to think there's a case for complying with a DH's sexual fantasy,even if you're NOT really up for it?

[WashwithCare]

Had lunch with some friends today, and this was the discussion.

20 years ago, I would have said NO WAY - sex should be totally mutual, pleasurable to both etc...

However, now I'm not so sure. My mate's H has hinted he would like to try X. My mate is OMG - NO!

However, she says she is still thinking about it... DH has been her love for 10 years. He has supported her. Never minded having virtually no sex for 2 years after a difficult birth and PND. Told her she was gorgeous and supported her fully every day....

So she is pondering whether he "deserves" X for super good behaviour - and because (we know he is the most faithful H ever) he is not going to get it ever, less she relents!

So I started off saying NO WAY - but as she spoke perhaps think her position isn't that unreasonable... But I am huge and hormonal... so what do I know!

And doing a bloke up the bum with a strap on is not that unusual. I will share on the subject if you really want me to. Absolutely agree and go on then... share away.

I blame Bizarre mag for the recent explosion (eeeew) with Genki stuff - it has been almost exclusively a Japanese fetish until not but it is catching on - YUK

Why bother with a strap on when you can grow your own like this

Because strap ons are COOOOL

At least you can eat mine afterwards.

Only after a good roasting, hf

go on then tarty, spill, you are dying to...

They look shrivelled - like most men's cocks. Yuck.

No no, solidgoldbrass was offering to enlighten us and I was egging her on. I think my position re. strap ons is pretty clear.

Bent over?

OK, pegging is fun (or can be, no one likes everything and if the whole idea horrifies you then it's maybe not for you). For the bloke, he's got a lot of nerve endings up his brown star and having them stimulated is pleasurable, for the girl, it's in itself more of a mental thing (though obviously if it's part of an ongoing session of shagging you're going to get your turn for direct stimulation too) - though you can get toys that work on your clit or go inside you at the same time, if you want. A lot of good sex involves taking turns to be the one who is doing and the one who is being done to after all.
While I wouldn't advise it on your brand new expensive sheets as there is a possibility of mess, there isn't, usually, much if any poo to deal with - though don't do it after a romantic curry together. Use lots of lube, take it slowly, go with a little roleplay and chat - you should both enjoy it, and if anyone isn't enjoying it, you stop.

Mumsnet has chanhed a bit since I was last here

I've just asked DH if a bit of pegging appeals. This was his face

I think that's a no then...

I reckon the majority men can be persuaded re. the pegging. I think most men think that they shoulod be outraged at the suggestion but most come round (maybe this is just the blokes i have hung out with!!!!) It is only an extension of finger etc in arse during blowjob isn't it? Most people do that don't they?

Erm, THH, that maybe just you .
some blokes love having their rings played with, other blokes can't get over the secret terror that anything bum-related means they are going to end up on the other bus.
And some people simply don't like the sensations they get from anal play. Like, they might have piles or something and not be mad keen to share the fact with a lover.

lol - end up on the other bus - lol

shit i think i might be the bus driver in that case!!!

I think it might be because i go out with pervs!

and agree with the sensations with anal play for both sexes - it can be absolutely overwhelming and i can see for some its a bit of a head fuck

HaHA! How did this thread go so wrong? Octopii? Urgh...

In response to the OP - I can totally understand going along with something that isn't your cup of tea as long as it doesn't actually repulse you. If it does repulse you, then don't bother - life's too short.

I think anal sex is quite a Marmite thing (love it or hate it, I mean, not...yeah).

I do not think the majority of men can be persuaded re pegging.

DH is not a fan of the bum love. Although we did once try a bit of rimming. T'was the night we conceived DS...

Mine neither, Journo. I did once try a bit of finger up you-know-where during BJ, and it did not go down well. He is not bothered about doing anything anal to me either, except when absolutely plastered.

LJ, if you conceived during bum love then you might be able to rewrite medical history.... Unless one of you has a stoma or something.

No not during bum love. I mean I'm good just not that good.

I wanted to write something but I'm snorting with laughter in a rather undignified manner.

And I've done it merely b/c DH wanted to, for the record.

There's not much I haven't done, but the octopii is a new one on me......

By AnyFucker Sat 23-Jan-10 23:30:47
WWC.....did you expect your thread would take this turn ??

lol@af .... hmm... honestly? yes, of course

I don't know, I haven't found anything I am not up for.

DH has been freaked the fuck out a few times though.