to wonder why some people want their tiny babies to grow up so quickly?

[GlendaTheGrizzlyPiggy]

DPs friend and his partner have a 10 week old DD.

They (proudly) informed us that they have weaned their DD and that she sleeps in her own room at night .

I had to bite my tongue very hard when they told us this and even harder when I saw them spooning baby rice into a tiny screaming babys mouth. The poor thing just kept pushing the food out, they kept spooning it back in.

I just can't get my head around why they want their baby to grow up so quickly. DS is almost 6 months and it's already gone far too quickly for me. Why you'd want to speed up the process is beyond me.

So AIBU for feeling sad (and very slightly judgey) that they arn't making the most of their DDs babyhood?

the going to their own room thing isn't such a big thing I found that both the babies and I slept better if we were in seperate rooms.

However weaning at 10 weeks I can't believe they're still so tiny!

glenda we're not doing pure BLW as DD had been sleeping really badly after sleeping 6-7 hour stretches at night and practically bit my hand off with the stuff i had spoonfed her, but she is getting whatever we're having as well for her to practice eating herself.

She is thankfully sleeping a bit better again so she clearly needed some food!!

I hated the newborn stage and was glad when it was over. I couldn't stand the sleepless nights and the boredom and the complete lack of interaction.

Weaning at 10 weeks is awful, but own room is fair enough.

Is it bad to put babies in their own room then? [clueless childless woman]

I guess some people do want them to grow up quicker bc little babies are hard work

My MIL weaned hers at 6 weeks. At that time she was told she had a hungry baby who needed solids.

Pah, 10 weeks is nothing, I'll raise you by 2 weeks...

My mum put me on solids at 8 weeks old on the advice of her HV . Apparently I had liquidized Christmas dinner - I would have been 8 1/2 weeks old at that point

According to my mum it never did me any harm - wonder why I have IBS and other many and varied food issues...

I was weaned this early because I was a hungry baby and mum couldn't be bothered to keep up with my milk demands.

Dammit smallorange - xposts and you pipped me by 2 weeks. My early weaning was all in vain

Mil feels bad about it now. And two out of her four have IBS.

YAB a bit U

Not everyone loves tiny babies. I HATED having a tiny baby - hard work, a lot of worry, no sleep etc etc (but then I did have PND). I loved having a 6 month old and having a toddler is a lot of fun.

I don't know about early weaning but each to their own and the advice used to be 3 months...

Well my Mum loves to tell me that I was being fed potatoes and mince (proper mince mind not gravy) at 6 weeks old but to make it even better I was born at 34 weeks!

I think OP is right there is a rush and this "thing" were the more advanced a baby the earlier they are weaned.

I have friends who were weaning at 8 weeks and putting their babies in their own rooms from day 1. They think I am mad with my cosleeping until one, BFing, weaning at 6 months malarky.

YANBU to be shocked by someone weaning at 10wks. I'm amazed the health visitors haven't pulled them up on it. We were told to give more milk, and then to move onto the milk for 'hungry babies' (had to ff for medical reasons). We started at around... five months? And then I had guilt complexes about giving DS the baby rice, wondering if it was too early.

OTOH, I do kinda prefer him now that he's grown up a little. Tiny babies are lovely; cute, cuddly, and they don't smell so bad when they poop uless ill, but it's far more rewarding when they start responding to you. The other day, I went with DS to my Dad's house, and when we got back, DS went up to my DP and proceeded to tell him all about it in his half-intelligible babyspeak. Now that's what I knew I wanted when I became a parent.

Aw, my 15-year-old mouthy teenager was the most adorable toddler... Take each day as it comes and ENJOY. It's gonna get a whole lot worse (sorry)!

I was given my first solids at 2 weeks!!!!

Both my dds started at 6mo.

I absoltely love the tiny baby stage and wouldn't want to wish it away at all.

I thought DD would be in our bedroom until at least 6 months, maybe even a year.

Problem is, DH's and dog's snoring would keep waking her up, so it was fairer to all to put her in her own room at 8 weeks.

Didn't wean till 6 months though. Thought it was Mumsnet Law to not wean before 6 months.

Hang on a minute - have these parents expressed a desire to do their child active harm? Have they beaten or abandoned their child or allowed ravening wolves to be her bedfellows?

Errrrrr no - they've introduced solids earlier than recommended and their baby is sleeping in another room. I wouldn't do either of these things at this point personally but that's my choice for me and mine. These parents are entitled to parent as they wish as long as they are not abusing their child and early weaning may cause long term harm but there is no law or prohibition against it. It's unwise within the context of the information available to us but that's all. REsearch shows us that a baby may be safer sleeping in a parent's room but there's no absolute in any of this and I really think some of you need to back off a bit with the instant shock horror. Op - do these parents love and cherish their child? Yes? Then back off and keep your opinions about making the most of parenthood confined to the children you are entitled to apply them to - your own!

Dd went her in room quite early - can't remember exactly, may 8 weeks. She slept well, well at least once settled after but kept me awake all night "snuffling". It worked much better with the baby monitor. Not weaned til 6 months though.

I don't like their wibbly wobbly heads and their general dullness. They are more fun as they get older, until they peak and then spiral down into grunting and painting their room's black.

My favourite stage is the toddler stage but I have enjoyed all the bits with DS as they have come really. I like seeing newborns for the smallness and cuteness factor, but any older than that and I'm not really interested in other people's babies until they get to toddlerhood, then they are fun!

Is that why you need to sift flour then?

spit, my 5 yo does grunting and a face like all the time. I dread her teenage years already.

Oops wrong thread, sorry!

Northernlurker you have a point. They love their DD and are only trying to do what's best. I should probably take off my judgey pants, they could do with a wash . I posted purely because I was a little surprised they chose to wean so early instead of upping her feeds or trying hungry baby formula first. I just felt a little sad as their DD clearly doesn't enjoy being fed.

Thank you for all your opinions. If you can't be told YABU on mumsnet then where can you eh