to be appalled at the 'treatment' my daughter received at the hosptal?

[Katecat]

First AIBU but happy to hear all opinions.

DD (2.4) has had a horrible vomiting/diarrhoea bug since Friday. We'd been keeping on top of things by pushing fluids and lots of rest and she seemed ok by Sunday pm just a bit tired so I took her to the childminder on Monday morning as normal (I know but she really seemed better, loves her CM, no other children there and CM was happy to have her). CM called Monday lunchtime to say DD was unwell again,lots of vomiting.

Anyway, eventually got her to see GP around 4pm, by this time she was very pale and lethargic but had stopped vomiting - nothing left to vomit [] and the GP wanted the paeds at the hospital to see her. He rang Children's ward and was told they were really busy, lots of other children with the same bug, and to refer us to the other hospital (about 15 minutes longer drive for us) A&E department. I wasn't happy with this, it isn't a children's A&E and I can't beleive they're allowed to refuse to see a sick child? As DD clearly needed to be seen I decided to try my luck and go straight to the busy Children's ward anyway. On arrival (had to carry DD by this point) I handed my Gp's letter to the Paed who said they had not received a call and wouldn't be able to see us, I had to go to the other hospital. By this point I was very worried about DD and absolutely livid that they refused to see her even though she was clealy unwell and demanded to see the person in charge. Nurse came along and told me no way we could be seen, go to other hospital etc. There was only one other family waiting, how can they claim they're too busy? After 20 minutes of me refusing to move, Dr came back and said she would have a 'quick look' at DD but if she needed admisission there were no spare beds (why could I see 2 beds parked in the coridoor then?!). So, she decided that DD needed intravenous fluids to rehydrate her yet STILL refused to admit us and I was forced to drive my sick child to the further hospital where she was thankfully admitted quickly and got the fluid she needed (the trauma of that is another AIBU itself )and is no on the mend although still on the ward.

Sorry this is long but I am so so angry. Am I right in thinking the hospital were useless and unreasonable and the staff would have been responsible if anything had happened to DD?

Wow, unanimous agreement on AIBU! That must be a first!

Boo Hoo

IME private health insurance is of sod all use in such situations.

I have been in the hilarious situation in an NHS A&E department when an experienced Paed A&E consultant was poised to see a child but was prevented because the Mum wanted to "go privately to get the best care".

She then refused to allow anyone to look at the child while she faffed around on her phone trying to organise an urgent appointment (not v. easily obtainable it seems).

She then came back to ask the Consultant his opinion on who she should see. One of the names she had been given was his.

He pointed out really rather tersely that there was no point in calling his private sec 'cos if he wasn't good enough to see her in his NHS role he didn't want to see her in the private sector.

Madness.

Private works well for minor elective stuff if carpet on the floor, better food and predicatability is important to you.

I don't think shes coming back people...

I love you too boys

this is pretty unanimous

you put your child's health at risk

beds in a corridor means jackshit, staying put against advice and abusing NHS staff is seriously out of order

they would have been within their rights to call the police to have you remove, you pillock

you are either

1. an arrogant tosser who thinks you can force your way in against the advice you were given, potentially putting other children at risk

2. a liar and a shit-stirrer

I hope it is the latter

Oi! What about me?

OP - YABU. Obviously.

Sorry your dd has been ill, however, she shouldn't have been at the childminders anyway. You should have just gone to the other hospital as told. I would have been glad to actually because where there is no childrens A&E a small child would be more likely to be given priority, that is how it works at our local hospitals. I always wait longer at childrens A&E. Do you know how silly it sounds to say that you could see two beds in the corridor, its not about a bed to lie down on, its about all the attached care and whether there are sufficent staff and facilities to care for the patient.

Personally I think you sound too silly to be real!

Sorry dd is unwell, but YABVU.

(big kiss from me Angry)

So OP has legged it, and we had a proper old fashioned pitchforking

V satisfying indeed

(and for Saggar)

[slutty]

BooHoo - I would never, ever trust anyone precious, cetainly not my DD to private healthcare. I am sad that people think it is any way acceptable tbh.

Katecat - you are angry because you were worried and powerless and you want to take it out on the NHS. That's ok. It happens all the time. It, and it's staff, are used to it. YABtotallyU though.

You slaaaaaaaaaaaaaaag BALD

There's nothing like a good pitchforking.

I am sorry yor DD isill and I hope sh is improving now.

But YABU. You should hve taken he to the hospital your GP told you to tae her to. You risked your child's health taking her to a full hospital, and wasted a lt of time sa around waiting for busy doctors to see her. In that time you could have already been at the less busy hopital and her admitted and treated.

Sometimes hospitals are full, it happens. Happened to me last week when I had to wait all afternoon at home, waiting for a bed to become available for me to go in to start IV antibiotics for pnuemonia.

wow another aibu kickin.

hardly surprising op legged it is it

Hope you're feeling better Hula.

I would like to respond to everyone who said it Private Healthcare makes no difference in an emergency.

This is not strictly true. DD suffers with many health issues I will not go into, but we have found that after she has been seen by a consultant initially, if things worsen we can call in to the hospital ward at any time, (4am in the morning it was once) and have an emergency admission there and then. For a D&V bug there would certainly be time to plan an admission at a private hospital.

I appreciate that with an immediate, accident type injury this would not be the case. However with most situations you can gain an appointment with a private Dr very quickly, definately the same day and we find that as they know her better this process is more effective.

YABU. The doctor arranged for you to go to the other hospital, as PP's have said a children's A+E was not necessary. You put your DD at unnecessary risk, and potentially other children there too who could have been there for far more serious things. You also wasted the staff's time, again putting their other patients at risk. I really don't understand what possessed you to "try your luck" when there was a perfectly good hospital 15minutes away where you knew your DD was pretty much guaranteed to be seen.

I hope your DD is feeling better.

gasman private insurance meant I got a bed when otherwise I would have been waiting on a stretcher in a corridor. The fact that I ended up in A&E because of poor treatment in a private hospital is another story entirely .

SEA, hardly a kicking. She asked, we told her. admittedly some posters have been a bit more vehement on the point than others but what do you think? would you have done the same and then blamed the hospital?

Ok. I'll give you that.

But v. few NHS hosps out of London have private beds.

I feel a bit sorry for the OP now, too.