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To feel depressed that exW took DSSs to Miami

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Bonsoir · 06/01/2010 10:41

for a fortnight at Christmas and for them to have come back having gained a huge new Abercrombie & Fitch wardrobe and 4kgs apiece?

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Georgimama · 06/01/2010 11:37

You said earlier up thread that you would have hated to go to Miami and you consider the (fashionable American) clothes she bought them to be "tacky" so you clearly do have feelings about the holiday.

I really wouldn't tell if someone had gained 4 kgs. It's nine pounds. I might be able to tell if I was inspected them in the shower, of course.

ImSoNotTelling · 06/01/2010 11:38

Dammit got to go up the road for DD...

Am enjoying this thread it is BONKERS

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Bonsoir · 06/01/2010 11:38

People ask me what I weigh all the time - of course they do. It's completely standard to do so among my friends and family.

HCPs make people get on the scales in front of them and don't take their patients' word for it!

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Georgimama · 06/01/2010 11:39

All of Bonsoir's threads are bonkers and addictive - I'm sure MN must pay her to post.

StayFrosty · 06/01/2010 11:39

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Bonsoir · 06/01/2010 11:40

That doesn't I mean I spent time thinking about it! And I don't mind the boys having some A&F at all - just not a heaving suitcase full.

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Mongolia · 06/01/2010 11:40

The only time I had people asking me all the time what I weighted, was when I was severely underweight due to stress. They asked because they were worried for my health, not because weight is a normal part of a conversation, actually most people will cringe at asking such questions.

FimbleHobbs · 06/01/2010 11:41

YABU for having scales. Whats the point of knowing how much you weigh?

Your clothes fit, or they don't. You feel healthy, or you don't. Its that simple really.

Re. the clothes and the holiday, you are being a pious misery guts and you know it. Cheer up!

MarineIguana · 06/01/2010 11:41

And on a side note Bonsoir, please note that you are supposed to hate the clothes teenagers like. That is the point. I also think anyone wearing abercrombie and fitch looks like a total twerp. Likewise jeans that stop halfway up their arse and horrendously ugly trainers. But guess what, I'm 40 and in the mind of a teen I exist to despair over their clothing choices. I would worry if I didn't! Their mum obviously bought them what they wanted, and that's not a crime.

Mongolia · 06/01/2010 11:42

Clothes are way cheaper in the US, perhaps she was trying to save herself some money?

TheCrackFox · 06/01/2010 11:42

How awful, a mother buying her DCs clothes. Clear evidence of shoddy parenting.

weegiemum · 06/01/2010 11:43

Just imagining the convo:

"Hello Bonsoir lovely to see you. Glad you could make it! And how much do you weigh today? Still just 9st? Good, good!"

Georgimama · 06/01/2010 11:43

It's not up to you to "mind" how many A&F clothes they have though. She is their mother. Your partner is their father. It is your job to support him as their father. That's all.

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Bonsoir · 06/01/2010 11:44

I don't hate the DSSs teen clothes at all - I like the way they dress a lot, and buy them plenty of stuff myself. I just don't think a suitcase full of new A&F is right.

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bronze · 06/01/2010 11:46

"And I don't mind the boys having some A&F at all - just not a heaving suitcase full."

The point is you don't get to mind. Shes not dressing them like pimps or hookers so really stop your whingeing. Or are you embarrassed to be seen with your fat badly dressed step children

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Bonsoir · 06/01/2010 11:46

Georgimama - it is not for you to judge my stepparenting, actually. All the more because exW is delighted to delegate anything that gets in her way.

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ChickensHaveFrozenNuggets · 06/01/2010 11:46

The smuggery on display here is truly, in the original sense of the word, awesome

macdoodle · 06/01/2010 11:46

God Bonsoir you are a bitch arent you

GibbonInARibbon · 06/01/2010 11:46

It's not real stayfrosty don't worry.

macdoodle · 06/01/2010 11:47

And if my XH's tart DARED to comment on my DC's weight, holidays, eating habits or MY parenting, she would NEVER EVER see my children again
If I dont slag the nasty little tartlet off to my DC she's better bloody have the maturity and respect to do the same !

MarineIguana · 06/01/2010 11:48

But don't you get it Bonsoir - they probably don't like it much if you like their clothes. They want clothes you don't like, if they are any kind of normal teen. It's your job to show the requisite amount of misunderstanding and distaste and then indulge them by taking a step back.

macdoodle · 06/01/2010 11:49

People ask me what I weigh all the time - of course they do. It's completely standard to do so among my friends and family.

Really how totaly utterly bizarre............and rude

onebatmother · 06/01/2010 11:50

I'd be genuinely worried that your DP was 'very upset' at their weight gain. That's deeply controlling of him, I think.

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Bonsoir · 06/01/2010 11:51

No clothes issues at all, other than not wanting them to have too many.

Anyway, I have promised another poster a barely-worn A&F hoodie as soon as DSS1 discards one. I'll be able to keep my promise shortly!

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