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AIBU?

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to really want my husband's female BF to stop borrowing him for her 'escort' of an evening.

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howdidthishappenthen · 25/11/2009 15:48

DH's female best friend from Uni has been staying with us weeknights now for 3 months after relocating back to London with a new job (she's supposed to be looking for a flat of her own but hasn't started yet). We both invited her to stay and generally I get on just fine with her. However, her new job involves lots of corp entertaining events and she's invited my husband along to a few evening drinks with her, mostly car themed stuff as he's a car nut. There's another one tomorrow and I'm invited too, but don't want to go as a: I'm in 3rd trim of DD2 so can't drink and can't stand on my feet making small talk for a couple of hours and b: I find cars unutterably tedious. A teensy niggly part of my wants her to fuck off and stop using my husband as an escort on these 'dos'. Mostly because she's very promiscuous (several new men a month) and slept with all her other male friends from Uni at some point or other (DH is adamant this does not apply in his case) and also because am feeling like I am very socially dull at the mo, (the end of pregnancy is so boring and knackering) but still not at all ready for someone else to step forward into my shoes on the social scene. I know DH would rather be out with me but I just wish there was some bloke for him to go with instead. AIBU to want her to stop inviting him to stuff and bugger off back into her own life?

OP posts:
thisxgirl · 26/11/2009 20:28

Just to clarify, I'm not referring to cheating - I'm talking about a stereotypical single young man's attitude to sexual opportunities.

poshsinglemum · 26/11/2009 21:01

Op- I wouldn't worry at all about being seen as needy or whatever. You are pregnant and need his support. I would kick off big time about this situation. They are being twats.
That women is a bitch and no mistake. She should at least have some empathy for your situation.

cakeywakey · 27/11/2009 10:48

OP, I hope that you're able to get the situation sorted out and that you'll enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

I also hope that you aren't taking the alarmist assertions that your DH is shagging this woman seriously. Only you know all of the ins and outs of what's going on, and you're the one who knows your DH. Take care

SpodgeMcBiscuit · 27/11/2009 12:36

Erm. Alamist yes, but based purely on the post, quite possible. Pack her bags.She's after your DH, as someone who has been the other women in this little situation previously you need to grab your DH with both hands. Pregnancy to her is an advantage, she looks great in lbd. Your feet hurt and you wanna go home. She'll make the most of every little thing.

Yes I know I'm a bitch etc etc etc.

scottishmummy · 27/11/2009 18:48

LOL that was quite an embellished salacious wee tale.

lodger is a chancer yep she needs to go.big time chancer

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