To being some what pissed off that My partner got invited to MY good friends stag do over me just cus Im my a boke?

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Im so pissed off that not that my partner (who he has knowen for 3 years) got an invite to the stag do do but more that he did not even think to consider that I would be upset in any way.
I know this may sound a bit odd to some poeple thinking that a stag do is just for men but I have always been one of the lads or so I thought.
I have been very good friends with a group of lads since school. We chat about every thing, so why did no he not think to ask me if I would want to come?
It maybe a 'lads' night out but that has never stopped me from going out with them all before nor been a problem.
Just cus its a 'STAG do' I dont even get a second thought!!!
When I had PND I didnt not go to him because he was a bloke.... male or female it never mattered before?

it's a stag do. men only. deal with it!

it's a STAG do. You're not a STAG, you're a HEN.

YABU

WTF

YABU

come off it, you daft mare

you're not a bloke, its a traditional men's only even. you'll get to go to a hen's night and you wouldn't invite him to your hen's night.

Im just so pissed off why I have been to all the lads nights before!!! why just cus its called a stag do can I not get a thought just a thought would have done. the point of the stag do is to spend your last free night out having fun with the the lads and if I have always been one up to now.....

I'm with the OP

Stag and hen dos are very meh, imo.

I don't know anyone who's had one- well, not in the last 10 years, at any rate. You should have a piss up with your mates, surely- male and/or female.

Get over yourself!

It's nice your DP is invited.

YABU

It sounds like he wants his stag night to be a night out with the blokes
Call him old fashioned.....

Oh shut up.

anyway, it's HIS stag do, he can invite who he likes

general lads nights out are different. the stag do is always just men
anyway, what if they're planning on getting strippers and stuff in... will you enjoy that?

PITA?
If I was to get married at some point I would what then there... it just would not be 'the one last free night' out as it is tradtional ment to be if they were not there?

I think it's a bit mean if you go out with the group on every other night out. And who says you have to stick to every rule and tradition under the sun when it comes to weddings?! I know of people who have had their mum give them away at the wedding ceremony because their dad was dead - would you make them ask their uncle or someone who might be less close, just because he was male and "it's tradition"?

Umm, I don't think YAB entirely U! I've been on a stag do - and there were two other women there as well. I was also invited to another stag do but would have been the only girl, so declined!

But having a woman (or women) there does change the dynamic - and having a couple there would be a bit odd.

So yes, I can understand where you're coming from but I think it's just one of those things and you're going to have to suck it up. Think of it as an opportunity for your parter to get to know your friend better.

Why on earth would you want to go? Most of my friends are male and love them as I do they are without exception a right royal pain in the arse when drunk! The idea of spending a night watching a man getting tarred and feathered/handcuffed naked to a lamppost/jiggy with a strippergram is not my idea of fun.

I did however get picked up by a coachload of mates who spotted me on my way home from work as they were returning from a stag day at Brighton (I was their 'honarary guest' apparently!). The coach took us to our local where I and one of the lads cleared the coach of empty beer cans and junk and then had a few drinks with them. It was quite fun, being the only woman, one of the lads yet spoilt by them, but I wouldn't have wanted to have experienced the whole day.

Get the lads together for a few drinks/meal/night out before or afterwards and be the sole woman then, it will be a lot nicer.

Me and DH didn't have separate stag and hen nights out BTW. For many trivial reasons which I can't be arsed going into here. But mainly because I see stag/hen nights as being a big pissup with your younger friends and relatives where you can really let your hair down and have a laugh, rather than your wedding reception where you're usually quite well behaved so as not to offend the oldies present.

sometimes the male/female divide it just doesn't work out very well. does it.
I told my dh i did not want a hen do with our mate's wives as opposed to my (mostly male) mates just because they are female.
really pissed me off, we didn't have a hen or a stag in the end.

this is why i'm not having a hen night - it's stupid and assumes that the couple have mainly single-sex friendship groups.

i have been on a stag-do and it was basically a party that everyone except the wife-to-be was invited to which was a bit rubbish too.

DP is having a 'stag' but it's just a mountain bike ride and camping with his closest 3/4 friends who happen to be male. they'll be asleep by 9pm after riding all day. i'll be a bit jealous as i usually go riding/camping with them but it's ok cause it's just his best friends, if it was a bigger group then i'd get more jealous about not being able to go.

My closest friends are mixed gender so i'm not bothering with the hen thing, although i might drag one or two friends for a relaxing massage or something in the week before the wedding.

have you been invited to the Hen do?

So if they're planning to go to a lapdancing club would you up for a few private dances and a few pairs of boobs being shoved in your face?

Maybe they haven't invited you for a reason?

It doesn't matter how much you think you are one of the lads - the fact is that you aren't.

Sorry I think YABU.