To now dislike my dd's class teacher after finding her on MN?

[absinthe]

She wasn't very complementary about the little dah-lings in her care and I am silently fuming now. I completely randomly feel upon her user name and looked at her profile on the off chance that it might be her and there she was - pics n' all. She does not post a lot but one of her posts would put her in line for at least a formal warning if not more.

Can't say who she is but it is definitely her - without a shadow of a doubt.

I have never had MN cross over into RL before. Is it wrong of me to glance at her generally boring posts, just because it's her?

Maybe I could drop subtle hints about the fact that I use MN too just to see her reaction.

In any case, I think it was a bit sloppy and feel she should have taken more care to make herself anonymous.

Why on earth would you search someone's amazon wishlist?

OMG - this is worst nightmare..I hope it is not me (I don't think I have moaned about any of my class on here...) and I don't have an amazon wishlist ... and I don't think any of the children in my care are little shits - I love them all.

Its public information - I needed more evidence to support my judgement of her based on what she posted on MN. And I was on Amazon at the time, updating my own wishlist.

Please don't make me out to be some kind of deranged obsessive type - I'm not like that, honestly (and my Amazon wish list would reveal that)

Personally, I would expect to find that the person in whose care my dcs spend 6 hours a day at school is fairly similar to the person in whose care they spend the rest of the time. That is, an adult who does have other sides to his/her character than merely the ones that affect the los.

I would feel absolutely no need to drop hints about their Amazon wishlist on a public internet forum, unless the wishlist contained the paedophile's handbook or something.

As a parent, I'd have to ban myself from Mumsnet if a blameless character was a sine qua non for guiding and influencing young children.

"They can be some of the sneakiest, spiteful and arrogant little madams."

I suppose they could be, but these ones are all lovely (my dd included, obviously). DD has grown up with them and they spend a lot of time together outside school.

I am not making you out to be a deranged obsessive type you are doing that yourself.

I agreed with you about the teacher moaning about the class when she was identifiable but you should not be snooping on her. That is not normal.

My wishlist is full of Bibles and books about God! Is that OK?

If you wanted to make up your own mind- why was it so essential to tell us about her wretched wishlist?

Oh HOW fascinating

will go read thread now

Go into edit and change the settings goblinchild. It seems to go to letting anyone who searches see your list as a default if you dont stop it. It also invites you to add your name and address so everyone can view that too. That was a useful discovery..

Well, I'm delighted that I now know to order any future Interesting Literature from a more anonymous source, I had no idea that the world could look up what I was dreaming about being able to afford.
Fortunately it's either school stuff or terrifyingly clever and erudite tomes that just make me look very clever. And interesting. Or not.

Cory - I really don't see her identifying herself in all this. I don't think she will ever read this discussion. No, the wishlist did not contain such a handbook, but it did exclusively contain pages and pages of guide books to do with erm ... how should I put it, the Dark Arts

lol @ dark arts

It seems that teachers are also PEOPLE.

who knew?

YABU and unbelievably spiteful!

I seem to remember ordering the Malleus Maleficarum off the internet...

pmsl at dark arts.

Shock horror she may even be having sex, she may be doing it on a day that she teaches.

Does she have a book on her list called "Dealing with stalkers"?

Was it a Harry Potter book?
My respect for op has diminished during this thread- if you want to snoop, don't come on here and tell everyone.
Nasty.

Cory, I have two shelves of the stuff, comes of being both a historian and a folklorist. Having a copy of MM just makes you a friend of Matthew Hopkins.
As an aside, thanks leavingonajetplane. I've edited my settings and now my passions are again a secret.

I think you are being very unreasonable OP, in fact i'm pretty disgusted. As far as I can tell from what you are saying she hasnt identfied any child in particular and yet here you are grossly invading her privacy-and checking on her amazon wishlist-WTF(!!!!!!!!!!!!!!).

She is as entitled as anyone else here to her private thoughts and space. Who the hell do you think you are?

Teachers are human beings-of COURSE they are going to have bad days-probably more than a lot of us. Do you really expect her to be some sort of Mary Poppins figure?

As long as she is teaching your child well and not harming your child or anyone elses-leave her the fuck alone.

I cant belive so many people have suggested that you make comments about Mumsnet to her or within earshot. That's scummy

Who'd be a teacher eh? Continually subject to the malicious judgement of those who feel entitled to do so because you are compelled to teach their brat how to read.

Not unreasonable to dislike her-that's your business-very unreasonable to snoop on her and threaten her in this way.

oh YABU now. She is really rather boring - if I were a stalker, she would be at the bottom of my list. Are you really all saying that you have never googled an acquaintance without getting them to sign some kind of consent form first. Have you even googled yourselves or would that be a form of stalking too? If I were being spiteful, I would tell her, she would feel uneasy about it and probably think less of me for it.

I also have a fairly good collection, Goblin. Again for professional reasons. Matthew Hopkins and I aren't really all that chummy

It's like shopping at the supermarket, meeting a parents and having them peer into your trolley to have a good nosy poke about how much you're drinking, if you've got your period and whether you are stuffing creamcakes.
I'm beginning to wonder what the daughter is like now!