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parenting pet peeves...

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bubbleymummy · 22/02/2010 22:15

I know I'm going to get flamed for this but I just don't care - I have to vent somewhere after a weekend of smiling and nodding and keeping my mouth shut!

Here is a list of 'parenting' traits that I absolutely hate!

Giving babies sugar - dessert/pudding/biscuits/cake - they do not need it - they are not missing anything and they are the reason that your child is already overweight!

Shovelling food into tiny babies, scooping it up and shoving it back in when the baby's tongue pushes it out while discussing the baby's excema, constipation, tummy upsets etc

Giving toddlers fizzy drinks such as Coke and letting them run madly around before screaming at them and complaining about how badly behaved they are.

Giving children calpol because it's been a 'long day' or because they have a slight sniffle or even a hint of a temperature or just because 'they like the taste'!.

controlled crying / cry it out - I hate this at any stage but I DESPISE it in children under 6 months. I don't care if your child has been sleeping through since 5 weeks - it is bloody cruel!

and breathe....

Ok feel free to flame me or alternatively add your own pet peeves!

Disclaimer : I by no means consider myself to be a perfect parent and I could fill several threads with my own parenting flaws.

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LeQueen · 27/02/2010 10:00

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bubbleymummy · 27/02/2010 10:00

lequeen, she shouldnt have even been subjected to sleep training at that age never mind CIO AND when people do start using CC at 6 months they are not recommended to leave them for very long intervals because at that age they just can't cope with that type of stress.

The reason your friends' baby wasn't responding to the other sleep training method was because she was TOO YOUNG that is why they aren't recommended until 6 months. The logical/kind thing would have been to wait a few months and try them again to see if they had better success not just resorting to ignoring her until she gave up - very sad. She could have made herself sick and been lying in her own vomit for all they knew - very dangerous.

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catastrojb · 27/02/2010 10:00

oh well, going to have shower now. Try not to spill blood on the carpet.

FWIW, I can't bear to hear any baby crying on their own, much less my own. Ties my uterus in knots (and makes me leak, but that's another story).

catastrojb · 27/02/2010 10:01

my boobs leak, that is - I wasn't over-sharing .

Am off now. Play nicely, y'all.

ThePFJ · 27/02/2010 10:03

Ok so now you two are just repeating yourselves. It's obvious you don't agree. Most grown up's I know who don't agree drop it. If you want a thread where people compete for the LAST WORD then start a new one perhaps?!!!

Here, you can both slug it out over my bread bin full of mini-eggs!!!!

ThePFJ · 27/02/2010 10:03

(laughs at Catastrojb and waves)

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bubbleymummy · 27/02/2010 10:03

not answering my question lequeen? i'm making the point that no parent would sacrifice their child for their principles so your argument was stupid and proves nothing.

Plenty of medical friends actually yes lots of lively discussions and debates. The reason I belive them is because I've read the research that supports my argument against CIO - where's the research that supports your argument? There isn't any? I wonder why...

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ThePFJ · 27/02/2010 10:05

(eats popcorn and watches)

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bubbleymummy · 27/02/2010 10:05

oh castro - I've been there !

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GibbonInARibbon · 27/02/2010 10:13

At the risk of being accused of persecuting lequeen I am going to take a wild guess that neither side is going to change their views. Not even a debate happening tbh, just both sides repeating their firmly held beliefs (myself included)

Some agree with leaving babies to cry, I and other don't.

ThePFJ · 27/02/2010 10:15

I have been trying to imagine a Gibbon wearing a ribbon......

mamsnet · 27/02/2010 10:17

Very new to all this so don-t know the protocol.. but seriously.. can we not just draw a line under this one???

Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease!!

GibbonInARibbon · 27/02/2010 10:17

Click on my profile and imagine no more

ThePFJ · 27/02/2010 10:19

I love it!!! I totally WASN'T expecting that!

PMSL

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bubbleymummy · 27/02/2010 10:20

True Gibbon. THink I was at least hoping she would understand the difference between CIO and CC but I'm not sure that even sank in given the 'but they turned the music down' comment.

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BubblesomeBella · 27/02/2010 10:39

Lequeen - I only allow dd (2) water and milk but she has a regular bedtime and never smacks - shocking isn't it

DitaVonCheese · 27/02/2010 10:41

ThePFJ Sorry, not a Torchwood fan!

I socialise with literally dozens of doctors, and they're just as prone to personal opinions and mistakes as the rest of us. Like someone said above, they're not bloody gods.

catastrojb · 27/02/2010 10:55

Gibbon

pmsl!!!

tallyhoho · 27/02/2010 11:00

mamsnet, I'm in a similar position. There are always going to be contradictory professional schools of thought to support each poster. Even if you don't socialise with loads of professional paediatricians (sp?)/GP's we are all capable of research. FWIW I used CC post six months and it worked for us but personally (and I am not going to post any supporting links, as I just did what was instinctive) I would not use CC pre six months as personally I would not have been comfortable with it.

I am always open to having my mind changed on a particular issue but it is clear that the two posters who disagree with one another will never persuade each other to change their individual opinion.

cory · 27/02/2010 11:56

I am coming to the conclusion that my pet parenting peeve is any parent who says "this worked for my child, so it's got to work for yours". Doesn't matter if they're co-sleeping or sleep training or whatever: anyone who assumes there is a one-size-fits-all solution has lost my ear. And that goes for paediatricians too.

mamsnet · 27/02/2010 11:57

AMEN to that, Cory

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bubbleymummy · 27/02/2010 12:05

Cory, I agree that there isn't a one fits all solution to every problem BUT if someone chooses a particular route they should at least look at the guidelines and not do something that would put their child at risk. In the situation we were arguing about discussing the parents were using a method that isn't recommended at all for a child never mind one that was too young to be sleep trained anyway. Even though it 'worked' in that the child gave up stopped crying eventually it shouldn't be thought of as a solution...

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mamsnet · 27/02/2010 12:09

Go put on the kettle bubbley, there's a good girl..

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 27/02/2010 12:13

Regardless of the adults concerned, surely it wasn't good for the baby to be so sleep-deprived?

Which was going to do more harm to the baby - three nights of CIO (with less than an hour of crying/grumbling/muttering) or months of sleep deprivation, with all the negative impacts that would have on development etc?

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 27/02/2010 12:14

And I still believe that, given the choice, bubbleymummy would rather her child was treated by a fresh and alert A&E doctor than a hugely sleep-deprived one - though there's no way she will admit that.