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To now dislike my dd's class teacher after finding her on MN?

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absinthe · 25/02/2010 14:48

She wasn't very complementary about the little dah-lings in her care and I am silently fuming now. I completely randomly feel upon her user name and looked at her profile on the off chance that it might be her and there she was - pics n' all. She does not post a lot but one of her posts would put her in line for at least a formal warning if not more.

Can't say who she is but it is definitely her - without a shadow of a doubt.

I have never had MN cross over into RL before. Is it wrong of me to glance at her generally boring posts, just because it's her?

Maybe I could drop subtle hints about the fact that I use MN too just to see her reaction.

In any case, I think it was a bit sloppy and feel she should have taken more care to make herself anonymous.

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absinthe · 25/02/2010 20:40

I bet there is a fair bit of hypocrisy underpinning this backlash. Are you saying that you have never googled ex partners or ex colleagues just to gain some idea of what they are doing? Friends Reunited and Facebook are based on the idea that we will trawl through lists of old acquaintances and add them as friends. It is well known that only a tiny percentage of friends lists are actively used; however, we get links to wall info and photos from almost everyone else.

Ok, I shouldn't have snooped but I did so I am not as morally upright as you all - but I am kind of pleased about that

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Goblinchild · 25/02/2010 20:40

I'm going to put the info about Amazon on the staffroom noticeboard tomorrow, so that everyone will be aware of the danger.

Hulababy · 25/02/2010 20:40

Just because information is publically available it doesn;t make it apprpriate to go snooping that info about individuals and that go on about it on here!

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absinthe · 25/02/2010 20:42

"Are you saying that you have never googled ex partners or ex colleagues just to gain some idea of what they are doing? " Bit of side-stepping going on, non?

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Lizzylou · 25/02/2010 20:43

NO!
Now everyone will know I have been hunting for certain Ben 10 figures and French books for my boys

Absinthe, you started off getting support (rightly), you now look extremely unhinged.

NeedLawadvice · 25/02/2010 20:44

WTF you are an internet stalker if your not only going around reading her old post but also looking up her amazon wishlist and commenting on it. what kind of normal person does that and what business of your is it what she reads!

YABVU to start a negative thread about someone, whilst not only refusing to give information in said posts but expecting others to agree with you and then not giving her the right to reply knowing full we that other poster may well be able to work out who she is on MN and real life.

I hope you manage to contain your snooping to online otherwise your going to end up being cautioned for harassment.

Oh and I've also been stalked in real life, that doesn't give me the right to use it as a smoke screen for stalker like behavior.

Goblinchild · 25/02/2010 20:45

Ah, you may claim the Ben10 stuff isn't for you, but we know better.

cory · 25/02/2010 20:46

getting bored now, absinthe. you still don't understand that it's your spiteful remarks on this thread and your pride in yourself as a sleuth that make you stand out as...well...a bit unusual.

I repeat: we did not need to learn that about the voodoo.

google away to your heart's content- but don't shout the results all over the playground

if a Mum came up to me tomorrow outside the school gates and whispered excitedly that she had googled the headteacher's book list, I'd back away very quickly from an obvious loon- quite regardless of how much I might actually dislike the headteacher

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victoriascrumptious · 25/02/2010 20:48

Erm, I'm not a teacher Absinthe. I called your behaviour threatening because that is how she is going to feel:- threatened. Anyone with an ounce of common sense would realise that

Lizzylou · 25/02/2010 20:50

Goblinchild, you got me!
Just don't tell DS1's teacher

There is also a handblender in there.....

What manner of evil could I perform with such an appliance????

StrawberriesAndCherries · 25/02/2010 20:52

Well my little boy is still in shock that his teacher was seen by us shopping in Tesco

How on earth these teachers got out of school when they obviously live there and go into a little box at the end of the school day is something I must find out

(actually I remember the utter shock when i was about 6/7 and saw a teacher out of school in Marks and Spencer of all places and my mum spoke to her - anyone else remember that feeling??!)

Goblinchild · 25/02/2010 20:53

'There is also a handblender in there.....

What manner of evil could I perform with such an appliance???? '

Well, I find my cauldron too big for every day spells, I often use a mixing bowl and blender. It's a bugger trying to chant at that speed though.

LetThereBeRock · 25/02/2010 20:54

Voodoo is as legitimate a religion as any more mainstream religion you care to name. It wouldn't concern me at all as it's rather different from the way it's portrayed in films.

There's absolutely no need to look up her Amazon wishlist, and no benefit in doing so.

LynetteScavo · 25/02/2010 20:54

absinthe - you've had a pretty hard time on this thread.

I too would be upset if I found out my DC's teacher said horrible things about the pupils - although I don't know exactly what she said, obviously.

Your mistake was to share your findings with us, so it seems.

Why shouldn't you look at a posters profile and previous posts?

I'm always convinced people will "discover" me, which is why I stay relatively anonymous.

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absinthe · 25/02/2010 20:56

"Are you saying that you have never googled ex partners or ex colleagues just to gain some idea of what they are doing? " Nobody wants to answer do they? I hate the way some of you are relishing asserting your moral superiority over someone honest enough to admit to a couple of minutes of following uo on info that they were really not seeking out in the first place.

Wtf re: getting a caution for that. I was stalked in RL and I can assure you that it takes a lot more than a few mouse clicks to earn one of those.

She is not a particularly good teacher but I quite like her. She knows my name so she can look me up any time. This can hardly be described as outing her or throwing her to the dogs. It merely serves as a wake-up call to the MN village so has a salutory impact if anything.

I'm done with this thread and disgusted by the vitriol

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victoriascrumptious · 25/02/2010 20:57

You're not as anonymous as you might think Lynette. Your that bird from desperate housewives.

skihorse · 25/02/2010 20:58

absinthe The vitriol is purely yours. I have never googled an ex-colleague. I have googled an ex-parter who shares a name with a minister - I can never find anything juicy.

hippacrocadillypig · 25/02/2010 20:58

Can somebody explain to me how you access somebody elses Amazon wish list??

wastwinsetandpearls · 25/02/2010 20:59

I have never googled ex partners or colleaugues, and if for some reason UI felt the need to I hope it would not be to gather dirt.

My mum once googled an ex boyfriend so she could tell me he was now a well known surgeon and I married the wrong man.

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absinthe · 25/02/2010 20:59

Thanks Lynette - not all prima donna's on here, then

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victoriascrumptious · 25/02/2010 20:59

I answered you about a zillon posts back Absinthe. Yes most people snoop, no most people do not think they have a right to make posts about their snooping on a website which they know their victim reads. That's harassment.

LOL@ you being disgusted. Get a grip, you kicked it off by posting here in AIBU.

MrsVidic · 25/02/2010 21:01

Lynette we also all know you're up the duff.

with twins

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absinthe · 25/02/2010 21:02

"My mum once googled an ex boyfriend so she could tell me he was now a well known surgeon and I married the wrong man" - gosh! get dh down to the constabulary now to see if he can arrange for her to be retrospectively cautioned! How grossly insulting to him and destabilising for your marriage

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Lizzylou · 25/02/2010 21:02

Absinthe, you had a very valid point with your OP, with your later posts you began to look deranged frankly.
If thinking that is Prima Donna ish, so be it, but at least I am not madly looking people up on Amazon!