To now dislike my dd's class teacher after finding her on MN?

[absinthe]

She wasn't very complementary about the little dah-lings in her care and I am silently fuming now. I completely randomly feel upon her user name and looked at her profile on the off chance that it might be her and there she was - pics n' all. She does not post a lot but one of her posts would put her in line for at least a formal warning if not more.

Can't say who she is but it is definitely her - without a shadow of a doubt.

I have never had MN cross over into RL before. Is it wrong of me to glance at her generally boring posts, just because it's her?

Maybe I could drop subtle hints about the fact that I use MN too just to see her reaction.

In any case, I think it was a bit sloppy and feel she should have taken more care to make herself anonymous.

Haha, yes that's me...paddling in a world of self-righteous malice whilst others discuss the merits of checking up on one's child's teacher on Amazon to ensure their reading list meets some imaginary standard.

Oh, and then I'll look up the definition of a 'real job' as well as I obiously got something wrong somewhere along the line.

i would read the thread again instead MrsC .. you might have a clearer idea of what's been going on

'Crikey. Some of you teachers seriously need real jobs for a bit. '

Ah I was waiting for that one!

Doesn't bother me in the slightest to hear that, because it's usually out of the mouth of someone who doesn't have a career!

I'm not feeling malicious at all, just wondering how far the professional behaviour 24/7 should go.
Mumsnet could work with the GTC.
No teacher is to be seen/heard/read expressing a negative view of the job, children or colleagues.
No teacher is to drink more than two units of alcohol a day.
No teacher is ever to buy embarrassing products such as condoms, vooddo literature or vibrators.
No teacher can smoke.
No teacher is to be permitted to fondle her partner in public.

Suggestions?

Anyway, I've just downed a bottle of absinthe, stuck a few pins in my voodoo doll representing evil parents, and am off out now. Let's hope I don't bump into any parents checking out what I'm up to on my weekend

This thread was hilarious!

I agree with Bonsoir too, but not nec for the sake of one's profession: it's more an issue of one's self respect. I would have thought an effort to maintain some composure and restraint would be an well-regarded instinct but plainly not.

Oh I've read the whole thing, but I do just wander off of my own tangent at times...trials of being an English teacher and former (bullshitter) marketeer I suspect!

Internet forums are so hard to judge sometimes, and it is so easy to over play our feelings on something.

In honesty, I have met some truly heinous teachers who perpetuate all the myths...but by the same token I have the pleasure to work with a group of people who really do give everything they can to the children in their care. I hope to be considered one of the latter in years to come obviously! And it is the 'tarring with same brush' that winds my neck out sometimes.

a well regarded instinct

I don't think you know what you're angry about.

Violet, you sound hysterical.

She's just downed a bottle of absinthe, what do you expect?

Not if you're in primary though, confuses the children who would wonder why you were inserting random maths symbols into your conversations.

Well, we keep going round in circles and returning to the 'touch me not' delusion of some posters.

"I'm merely pointing out that professional behaviour is exactly that, being able to present yourself as organised, calm, patient, enthusiastic, intelligent and all the rest whilst doing your job."

Goblin, you have really shot yourself in the foot there since this clearly alludes to your double standards, (not to mention general bolshiness and unpleasantness). Most working people need to adhere to the above, from the shop floor to the boardroom. If teachers really want us to treat them as fascist dictators immune from criticisism, then they would definitely have to do better than that by extending their good conduct to outside school hours so we could start seeing them as noble gurus rather than opportunists who may hate our children though rather like the long, paid holidays and generous pensions.

ah the op hates teachers

that is it.

Oh, and I thought we'd gotten all light-hearted and pleasant. Sulk.

My conduct outside school is very good, I have medals for it.
I don't find it difficult to behave in any sphere of my life, don't drink, smoke, swear, sleep around, take illegal drugs or neglect my children.
I'm a responsible person.
I've found this thread very entertaining, but somehow you think I'm being malicious, bolshie and unpleasant, And here I thought we were just having a difference of opinion.

I would also add that the teacher in question is a courteous, positive person whom I would choose every time over some of the hysterical, foul-mouthed teachers on this thread (voodoo or not). Really puts things into perspective.

Secondly, I am astounded that it is OK to resort to bringing up unrelated old threads by Anna re her partner's ex and career choices in order to personally attack her, given the flack you gave me for accessing a wish list. If I deserve a caution for what I did, then that should warrant a custodial sentence.

I've just looked at my wish list and I've got a JLS CD on it! Why??

I hope I have no stalkerish parents searching for me. I'd much rather they found voodoo books and judged me on that..

To assume that a teacher hates children because
'She wasn't very complementary about the little dah-lings in her care'
is as daft as assuming that every parent that posts something horrible about their own child hates them. SS could have a field day!

"No they don't, but I would object to having every element of my private life being considered open to all and sundry."

great example of utter rubbish

no one has suggested this, no one has threatened this, everyone would object to this, yet somehow it's contributory evidence that the op is wrong, possibly deranged, hates teachers etc etc blah blah blah

If we discovered that our boss had been making derogatory remarks about us on a public forum, we would be shocked and disturbed. The fact that we would never have expected this would probably make us more curious about what made the boss tick. If we knew that the boss bought books and possibly posted wanted books adverts in a public newsagent's window, we would probably have a look at the advert to gain more of an insight into the bosses personality. If we discovered that all of the books were about black magic, it would set a few alarm bells ringing. At first glance we wouldn't assume that the boss was studying for a PhD in the black arts. Discovering this fact would make us more worried about the boss.

I think absinthe was just gossiping on this forum, and only mentioned the amazon list to back up her claims about the teacher's behaviour being a bit worrying. She has not outed the teacher and has taught us all a valuable lesson about maintaining our privacy online, particularly if we are likely to make derogatory statements.

All's well that end's well. Nobody has been outed and the teacher has learnt a valuable lesson. The teacher may well have gone on to make more damaging statements in the future which could have jeopardised her job, but now this will not happen.

The thing is we dont even know if any derogatory comments were made in teh first place.