dittany; Funny you should ask LEM. When I got my ears pierced I nearly fell off the chair because I felt like I was a piece of paper being stapled. But I kind of assumed that's what you had to put up with.
lol, well when i got MY ears pierced i passed out What i had to put up with? When??
Nup, i don't do needles!! i always had a real needle phobia until i worked as a vet nurse then obviously had to get over it pretty quick! I did poke myself in the boob once whilst preparing a euthanasia injection - that wasn't funny
You know, i have a lot of respect for you dittany, you are a real woman's champion, but you are in danger of being a bit blinkered sometimes.
I don't have any childhood trauma, i had loving parents, a happy home - unless i don't remember
I think you are right - there probably are people within the BDSM scene who have been damaged in some way and maybe that comes out in that, but i would have thought that actually, its quite the opposite, it takes a very confident person to say - here, tie me to the bed, heres a whip - go for yer life! Because actually, it takes a strong person to persuade another person to do that to you.
From my own point of view, as im sure you know dittany, DP and I have had a rough few years, during this time there has been none of those shinanagins going on in our bedroom. That is for happy times.
Im not justifying it - im just trying to make you see that not every woman who likes porn, likes D/s is damaged or in an abusive relationship, however, there is, i feel, a fine line.