to believe you can't steal husbands?

[WashwithCare]

I have been perplexed to read on here that some posters seem to believe you can "steal someone else's husband".

I am sure you can steal a dog or a handbag, maybe even a good idea(!?!)... but spouses, even if belong with each other, certainly do not belong to each other.

Equally, I'm rather confused that once a man has married or other moved onto the ummmm... the "new model", how can the lady in question continue to be termed the OW? Surely, she is now "The Woman"...

Just wondering as people keep referring to the NM culture about this issue, so sorry if it has been debated before.

no one steals anyone.people go of own volition

You can't steal one if he doesn't want to be stolen, it is his fault as well if he gets 'stolen', but trying to isn't very nice.

That isn't true Morloth. My brother left his wife for another woman. Sometimes people make mistakes and marry the wrong person.

I would be a bit sad if no women ever attempted to have a bite of my DH

I would think he might be a bit crap

I had one. I got cramps and spasms.

oh sorry, now I feel bad

An acquaintance of mine in America had a long/serious relationship with a married woman that he worked with. The woman's dh found out, was furious and wanted to make my acquaintance 'pay' for the hurt/damage he had caused by having the affair. The dh methodically collected 'evidence' of the affair - letters, emails, receipts, even recorded phone calls.

The dh then found out about an old/obscure law, and sued the acquaintance for 'alienation of affection' , supplied the collected evidence, and won a judgement. The acquaintance had to pay the dh a significant amount of money.

Based on that ruling, it appears the court put responsibility for the affair on the person outside the marriage for 'stealing' the affection of the married person. Not sure why the dw bore no responsibility.

No idea if the couple stayed married.

If it was an old law it as probably based on the wife being his property

She should have been burned as a witch; at the very least a good hour or so on the ducking stool.

Does this concept of stealing someone's else's other half apply also to the Wife? Or are we assuming here that husband's, (being only men after all, the poor things) are prone to mind control and manipulation than women? And therefore can be stolen.

Anyway, just wanted to add my two pence. NO. No one can steal anyone. It's called free will

Yes mp, that makes sense.

Earlybird, what was she doing at work? Didn't she know where the kitchen was?

Every one has choices, and that's the fun of it isn't it. We are all free, at the end of the day.

I am staying out of this one

however, OP, whatever the rights or wrongs of "stealing husbands", the fact is you are the other woman to the family your husband left to take up with you

fact

what "title" you want to be known by is irrelevant really

Hullygully and Morning Paper might be the new Wood and Walters...

(fwiw, you can't steal a person, imo.)

I used to work in insurance. If anyone steals DH I getthe house, Brad Pitt and subscription to Bird Watchers Weekly.

However, If I leave him wanderingthe streets in a silk thong my policy is cancelled and they replace him with Bernard Manning.
And he has been dead for several years now.

OH's cannot be stolen but they can be hunted.

There are some predatory biatches out there. From the point at which an OH enters into anything which would be considered as 'unfaithful' by the terms of their 'FT' relationship, they are equally culpable, regardless of whatever behaviours led to this point.

The OW's status may well fluctuate within an XOH's life but to the original W, she will nearly always and forever be called the OW, not least because it's less of a mouthfull than 'SheWhoShallNotBeNamed'.

Sorry Diddl - I was baking a chocolate cake, not ignoring you.. To answer your question - no, my husband has never been married before .

To clarify, DH had a gf before he started seeing me. They had only been split up for a few weeks before we started dating. She had lived at his place, but he had moved out when we started going out.

Some pp thought that as his gf had children (they were her children from a previous relationship btw, not my DH's) then DH should have entered into some sort of limbo period, where he lived alone and did not date. I think someone mentioned that it shoudl be a year long.

I'm really fascinated by this stance - is it just one odd person that thinks this - or are there a whole herd of people who think this is normal? Where do these rules come from? Is it a Netmum thang?

You are quite correct - Husbands can't be stolen.

Still crappy behaviour though.

I did once in my past have a bit of a thing with someone in a relationship - most definitely not my finest hour.

I also think there's a lot more 'overlapping' of relationships than most people admit to.

Compo - my parents are divorced, and I live in the wierdest step-family I know... I just choose not to become hysterical about it...

are there predatory men too, drooling for some wifey blood?

could I attract them with sausages?

WWC, I am confused. His 'girlfriend' lived with him for 10 years didn't she? As did her children. So it really was their home rather than 'his place.'

Or am I misunderstanding?

MP, no. Thrill is in the chase. Sausages of little use unless raw and tied to your back bumper ...or your cars.