To now dislike my dd's class teacher after finding her on MN?

[absinthe]

She wasn't very complementary about the little dah-lings in her care and I am silently fuming now. I completely randomly feel upon her user name and looked at her profile on the off chance that it might be her and there she was - pics n' all. She does not post a lot but one of her posts would put her in line for at least a formal warning if not more.

Can't say who she is but it is definitely her - without a shadow of a doubt.

I have never had MN cross over into RL before. Is it wrong of me to glance at her generally boring posts, just because it's her?

Maybe I could drop subtle hints about the fact that I use MN too just to see her reaction.

In any case, I think it was a bit sloppy and feel she should have taken more care to make herself anonymous.

Yes I have OP, I havent however posted threads on a forum that they would use designed to make them feel frightened.

I am [shock} at this. As a teacher I have to sign a contract saying I will not do anything to bring the school into disrepute in my own time. But that is up to the governers or head to enforce not a bored snooping parent.

if you found something you did not like would you take your amazon printout into schoo?

Oh bloody hell.

What she is like as a person outside of the classroom is none of your bloody business.

Actually, I get being nosy (have done a fair bit of internet snooping myself ) that's human nature, but I would never try to justify my snooping. Snooping is snooping and not exactly behaviour to be proud of.

By implying that it was perfectly alright to do so - that it was in fact the Right Thing To Do As A Parent - simply because she teaches your child is what has pissed me off about your post.

Jesus. You don't own her you know. She can read what she likes.

Absinthe, you really don't get it, do you?

Googling in private is one thing, coming on a public internet forum revealing your shocking findings is childish and spiteful- there is simply no way we can take away a good impression of you from this thread.

You didn't have to tell us about your googling. Simple as.

I am so tempted to fill my wishlist with unsuitable books.

So you have googled this teacher as well? Do you sit outside he house dunking donuts in coffee while watching curtain movements?

Right, I have every teacher on MN up in arms against me now! That was not what I was hoping to achieve by starting this thread, but serves me right for posting on AIBU. I am a bit puzzled that I revealed some flaw in the Amazon service which a few of you obviously benefitted from knowing about but carried on vilifying me anyway.

I cannot see how I have threatened her at all. As I said, I am going to draw a line under the matter and not do anything about it. I am certainly not going to offer her sincere advice about protecting her identity online (she is clever enough to work that out for herself).

Regardless of whether I am subjecting myself to further critisism, I wonder how you would feel if your dcs teacher had ordered/listed 5 pages of books exclusively concerned with the application of voodoo - is it really something to be laughed off?

I have just googled myself and firstly the little buggers have used my nickname rather than my formal name. But I have been called awesome so that is not so bad!

But will she be sharing her shocking findings at coffee mornings? or asking the vicar for advice about something disturbing she's found?
Whispering and dropping little hints...

I have just read this whole thread as it's a subject close to my heart at the moment but in a slightly different way - not involving MN but the dreaded Facebook.

I am pleased to see that it is pretty much a consensus that it is unprofessional but I agree that absinthe hasn't exactly endeared herself to those reading this I don't think Googling teachers is a good thing. They don't give up all rights to privacy when they choose that career!

I don't think I like teachers

I am actually ridiculously upset by this thread (though in fairness am pregnant and have had a bad day day).

I teach about two hundred odd kids currently. I'm realising from this that the odds are that at least one of their parents are as intrustive and nosy and self-righteous as you and judges it perfectly acceptable to snoop on my private life.

That makes me feel really paranoid and vulnerable and shitty.

So thanks for that, absinthe.

I thought it was a faith school- perhaps they are studying global religions .
I think you've lost the plot op- thought she's been ordering erotica or luminous butt plugs.

I work in a school. I was a teacher, now a TA. I have also worked in prison ed. Have been on MN for years and have always been easily identifyable and have no intentions of becoming anonymous either.

I ahve posted about work. I have complained about difficlut classes/times. Infact MN helped me when I went through a very bad patch which resulted in me leaving teaching - mainly due to one bad class and also other management issues.

I never mentioned any child/children by name, nor put identifying info down. I never metioned the school name. I would never write anything damning nor specifics. However, if someone looked hard enough they could put various bits of info together and identify such info.

Everyone has general whinges about their job and that, IMO, is fine and perfectly acceptable.

To identify others is not acceptable.
To insult others is not acceptable.
To be damning of work is not acceptable - and dangerous workwise too.

But I wouldn't hide behind anonymous names just because a pupil's mum might see me on here.

'I wonder how you would feel if your dcs teacher had ordered/listed 5 pages of books exclusively concerned with the application of voodoo - is it really something to be laughed off?'

Not unless I was worried that there was a little doll somewhere with my face on it. And my toenail clippings

absinthe, I am not actually a school teacher. I don't have to be to find your behavior petty and spiteful.

for your wishlist:

www.green-witch.com

essential for keeping track on the people in whose care your dd spends several hours a day

By absinthe Thu 25-Feb-10 20:27:12
I don't think I like teachers

Yeah? I don't think I like you.

Oh, i'm sorry notanumber - I did not mean to cause such a stir. I don't actually see the big deal in all this. We are talking about publicly available information. And the offence caused appears to be the fact that I shared it on MN (thus moving the net curtain as opposed to looking through it for a fuzzy view). If that is stalking then how would you define 'sleuth'?

Anyone who feels the need to see herself as a sleuth keeping an eye on her children's teachers is just going to come across as odd to most of us. Sorry, but that's just how it is. Most of us don't think of ourselves as part of the Famous Five. Net curtain twitching just really odd behaviour to most of us.

Well I've now changed my Amazon setting to private ( I didn't even realise it was public!) in case one of the parents at my school realises I have a penchant for Yr 6 spelling tests and comprehension exercises. Oh, the shame

I am not a teacher and I think YABU. She should be able to vent on mn. Does she not have the right to have a bad day and ask for help? Is she not worthy of support? I though mn was about women helping each other- you must obviously think very differently.

Anyway she is only a public sector worker, you pay her wages, she should have no right to complain about a bad day

I like you absinthe, you're good entertainment.
I've also closed that Amazon loophole that I didn't know about. And you have confirmed my suspicions that there are a lot of nosy and judgmental people out there, so my desire to be sneaky, secretive and lie on the internet is a good thing.

But there was just no good reason for you to Google her, absinthe!
Or check up on what she likes to read.

Is she a good teacher?
Have you ever had an issue with her before hunting her down spotting her on MN?
I don't see why what she likes to read has anything to do with her teaching ability?
I highly doubt she's planning on converting the good little girls in her class into voodoo satan worshippers!

absinthe - I think you yourself need to start beng more careful what you post. If this teacher does read this - and chances are she will - then she may well work out who YOU are. You have admitting to googling her, checking her book wish lists, have called her boring, have accused her (possible with good evidence, but we don't know for sure) of breaching school policies, and various other things. I am sure that SHE may feel that it is you who is now doing much worse and it is she who needs to be concerned about the level of snooping you are doing, and she may well complain about your behaviour.