...to think that a man who "doesn't drive" is not remotely sexy

[AnyFucker]

I saw this on another thread (doesn't matter which) and didn't want to hijack it with my silly ramblings

but, I can't imagine being with a man who "doesn't drive" (disabilities notwithstanding)

just someone too lazy to learn, who would let their OH chauffeur them around

there is something very appealing (sexy) about a man who drives well

mind you, I have a thing about a well-shaped wrist on a man , and driving in short sleeves shows that off to perfection

am I showing my age here ?

I have to agree OP, not sure I could date someone who couldn't drive, I'd just forsee me ferrying them everywhere.

However just because we would both drive doesn't mean I'd LET them drive if we were going somewhere together

If a man could drive, but chose to travel by bike, public transport etc most of the time because of, say, their own personal environmental commitment I think I could deal with that.

If they couldn't drive, because they were either too incompetent to pass their test or too scared to learn, that would be a massive turn off.

My DH can drive, and I like being driven about by him in some old fashioned, whisk me away in a fast car kinda way. But I can drive better than him, obviously

What if they couldn't drive because they couldn't be bothered to take the test? Not everyone finds driving (or being driven) terribly relevant.

Women who are impressed by cars are hideously, vacuously shallow and stupid.

i would find how they treat me more important to how they are behind a wheel when i got with dp he didnt drive and although he has since learnt and been driving few yrs it didnt increase his sex appeal at all as i liked him for who he was

was with someone who could drive before and he was a horrible horrible person to me so driving for me not top of my list i would also hate a man to dislike me for some pathetic reason

Not for the first time on here, I ask myself, what bloody decade are some of you only-feminist-when-it-suits-us-thanks-very-much people living in?

This is like saying a woman who "can't cook" or "can't sew" is not sexy.

UD thanks - sums up how I feel! Why does being able to drive make one sexy??

I think it was meant to be a light-hearted conversation though UQD...

Perhaps it is like saying a woman who can't cook isn't sexy, don't know really. I know my cooking ability wasn't the first thing that caught DH's eye but when I've lovingly prepared something delicious in the kitchen, he literally can't leave me alone . So obviously on some level, my ability to cook is sexy. Equally, when he cooks something amazing for some reason I find him that bit more irresistible.

Perhaps it is being capable and confident at particular things that is sexually enticing?

As before when this ridiculous thread surfaced - it does so every six months or so as far as I can tell - I'm going to remember it, and bookmark it, and quote at at the next person who comes on moaning about how fast the boy-racers drive round her local neighbourhood and how some wanker in a Porsche almost knocked her DS/DD down outside school.

Oh, but surely driving is sexy? Surely you were too busy going all moist over his big manly arms to notice the fact that he was revving his big penis-extension so fast that he almost put your child in hospital?

There's a massive difference between 'dosn't drive' because he lives in a place where he has no need to drive (can walk/cycle to work, supermarket, anywhere he needs to get to) and 'doesn't drive' but gets driven around by other people.

YABU

Driving has nothing to do with sex.

"Personally I love the way my DW loads the washing machine. Ooh, the way her womanly arse curves over as she shoves the whites in on the spin cycle like a good little wifey. I'd find a woman who didn't know how to do housework a real turn-off."

Driving capably, skillfully and safely is an attractive skill. Just as building something from scratch, painting something beautiful, cooking a great meal etc is appealing in some way.

Getting behind the wheel all macho and show-offy, and driving like a cock isn't what we're talking about I don't think UQD.

This car-dependency is the thing that bewilders me the most about mundanes. It's even more peculiar than their obesession with monogamism and The One. It would never occur to me to wonder if a man could drive a car or not before I shag him. I am car-free, live in a city with excellent public transport and have quite a few car-free friends. I wouldn't hold it against someone that they have a car if they travel long distance a lot, or have mobility issues or lots of heavy stuff to carry or something, but I suppose I do think that people who live in cities and insist on owning cars because they are 'fwitened; of public transport are a bit pathetic.

You're right there UQD - any adult human who doesn't know how to operate a washing machine is not sexy at all.

'Women who are impressed by cars are hideously, vacuously shallow and stupid.'

It's not so much that I'm impressed by cars, so much as that I'm unimpressed by men who can't drive.

It would be impossible to make a living out here without driving or a car, though.

Even so, DH passed his tests in Edinburgh.

He drives for work, too (a minibus).

I like how he can drive vehicles that I find scary and I like it when he can wear his short-sleeved uniform top.

And I like his big wanger.

Some may think I'm stupid, but I'd just burn rubber in their faces.

at UD

Personally, I've never really spent a thought over men/drive/sexy. And I don't care about cars either. I live in Milan where traffic makes life and going around a total pita, so I hate cars.

Sorry UQD, not meaning to pick on your posts deliberately... I see the point you're making with the housework analogy, but if my DH didn't know how to do housework or couldn't be bothered, I'd find that a turn off too!

'I am car-free, live in a city with excellent public transport and have quite a few car-free friends.'

You live in London, though.

And besides, someone has to drive the buses, taxis, minicabs, bin lorries, trade vehicles, courier and delivery scooters, etc. there.

A lot of people who go into professions where driving is a part of it, well, like to drive.

What SGB said. I'd find it a real turn-off if a man was clingingly dependent on cars when there was no real need.

Dh learned to drive because his firm needed another driver, and then we bought a car because both children became disabled. Sensible, responsible behaviour under those particular circumstances. But sexy?

I like a guy who is good in a crisis, and somehow waiting for public transport doesn't really do it for me either.

UQD..you are missing the point entirely

it's not the car I find sexy...how weird would that be ?

and quite often my DH does find me bending over the washing machine rather attractive

but it's not the car nor the washing machine

it's the being skilful and confident (driving...and wtf mentioned speeding ) and the bending over (welll, just the bending over, really) that is the point

I drive too, he also loads the washing machine...

OP YADBU, but I completely agree with you

Though I do prefer to be the one driving myself. My male friend couldn't get his head round the fact that sometimes both DH and will be in the car and I will often drive

I said 'is it because I am a girl?' and he blustered 'no, I just though the person who liked driving the most would drive', and I wouldn't like it the most because I am a girl?

My DH used to be a builder and he came back from uni one summer all toned and tanned, bleached hair...

crazycatlady...well done for spotting that this is (or was meant to be) a light-hearted thread

not so difficult really...all the signposts were there