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To feel depressed that exW took DSSs to Miami

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Bonsoir · 06/01/2010 10:41

for a fortnight at Christmas and for them to have come back having gained a huge new Abercrombie & Fitch wardrobe and 4kgs apiece?

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bellissima · 07/01/2010 15:28

Why would I want to sneer at people? It's pathetic.

Anyway I'm far too COLD now. My only AIBU at the moment would be ..to think my DD2's teacher is sadistic to make me measure the SNOWMAN she (DD) has made after measuring DD?? (Like others I have plenty of things to do as well as sneak onto MN).

TheBossofMe · 07/01/2010 15:29

Hmmm, sounds a bit rubbish to me really. When I play with my DD, I play with her.

Did you know you've posted 92 comments today alone?

ComeOveneer · 07/01/2010 15:30

But you hardly need MN for that Anna, there are a million other things you could be doing that would still make you nearby and avaliable to her.

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Bonsoir · 07/01/2010 15:30

Oh please bellissima, stop being so naïve.

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Bonsoir · 07/01/2010 15:32

92 is nothing - no wonder I've done masses of other stuff.

I'd hardly been near the computer during the holidays (far, far too many people to look after) so it's a bit of a change of scene, really. Though I hope DD will be better tomorrow, and that it isn't too snowy.

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TheBossofMe · 07/01/2010 15:33

I think you're the one who being naive, Anna, if you can't see how patronising you've been on this thread...or just lacking in any sense of empathy...or any sense of self-understanding...oh the list could go on...

Stapling origami is probably fine for a 5yo, by the way....

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Bonsoir · 07/01/2010 15:36

Come on, I post a thread in AIBU with red-alert words like exW and Miami in the thread title and an OP about weight gain and people take it seriously as if I didn't know the implications? To tell you the truth, that is what surprised me the most.

But then, I suppose people also believe that creams cure cellulite...

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TheBossofMe · 07/01/2010 15:38

Actually, you posted on over 30 discussions over the holiday period. That's a lot by most MNetters standards. I think you need a reality check about what constitutes a lot of time on the PC (apart from working on a PC, of course). More time actually devoted (you understand what devoted means, right?) to parenting and less time on the PC might mean you didn't fret so much about having to spend so much time "undoing the effects of bad parenting". Because you would have more time in general....

TheBossofMe · 07/01/2010 15:40

"Come on, I post a thread in AIBU with red-alert words like exW and Miami in the thread title and an OP about weight gain and people take it seriously as if I didn't know the implications? To tell you the truth, that is what surprised me the most."

That's pissed me off so much that I really am considering reporting you for trolling. Dont waste people's time on crap if it isn't serious.

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Bonsoir · 07/01/2010 15:41

30 posts is about one hour on here, if you count the time reading posts and posting. That is really nothing over two weeks.

I never watch TV, btw. This is my only screen play time.

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traceybath · 07/01/2010 15:41

Gosh I am confused - so was it all made up Bonsoir?

Still no excuse for all the nastiness but I feel a little silly now for feeling sorry for you and how horrid people were being.

bellissima · 07/01/2010 15:42

Why am I being naive? (oh and you don't make any personal attacks?). You do sneer at people Bonsoir - whether fabricated or not you sneer very unattractively at the ex-W, at her diet and taste in clothes right down to her level of Jewishness, and you sneer at any sign of a more relaxed attitude to weight and 'lack of self-control' that might be demonstrated by posters. You react rather badly to anyone who suggests that you might have come across a bit of self-indulgence and bad dietary habits yourself, given your provenance. Such suggestions somewhat diminish your ability to sneer at the common herd. So amongst the general congratulations and back-slapping for the 'entertainment' you have provided there is a bit of a bad taste left - and it's not from the croissants.

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Bonsoir · 07/01/2010 15:44

No traceybath - not made up, totally truthful. But I did post in AIBU rather than stepparenting for a reason - I wanted to see what posters reactions were.

You were your usual polite self and all credit to you - you don't use AIBU as an excuse for indulging in public stoning. I really wish MN would get rid of this vile, vile topic though, that lets so many posters humiliate themselves publicly.

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TheBossofMe · 07/01/2010 15:45

Bonsoir - just keep telling yourself that, and I'm sure it will all be fine....not!

TheBossofMe · 07/01/2010 15:46

I think you have humiliated yourself as much as anyone else on this thread - at best your behaviour is manipulative trolling, at worst,well, that's not polite conversation...

ComeOveneer · 07/01/2010 15:47

You seem to think very little of the majority of posters on here Anna, and genuinely come across as thinking you are superior/better than them. So why are you on here, it we aren't at your level? Plus you appear to know everything about everything, so surely don't need advice/help!

WhoIsAsking · 07/01/2010 15:48

So you've stirred the pot beautifully.

The list of those you have offended/upset include:

Ex wives dealing with controlling ex partners and step parents.

People struggling with their weight.

People who have experienced, or who know someone and care about someone who has experienced serious eating disorders.

Step parents who are trying to do their best by their step children.

People who eat croissants.

Pretty shitty behaviour really.

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Bonsoir · 07/01/2010 15:51

Maybe people will think twice about losing their self-control on AIBU? If MNHQ just can't get rid once and for all of this terrible excuse for bullying and lashing out.

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OpheliaPain · 07/01/2010 15:53

i have been to work

I am now totally lost
someone tweet me and update please

slim22 · 07/01/2010 15:53

I really seriously now think (hope) that this not Anna.

so bonsoir!

TheBossofMe · 07/01/2010 15:54

I used to think you were OK. No longer. You have exhibited a dreadful loss of self-control yourself by posting this in the first place - you should be able to control your own needs better. You have belittled MN by creating this monstrous thread. You should be ashamed of yourself and should apologise to those whose time you have wasted.

OpheliaPain · 07/01/2010 15:54

please tweetsters

WhoIsAsking · 07/01/2010 15:56

I think someone hit a nerve further up the thread didn't they? And now you're hastily backtracking because you can't take the heat.

I think you actually believe all the things you say. I think you are utterly bewildered that people dare to contradict you. I wonder if that is an unusual thing to happen to you?

Still, if you want to pretend that this was all an exercise in getting the lowly MN'ers to take a jolly good look at themselves, have at it.

I don't believe that for a second.

MadameDefarge · 07/01/2010 15:57

The OP was a nasty piece of work Anna, be careful you don't look like one too.

ComeOveneer · 07/01/2010 15:58

"Maybe people will think twice about losing their self-control on AIBU"

Er why? Are you so self important you think you have done the whole of MN a great service with this thread?

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