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Original poster

to wonder why some people want their tiny babies to grow up so quickly?

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GlendaTheGrizzlyPiggy · 26/02/2010 14:17

DPs friend and his partner have a 10 week old DD.

They (proudly) informed us that they have weaned their DD and that she sleeps in her own room at night .

I had to bite my tongue very hard when they told us this and even harder when I saw them spooning baby rice into a tiny screaming babys mouth. The poor thing just kept pushing the food out, they kept spooning it back in.

I just can't get my head around why they want their baby to grow up so quickly. DS is almost 6 months and it's already gone far too quickly for me. Why you'd want to speed up the process is beyond me.

So AIBU for feeling sad (and very slightly judgey) that they arn't making the most of their DDs babyhood?

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mrsboogie · 26/02/2010 14:20

eeeek feeding solids to a 10 week old? you're kidding!

BitOfFun · 26/02/2010 14:22

I don't believe you, tbh.

People want tiny babies to grow up because they keep them awake and cry a lot.

trixymalixy · 26/02/2010 14:22

YANBU!! My DD is 6 months (only just started weaning btw!) and the time is just whooshing past.

I have friends whose DC is just a few weeks older than my DD and they were talking about buying more baby equipment to encourage him to move and posted a video on facebook of him balanced against a babywalker.

I did tell them that it's much easier when babies are immobile, but they seem determined to get him to crawl or walk as early as possible!

BariatricObama · 26/02/2010 14:23

wot bof said. tiny babies are dull, they should come aged 3

Coldhands · 26/02/2010 14:23

Weaning at 10 weeks? Really?

Remotew · 26/02/2010 14:28

I was the norm to introduce baby rice at 3 months. That was 16 years ago, but hey they slept through the night. Good job as it was also the norm to go back to work when baby was 10 weeks or loose your job.

I didn't put DD in her own room until she was 1 though.

Remotew · 26/02/2010 14:29

oops 'lose' not loose.

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GlendaTheGrizzlyPiggy · 26/02/2010 14:30

Yes weaning at 10 weeks honestly. I have neither the time nor the imagination to lie. They say she was constantly hungry so have started giving her baby rice and mashed up rusk instead of increasing her milk

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mrsjuan · 26/02/2010 14:37

Plenty of people in the real world (outside the mumsnet bubble) wean very early and put their babies in their own room early

Aside from that though I think it's easy to wish babyhood away, especially if you don't have a particularly contented tiny baby. I certainly looked forward to the magical 3 months when everyone told me that DD would stop crying so much (she did ) and looked forward to weaning her (at 6 months) because tbh it was getting a bit samey and boring by then .

Now she is 9 months, crawling and starting to pull herself up on the furniture and, yes, I'm encouraging her because she enjoys it and it's exciting seeing her learn new things.

I do look back fondly at the snuggly early weeks but I know I do so with rose tinted specs and I much prefer this older baby phase.

TrillianAstra · 26/02/2010 14:41

So they can make the parents a cup of tea.

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GlendaTheGrizzlyPiggy · 26/02/2010 14:41

trixymalixy were going to start introducing DS to food sometime next week. Are you trying BLW? I've been reading about it and I'm going to give it a try. It sounds good as I can't be arsed haven't got the time to purée everything

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TrillianAstra · 26/02/2010 14:42
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GlendaTheGrizzlyPiggy · 26/02/2010 14:43

my iPhone doesn't seem to want to spell puree.

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tummytime · 26/02/2010 14:46

I want my enormous tiny baby to grow up slightly more quickly. At 4.5 months, I'm looking forward to weaning in the probably vain hope that he might sleep for longer than 45 minutes at a time day or night...

I don't particularly like tiny babies - they're far to delicate and helpless. Now a nice chunky toddler is much more fun.

Doesn't excuse weaning at 10weeks though but that isn't what you asked.

Jamieandhismagictorch · 26/02/2010 14:51

What BOF said, and others agreed with. Tiny babies are kinda annoying, and boring

l39 · 26/02/2010 16:00

I want my DD5 to reach 12 months quickly because I'm paranoid about SIDS. Apart from that I love her being so young.

Add me to the list who are horrified at weaning at 10 weeks. My oldest is 18 and we went with the HV's urging to give her rice at 4 months but even then they weren't saying 10 weeks. These people are stupid.

yummyyummyyummy · 26/02/2010 16:18

my eldest is 15 and the advice then was to wean at 12 weeks or 12lbs whichever came first
when i was a baby my mum was advised to start weaning at 3 weeks and got a lot of aggro from the HV for holding off til I was 3m !

izzybiz · 26/02/2010 16:24

Weaning at 12lbs! My ds2 would have been about 3-4 weeks old!

He was 10lb 10oz at birth and I had strangers telling me he would need weaning by 6 weeks he was weaned at 6 months!

LittleMrsHappy · 26/02/2010 16:26

My ds is 7 months old and I cannot wait until he is crawling (is that wishing his life away) I need my arms back and cannot do bouncy bouncy ALL the time as he chunk of a laddy as well (22Ib 10oz) and I cant wait until he entertains himself just for a little while to "explore" his surroundings, and so I can eat in peace

AmazingBouncingFerret · 26/02/2010 16:35

I dont think its wishing their life away, I think its just enjoying seeing your baby reach different milestones. But my God weaning at 10 weeks?? My DD is 9 weeks old, she's still newborn!! As for going into own room I may have to do that very soon, I dont want to its just that she's getting too big for her moses basket and a cot wont fit in our room.

Mishy1234 · 26/02/2010 16:39

I loved the tiny baby phase, but did find myself getting anxious if DS wasn't doing the same things my friend's babies were doing. He was the first to crawl/walk, but the slowest to take to solids. I did BLW and it did cause me quite a lot of anxiety that he wasn't eating enough.

Agree also that if your newborn is very unsettled it's natural to want them to grow out of that phase.

Weaning at 10 weeks is quite early though.

MathsMadMummy · 26/02/2010 16:39

I do enjoy my baby's milestones too, but I can't believe how quickly he's growing up. It's more of an issue this time, as we're not having any more.

With both babies I fell into the trap of thinking they'd be newborns forever!

lifeas3plus1 · 26/02/2010 16:56

Weaning at 10 weeks is beyond ridiculous but at least by 4 months mummy can be happy that her little baby is eating a whole packet of skips to himself.

(and yes, this is really a recent status update from a FB "friend")

My Ds is 11 months now and I miss the tiny little baby stage. It just goes by so fast I don't know why anyone would want to push it along faster.

ruddynorah · 26/02/2010 16:59

this is believable.

i went to a weaning talk a couple of weeks ago. all the babies were between 11 and 13 weeks old. two were already weaning.

BadGardener · 26/02/2010 17:07

I want them to stay where you put them, but talk.

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