To being some what pissed off that My partner got invited to MY good friends stag do over me just cus Im my a boke?

[daisychainXX]

Im so pissed off that not that my partner (who he has knowen for 3 years) got an invite to the stag do do but more that he did not even think to consider that I would be upset in any way.
I know this may sound a bit odd to some poeple thinking that a stag do is just for men but I have always been one of the lads or so I thought.
I have been very good friends with a group of lads since school. We chat about every thing, so why did no he not think to ask me if I would want to come?
It maybe a 'lads' night out but that has never stopped me from going out with them all before nor been a problem.
Just cus its a 'STAG do' I dont even get a second thought!!!
When I had PND I didnt not go to him because he was a bloke.... male or female it never mattered before?

Oh I say!

I can't stand the concept of stag and hen parties. It's so fucking stone-age assuming the women only associate with women and men with men. I can totally get the idea of a last blow-out but why is it single-sex? Grim!

I think YANBU but possibly a bit daft to expect it to be any different.

We had a joint dinner (because we are ver ver civilised).

YABU to talk about being "one of the lads" but then I'd say YABU if you talked about being "one of the girls". I don't understood the concept tbh and never have.

YANBU however to feel put out that your friend invited your DP over you. And YANBU to feel pissed off by pointless gender segregation.

(It's morning and all the Reasonable People have got up and left the glue alone)

Yes indeed hully!

Bloody hell - just read the whole thread. It's no wonder really that some women mistakenly believe men to be better company.

Tis like feminism, or the 20th Century, or something never happened. How depressing.

Bloody hell.

FGS, I have mostly male friends because my main interests tend to be male dominant (science/geekery, martial arts and MMORPGs). I have been to a strip club with a group of my male friends (and that was ... erm... interesting ). My few female friends that I have also tend to have the same interests and hence are used to having mostly male friends too. Basically, I'm fairly introverted and my close friends tend to be those I have a lot in common with and talk a lot to - which naturally leans towards more male company - I am not a "laddette".

No, I don't find other women threatening. No, I haven't shagged any of my male mates (or my female mates for that matter).

In fact, my only sexual partner has been my dh.

Actually, my dh has a high proportion of female friends, and had women at his stag do too.

What an utterly repulsive thread.

OP, while I think you are right to be disappointed, I think it's just something you'll have to keep to yourself - it's really up to the person doing the inviting. However, I'm absolutely sickened by how you've been treated on this thread and completely empathised when you said "you just remind me why i have no time for most women".

this thread has been absolutely disgusting

i hate stag and hen dos as i said above and am not having one myself exactly because of the strange idea that people with breasts should be in one room and people with testicles in another. it's weird.

i've been to two weddings of good university friends, both male. i like both their new wives but meeting them for dinner four or five times (we live at different ends of the country) is hardly the same as the four years living, partying, studying and growing up together than i had with the two men.

i am and always will be 'his' friend, not 'hers' and sat on 'his' side of the church etc. but of course i can't go to the stag do because i'm not the right gender

oh, and i'm quite sure that none of my friends are going to use their stag do to shag a stripper btw.

i don't care how many women on MN say that all men are into shagging strippers if they can, i don't believe it and it's not true.

so there!

Wow - Eye opener of a thread - really shows a lot of posters views here about male/female friendships!

Have been on a few stag dos myself (2 brothers) - but then these were action/adventure types followed by a meal and a few drinks - not your all drinking/sex seeking Riga/Prague/Amsterdam weekends.

OP maybe you should ask? Might be that they thought you wouldn't want to be there? Or that it might create trouble with their partners? (especially if they are similar to some of the posters here!).

Mixed versions are good fun - some hens do invite/meet up with male friends too. Best one I have been too was where both groups went out separately for the early part of the evening then met up later for a big party.

"cus Im my a boke? "

what did you mean this to say?

yabu and a bit silly tbh.

i am quite new to this board, and tbh, this thread was shocking!

I think looking at it, the op, who is someone a little put out that her friend had not invited her to a night out, regardless of gender, has a right to be a little upset over this fact.

but i think, it is one of those things that you just have to accept and get on with.

i am quite shocked and disgusted by the first couple of pages of replies, you really all ought to be ashamed of yourself for taking such enjoyment in being downright mean and bullying. I think you all need to take a long hard look at yourselves instead of ripping apart someone else and suggesting what type of person she is.

We all meet in a tec class at school and there has never ever been any thing more then friendship there....

It does not matter any way the conclusion from this thread is:
That no matter how much you think that years of friendship and being treated as an equal for years by your friends counts...
...it all counts for nothing not even a second thought if you are not the same sex when it comes to weddings.
..oh and of course any one who has any kind of friendship with the opsite sex must be a slag ... Im so glad that his fiance is not so norrow minded about our friendship.

Just a text saying he was having a (men only) 'stag do' but did I want to meet up for a drink before would have done... guess that is just to much to ask to want to help
my MALE friend celebrate.

What boring hen night I will have to have (should I get married) if I cant have my male friends there....?

Of course you can have male friends at your hen night, daisychain. As long as their wives aren't some of the posters on this thread - they'll assume you'll try to shag them and ensure that their husbands are duly grounded that night

It suspect that a few of the posters on here have felt threatened by partners' female friends. I can think of no other reason for their pathetic reaction.

They have a cheek to say that the OP is insecure when their posts smack of it. Some women just can't cope with their partners having another woman in their lives.

OP - YANBU to be a bit pissed off but I suppose if it's a 'stag do' then it's only to be expected.

You can have mixed gender stag/hen parties, but he clearly doesn't want to. Stag/hen dos are oe of the few places where it is okay to discriminate on gender.

So don't pout. Let him have the party he wants.

I could not imagine being married to someone where friends of the opposite sex where banned.

Personally, I would pass on a stag do with my friends. I honestly could not keep up these days but I would have had no problem if DH had invited female friends to his.

To: FabIsGoingToBeFabIn2010

"cus Im my a boke? " = cus Im not a boke? "

I hit the post button not preview button and every body started answering before i could re-write it.

sorry about that I was some what upset and pissed off which makes my dyslexia worse then normal.

I've only been to one stag do - there were 3 men, about 20 women, and we made the Stag wear a veil and a bikini.

I'm of the same view as Hully and Gibbon on this one, dont know why the OP got such a bashing

'desperate housewives on glue' made me pmsl

Am I being unreasonable threads seem to bring the worst out in people