As a mother,

As a mother, I have just done a little research on the op and she only joined mumsnet last November and of her 876 posts, 749 are directly related to potato-related consumerables.

The modus operandi of the op seems to be to start a controversial thread early in the morning, which provokes the tuberphile which dwells in all of us, then returns at approximately 4 hour intervals to stir the thread up. She may have other, possible violently anti-snack personas; how long, for example, has Gojiveryberry been around?

The more senior amongst us will of course be recalling the great sugarpuff debacle of 1983, when Honeymummy was eventually unveiled as a seven year old boy living in Wandsworth whose mother was a health fanatic until she heard on mn that sugarpuffs were a superfood.

The op's other 127 posts concerned twiglets, and was posted in relationships.

Even in this day and age, let's face it ladies, some kids are still deprived of even the least offensive of junk food. Is it a cry for help from another gifted and talented kid with literally NO EXPERIENCE of additives, and, yes, I make no apology for including msg in that category.

Mark my words, there is more to this than you think.

sasamaxx · 03/03/2010 08:23

lol!

PuzzleRocks · 03/03/2010 08:29

Pricless.

PuzzleRocks · 03/03/2010 08:29

Even priceless.

Gojiveryberry · 03/03/2010 08:37

I am a jungian analyst and I think the op is probably of Irish descent and is unconsciously channelling a collective voice of the celtic damon. And thus, through the act of tranference, the Mumsnet entity becomes the cruel English Master. Nothing that 2 sessions with me per week (£70) for 7 years (ah!, again the number 7. Does it not follow us and guide us?) wouldn't solve.

Gingersling is a fat, trolling slag. Don't feed her.

HerculePoirot · 03/03/2010 08:53

Has anyone agreed with Bran yet?

Dogandbone · 03/03/2010 08:58

Clear case of Munchausen's by Proxy. Why on earth else should op bring up the unrelated story about the crisps and the girl in the supermarket if not to put us off the scent?

I thought twiglets were actually made of potato, but! do you see what the op is doing there? Sending us after yet another red herring up the blind alley of lights snacks.

Cut and dried, in my opinion.

PuzzleRocks · 03/03/2010 09:00

No, but I am a wee bit disappointed that ScottishMummy hasn't come along to remind us all that they are just words on a screen.

StealthPolarBear · 03/03/2010 09:01

hercule, you're popping up everywhere now - are you a name changer? please tell me who you were, from a very HPoirot

Dogandbone · 03/03/2010 09:02

Why were the twiglets in relationship?
That's the vital clue to this.
Ask yourself, under what circumstances would anybody put twiglets in relationships.

StealthPolarBear · 03/03/2010 09:02

lol at tuberphile!

BitOfFun · 03/03/2010 09:03

Oh for fuck's sake- who hasn't judged some chav in a supermarket for wearing pajamas, just because this was an over-sized jumper doesn't make this any different, you know. I've known the OP for years and she comes to all our meet-ups and is a perfectly normal nice mum struggling to do her best, even if she is slightly obsessed by salted snacks. Lay off her, will you. It's like a bloody playground in here sometimes, with all the popular girls backing each other up! Bloody itches, the lot of you.

thatsnotmymonkey · 03/03/2010 09:19

yeah you itches stop being so itchy

ScreaminEagle · 03/03/2010 10:11

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StealthPolarBear · 03/03/2010 10:11

at troll hunter

BitOfFun · 03/03/2010 10:18

This troll-hunting stuff puts so many genuine posters off posting- it's ridiculous. The troll-spotters are ruining mumsnet! So what if somebody isn't who they say they are? I for one don't mind lighting candles for complete strangers' teddy bears

duchesse · 03/03/2010 10:21

hahahaha at OP. Tour de force. and yes, I agree that people sometimes do wade in without reading the OP properly first.

SpringHeeledJack · 03/03/2010 10:23

What BoF said

ScreaminEagle · 03/03/2010 10:28

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swanandduck · 03/03/2010 11:06

Thanks for all your responses. Just to clarify a few important things: the crisps were mature cheddar and spring onion flavour, the little girl's jumper was pink with white stripes (or it could have been a cardigan buttoned up, sorry I didn't check that properly) and the mother's name was Muriel. This might help you all to put things in context when posting your responses.

OP posts:
StealthPolarBear · 03/03/2010 11:09

a cardigan???
You can't do AIBU by stealth like this, it's just a bit off

swanandduck · 03/03/2010 11:15

Oh, and before anyone suspiciously asks how I knew the mother's name and am I making all this up, I heard someone say 'hello Muriel' to her in the frozen food aisle and the checkout girl said 'how are you Muriel' when she was putting the groceries through (minus the mature cheddar and spring onion crisps which were shoved up the pink and white stripey jumper/cardigan).

OP posts:
StealthPolarBear · 03/03/2010 11:16

I think you are obsessing. Is something lacking in your life that this means so much to you?

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