parenting pet peeves...

[bubbleymummy]

I know I'm going to get flamed for this but I just don't care - I have to vent somewhere after a weekend of smiling and nodding and keeping my mouth shut!

Here is a list of 'parenting' traits that I absolutely hate!

Giving babies sugar - dessert/pudding/biscuits/cake - they do not need it - they are not missing anything and they are the reason that your child is already overweight!

Shovelling food into tiny babies, scooping it up and shoving it back in when the baby's tongue pushes it out while discussing the baby's excema, constipation, tummy upsets etc

Giving toddlers fizzy drinks such as Coke and letting them run madly around before screaming at them and complaining about how badly behaved they are.

Giving children calpol because it's been a 'long day' or because they have a slight sniffle or even a hint of a temperature or just because 'they like the taste'!.

controlled crying / cry it out - I hate this at any stage but I DESPISE it in children under 6 months. I don't care if your child has been sleeping through since 5 weeks - it is bloody cruel!

and breathe....

Ok feel free to flame me or alternatively add your own pet peeves!

Disclaimer : I by no means consider myself to be a perfect parent and I could fill several threads with my own parenting flaws.

Crikey, LeQueen and Bubbles have issues. This thread seems to have gone a bit personal, so I don't think I'll stick around.... Enjoy your silly fight ladies... we are all mummies here, surely we can just drop it?

Ok lequeen is my above post invisible? Didn't slink off at all just had stuff to catch up on last night after looking after sick ds and dh yesterday. Is that a good enough excuse for you?

Also, I did make the point several times that I wouldn't care who treated my child ( see murderer comment) so that does answer your question. I would let ANYONE regardless of the sleep methods they used on their child (spells it out for lequeen because she's clearly a bit dim) treat my son if there was no alternative. Not sure how this loses me credibility because in the ridiculous situation you describe I wouldn't exactly be questioning the doctor on his sleep training methods anyway AND when it comes to our children's lives who would be thinking about their beliefs on such matters?

I wonder how many vegetarians would let themselves or their child starve to death if there was only non-veggie food available

Does this in any way mean that I excuse your doctor friend? NO because the situation that you described didn't exist! Do I still disagree with neglecting you child ( using CIO not even cc on a 5 month old for those who are only coming in) to get them to sleep. YES.

Does lequeen still think she has won something? Probably. I'm being to think you're a big silly really and I can't believe I wasted time replying toyou yesterday.

I seemed to have killed the thread a bit here. Don't get me wrong I actually love a good argument as long as you don't completely kill eachother. I would also like to point out that there is a FULL MOON picture at the top of the page and we all know what that means?? Ok, I'll shut up now

ooh PFJ - i'd never noticed the moon before!

Click on it... its funny.

No lequeen. Just thought mumsnet had intelligent parents who were aware that there's a difference between cc and CIO out for a start and when if is 'safe' to use. Not sure what kind of doctors you have in your area but j haven't come across one who would recommend CIO ESP under 6 months

Lequeen I'm curious about what priciples you have that you stick to regardless of whether it would risk your childs life. Does anyone have any?

Also, interesting to read that your friends were trying other forms of sleep training before the CIO incident. Maybe the reason it wasn't working was because she was TOO YOUNG

love it!

As a teacher I've noticed that things go weird in school on a full moon too.....humans are funny beings (as evidenced by this most entertaining thread!)

FWIW, my pet parenting peeves? (and I agree with the poster much much earlier who said that abuse etc can be taken as read, and they don't count as parents)...

I saw a tiny tiny (few weeks?) baby "sitting" in a toddler-sized outward facing pushchair looking neither safe nor comfortable. Nasty.

Helicopter parents or those (opposite?) who allow their 4-yr-old to hit my (then) 8-month old because he wanted her toy .

Babies facing out in baby bjorns. sorry sorry - I know loads do it, but I just don't like it because it's not good for the baby physically or mentally.

People who criticise my choices (hypocritical? Moi?! But I don't criticise parents personally to their face. Get it a bit myself though).

LeQueen I have a few friends in the medical profession and I know that none of them would advocate letting a baby of 5 months being left to cry for 20 mins.

As bubble as tried to explain on more than one occasion this is what she had an issue with. Quite right too. Not even going to check on a small baby who has no idea why mummy and daddy are not coming when they are crying out for them is dreadful imo.

For the record I am not an AP/co sleeping type but cannot contemplate leaving a small baby to cry itself to sleep.

catastrojb - I am constantly going home and grumbling to myself about the mother at toddler group who allows her little girl who is much older than my toddler to go around snatching toys and running giant trucks into peoples babies, including my LO without saying a WORD. Makes me so fricking angry. I guess I am too polite to have it out with her, but she doesn't seem to care when I and the other mummies say a short stern NO to her daughter!!??! That just seems weak to me.

Thank you gibbon!

Could have done with more like you yesterday! . I was beginning to think I was the only one on mumsnet!

Ok, I am not taking sides here at all, but I'd never let a little baby cry itself to sleep. I just can't do it, if the doctor told me not to go to the baby I'd still go. I am a softy.

Castro. I also don't like outward facing babies in carriers/slings. They just look so dangley and unsupported. I read an interesting article on the didymos website about why it's not recommended - wriiten by a german paediatrician iirc

A lot of people would have no idea this thread had turned to sleep training so you may have felt like a lone voice.

Don't worry, you are not the only one

bubbles I do also agree about CIO and training very young babies. Horrible. I would not use CC myself (am unapologetically one of those hated earth mother types that slings/cloth bums { for whoever it was hates that phrase!} /co-sleeps due to necessity/bf/BLW ) but I can see why people would when bubs gets older. So I see both POV....and have splinters in my bum from sitting on the fence.

You're not a softy PFJ

Same here pfj. Don't think that makes us doctors though. We're meant to respond to a crying baby instinctively so we're just followinb our instincts

I read the same article. And love my didy.

catastrojb you are supercool mummy. Have a mini-egg.

In fact EVERYONE have minieggs!!!!

Love ThePFJ xxx

I take it the scary part of the argument has finished then. Maybe another round from my mini-egg cannon to make sure???

Oops pfb. I meant softies not doctors. Silly me!