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Original poster

To now dislike my dd's class teacher after finding her on MN?

464 replies

absinthe · 25/02/2010 14:48

She wasn't very complementary about the little dah-lings in her care and I am silently fuming now. I completely randomly feel upon her user name and looked at her profile on the off chance that it might be her and there she was - pics n' all. She does not post a lot but one of her posts would put her in line for at least a formal warning if not more.

Can't say who she is but it is definitely her - without a shadow of a doubt.

I have never had MN cross over into RL before. Is it wrong of me to glance at her generally boring posts, just because it's her?

Maybe I could drop subtle hints about the fact that I use MN too just to see her reaction.

In any case, I think it was a bit sloppy and feel she should have taken more care to make herself anonymous.

OP posts:
probono · 27/02/2010 15:55

ps absinthe totally agree with you about the Bonsoir thing. Can't tell whether dimwittedness or malice not to get the irony there.

probono · 27/02/2010 15:57

Why don't you just call absinthe a liar and complete the set, rainbow?

More discretion has been used by the op in not quoting the comments than the teacher herself bothered with.

I think absinthe even explained it earlier up as not wanting to identify the person more closely.

Get a grip.

rainbowinthesky · 27/02/2010 15:59

Oh right, so we're just meant to agree that she is being reasonable to dislike her teacher then based on err nothing really. All very odd.

Thanks for telling me to get a grip though just because I don't share your opinion. Nice.

Original poster
absinthe · 27/02/2010 15:59

Thanks probono - but if anyone would rise above that, it would be Bonsoir.
Well summed up claig.

OP posts:
probono · 27/02/2010 16:02

It's not because we disagree, it's because you don't understand what's been said, haven't grasped the principle of self contradiction or possibly haven't read the thread before commenting.

rainbowinthesky · 27/02/2010 16:04

Oh, okay, probono. Or perhaps I'm allowed to have a different opinion to you.

Original poster
absinthe · 27/02/2010 16:04
  • These people shape our childrens' minds and future? Home ed is starting to sound like a good idea
OP posts:
rainbowinthesky · 27/02/2010 16:05

This thread has gone mad.

animula · 27/02/2010 16:08

Education/schools/teachers ones always do ... .

Goblinchild · 27/02/2010 16:09

I think probono is talking to me rainbow.

probono · 27/02/2010 16:09

Did you understand what I wrote, Rainbow?

LittleMrsHappy · 27/02/2010 16:10

Ok for goodness sake, the OP was wrong to get more "dirt" on the teacher!

The teacher was "wrong" to say X,Y,Z about her pupils, on a Internet forum!

I dont know which is worse tbh, at least the teacher done it with no malice intended, even if the OP hasn't "outed" her!

The both of them are bad as each other, it's ALL pathetic!

Teachers are human, and make mistakes, they can do as they wish concerning their Private and personal life, without a snotty mother trying to dig up dirt on her!

The teacher was wrong in saying whatever it was she said on the forum, but so were you to go into her private life and invading her privacy and judging her solely based on a book about voodoo, which incidentally we dont even know if it was for her personal usage!

Its ALL pathetic, and one word GROW UP! immature digs about any professionalism is pathetic hen unfounded!

Goblinchild · 27/02/2010 16:10

I think home ed could be the answer too absinthe.

rainbowinthesky · 27/02/2010 16:11

Yes, I did but I disagree. I hope that's okay.

Goblinchild · 27/02/2010 16:12

Maybe it was both of us she was talking to?

primarymum · 27/02/2010 16:50

I recommend home ed to several of the parents whose children I teach {grin}

oldernowiser · 27/02/2010 16:58

LittleMrsHappy
'and one word GROW UP' Hope you're not a maths teacher

LittleMrsHappy · 27/02/2010 17:00

lol, no, i am not, im not in the teaching profession,

but sentiment still stands

RustyBear · 27/02/2010 17:06

Just a thought absinthe, but if your DC are both at the same school, the teacher in question may actually know, or be able to make a good guess, at who you are by now...

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 27/02/2010 17:15

Absinthe, home ed by all means I expect the teachers at your DC's school will breathe a mighty sigh of relief.

Original poster
absinthe · 27/02/2010 19:24

Rustry - they are not at the same school - I did say I am fully intending to change my username because of this and I have no qualms about doing so

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daisy5678 · 27/02/2010 20:44

Thanks to Goblinchild and the others (who weren't all teachers and didn't seem to me to be spectacularly foul-mouthed) who have some common sense on here and allowed that teachers are allowed to be human, should be careful about getting themselves identified in case a psycho parent gets offended and that it's hard to be Pollyanna 24/7 even if you are a teacher.

I notice the parents pretending that every child is sugar and spice and all things nice ignored my post about being assaulted by a pupil. Every teacher has got the tales about a violent or out-of-control situation (not a SN one) which shows that our jobs are 'real' (whatever the fuck that means) and aren't actually about long holidays and early finishes. And I would love to see some of the parents who regularly slag off teachers on this forum try the job, I really would. I would bet a lot of money that the words 'little shit' or something similar would eventually crop up at some point. We are allowed to get frustrated at time because, as I already pointed out, we are people first and foremost.

I personally think that my personal life is far more respectable than a lot of my pupils' parents' lives. And I wouldn't dream of stalking them. Or, in fact, reporting them/ intimidating them. I would keep my nose out unless it was something causing or potentially causing harm to the child. Perhaps parents could extend the same courtesy to teachers.

bernadetteoflourdes · 27/02/2010 22:51

Another teacher doing it for the vocation, loving the money she earns (oops sorry,)I meant to say loving the kids she teaches etc etc. I work with pre-schoolers and toddlers aI do not get paid much but I dont care i love the kids and they make me feel young, if I go in to Nursery a little down I honestly come out with a smile on my face. Young kids are warm, funny and affectionate and whilst I appreciate that a class of 30 15 yr olds is a tough call the under 10's are a delight she needs a career change and I would not want a harpy like her guiding my ds and dd's

mrspoppins · 27/02/2010 22:54

I would post a message and say that you are a parent in her school and although she has every right to be on this site and debate like the rest of us, making herself anonymous wouldn't put her in an awkward position so a change of anme and profile should happen to ease everyone's unease.

Sorry is I am repeating...too many posts to read!!

Mumcentreplus · 27/02/2010 23:01

Harpy based on what?..up to now we dont even know what the woman said...