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"a full time mum"

293 replies

DuelingFanjo · 01/03/2010 18:36

said whatsername on Relocationthingy.

Surely you're still a full time mum if you work. You're stull a mum anyway. no?

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5inthebed · 01/03/2010 18:37

I hate that term as well, hated it when I was working. Now I hate the term SAHM.

heQet · 01/03/2010 18:38

Yup.

ShinyAndNew · 01/03/2010 18:38

I work part time and I am full time mum. Even when I am at work I am still a mum

YANBU.

lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 01/03/2010 18:39

no clearly if you work you are only PT mum and therefore, your children dont belong to you when your working

posieparker · 01/03/2010 18:40

How do you suppose you describe a person that stays at home with their children and doesn't work?

Surely if you work you're a parent, not a full time parent?

DuelingFanjo · 01/03/2010 18:40

so anyone who works and has kids works part time even when they work a 40 hour a week job?

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fernie3 · 01/03/2010 18:41

I hate it too especially when people put it in the occupation part of a form (my maternity notes for example). Although I cant think of a better term SAHM makes me sound as though I never go out and sit in the house peering through the curtains all day! I also wouldn't like to have unemployed all over things even if thats technically what I am!

GhoulsAreLoud · 01/03/2010 18:41

I wonder what that makes most working fathers then?

"Hi, I'm Phil, I'm a car mechanic and part-time Dad"

sarah293 · 01/03/2010 18:41

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posieparker · 01/03/2010 18:41

'eh?

posieparker · 01/03/2010 18:42

It's a term to distinguish unemployed people from people that have chosen to look after their children and give up work.

ChasingSquirrels · 01/03/2010 18:42

it is a phrase
I am a single parent and my kids are with their dad 2 nights a week, am I any less a parent because of that, no of course not, in the same way that I am no less a parent when I am at work.
I don't even think "full time mum" said about someone else has any reflection nor indication about ME.

knowmyrights · 01/03/2010 18:43

Sorry but I use this all the time - much better than the dreary SAHM or housewife. Come up with a better term for me and I'll drop it!

JeremyVile · 01/03/2010 18:43

It doesn't really matter, does it?
You do what you do and thats that.
What do you call yourself?

posieparker · 01/03/2010 18:43

But people who work don't need to say 'full time parent' because when people ask what they do they can say 'I am a nurse/doctor/mechanic'.

Goblinchild · 01/03/2010 18:45

I'm a full time parent and I work full time.
Or, I'm a working parent.
Whatever you call it, someone is going to get sniffy. To say you are a full time parent when you are not in paid employment might well make others feel they are parenting less well because they are doing both.

Sproggle · 01/03/2010 18:46

Unemployed is tehnically correct though. Certainly more accurate than full-time Mum, anyway.

posieparker · 01/03/2010 18:46

People have to justify their lack of employment with 'full time parent'...people who work don't.

Goblinchild · 01/03/2010 18:46

'But people who work don't need to say 'full time parent' because when people ask what they do they can say 'I am a nurse/doctor/mechanic'.

Why not just say 'I'm a parent?'

JeremyVile · 01/03/2010 18:47

Exactly Posie.
When someone calls themselves a full time mum, you'd have to assume they are making some kind of ethical statement to take offence, surely?
I just assume it means they are not in paid employment due to being at home with their kids.

posieparker · 01/03/2010 18:47

Sproggle....

knowmyrights · 01/03/2010 18:47

Tried that one Goblinchild - it was followed up by "yes, but what do you DO?"

Morloth · 01/03/2010 18:48

I prefer "Lady of Leisure".

This thread is going to go mental, we need a popcorn icon.

posieparker · 01/03/2010 18:48

Because the question is usually 'what do you do?' meaning what job?

JeremyVile · 01/03/2010 18:48

Goblinchild - if someone asks you "so what do you do then?" You would say "I'm a parent"....even though you are, for example, a dentist...?

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