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8 boys and wanting a girl

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icarriedawatermelon2 · 02/02/2010 19:10

AIBU to think that this programme was very unlikely to ever be called 8 girls and wanting a boy poor boys

The comments on the website about the programme are so sad

www.channel4.com/programmes/8-boys-and-wanting-a-girl

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jellybeans · 04/02/2010 20:15

It must be hard for people who can't have any kids to watch this show and have much sympathy.

NotAnOtter · 04/02/2010 20:46

I do totally believe that there is a 'smuggery' from mums of girls and of course this is FAR from EVERY mum of girls ...

i cannot think of a smug mum of boys for the life of me.

I do think that although folk think-- its old wives tales things do change as the kids get older. I know a lot of gorgeous 18 year old boys who do not conform to the old stereotype of a grunting testosterone addled spotty youth. Boys are allowed to be sensitive and groomed and like clothes and use products..makes a difference

Young children are easier and more socially accepted as girls - without a doubt. After having dc5 ( ds4) someone actually said ' well done - prefer girls but well done' I was desperate for a girl but he is a jOY!

Looking through facebook pages of my kids and their mates I am glad that in this day and age the majority of my dcs are boys

NotAnOtter · 04/02/2010 20:48

i have already had friends texting me about the tv program tonight with 'saw this and thought of you' type comments

just1moreplease · 04/02/2010 21:09

im watching this now, and am fuming already

' i'd liken not being able to haave a girl with not being able to have a child atall'

is she for real??

expatinscotland · 04/02/2010 21:16

Truly, though, often enough, I don't enjoy having a boy.

He's very boisterous and loud and much more exploratory.

expatinscotland · 04/02/2010 21:17

I'm not fuming.

If that's what they want and they're doing some sort of IVF to do it, well, so be it.

There are worse things you can do, IME.

tinierclanger · 04/02/2010 21:19

There are worse things that you can do, but to go on telly and publicise that your existing kids are not good enough for you is pretty crappy.

MrsMorgan · 04/02/2010 21:22

My friend has just been told she will need ivf to concieve. I hope she is not watching this.

I just really don't understand it. I have never minded what sex my child would be.

expatinscotland · 04/02/2010 21:24

They're not saying that, though.

Jajas · 04/02/2010 21:25

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tinierclanger · 04/02/2010 21:26

Well, they are though, aren't they?

expatinscotland · 04/02/2010 21:28

She actually had nine, though. Her first child, a girl, died.

PacificDogwood · 04/02/2010 21:28

I am with tinierclanger: 'tis not the women's strong feelings I take issue with as much as the fact that all their lovely boys have pointed out to them in the most direct way that they are second best .
Like all children none of these kids have asked to be born, never mind born to satisfy some need in their parents.

There are of course much worse things you can do, but to me it is part of a bigger picture: this bizzare modern day belief that we are entitled to What We Want. Seems strangely childish to me...

Oh gawd, how dare she sob????

MillyR · 04/02/2010 21:29

I feel sorry for them. It is very sad.

Lizzylou · 04/02/2010 21:29

I'm sorry, but that is just awful.
NO JOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

oldandknackered · 04/02/2010 21:30

God, this is sick. The stupid woman has just been told her unborn child is a healthy boy... and she cries with disappointment!

Surely a healthy child is what is important. Silly woman.

And what happens if these mums of sons eventually have their dream girl only for their daughter to grow up to be a tomboy who hates ribbons in her hair and would rather roll in the mud with her brothers?

imusthavechocolate · 04/02/2010 21:30

omg, how are her poor boys feeling knowing they are second best
fucking ungrateful bitch

MrsMorgan · 04/02/2010 21:31

I feel for the mum of eight who lost a girl, but I don't understand the others.

I feel quite annoyed with them for being so bothered, because I would love another baby and won't be having one. I already have 3 children, so if I feel annoyed with them then god knows what people who are struggling to have any are thinking.

PacificDogwood · 04/02/2010 21:33

I feel for all of them, but really truly do not understand them.
Poor poor boys! And why are all the husbands so passive about the whole thing??

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icarriedawatermelon2 · 04/02/2010 21:33

Oh gawd! The lady who just found out she is having another boy.....I'm wondering now why she didn't go high tech???? She clearly has MAJOR issues about it

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verytellytubby · 04/02/2010 21:33

I'm finding it really offensive. After finding out at my 12 week scan DD had a serious heart condition, my twin's also had loads of health issues I can't believe this. They should be grateful for healthy children.

I would have loved to have had one scan with good news instead mine were very tramautic and I still haven't completely recovered.

It's a boy not a disability for fuck's sake. I love my boys to bit.

Lizzylou · 04/02/2010 21:33

oldandknackered, I know someone who's very much longed for girl (after 2 boys) is such a Tomboy and more of a handful than the boys ever were....
I also know of a woman who had her 4th boy and all her DH could say was "oh God, we're going to have another one now........." such was her desire for a girl.

hazeyjane · 04/02/2010 21:34

It's odd I am pregnant with dc3, I have 2 dds, and I've lost count of the number of people who have said, 'oh I bet you'd love to have a boy this time' (I really couldn't give a monkeys what I have, as long as they are healthy).

frogetyfrog · 04/02/2010 21:36

I havent seen a rl preference for girls at all. I think that anybody with all one sex suffers from insensitive comments. Parents of boys can be soo smug about it, especially the fathers. I think thought ought to be given to the fathers of all girl families. My dh has had no end of comments about not being man enough to father a boy etc. I too have had loads of comments on our third being our attempt at a boy (she wasnt). It honestly works both ways but you only notice it when against you (i.e parents of boys think parents of girls are smug etc; parents of all girls think parents of boys are smug).

expatinscotland · 04/02/2010 21:36

Okay, this gal talking now is pretty bad.