AIBU in thinking that nowadays

[TheUsefulSuspect]

everyone has to have an excuse or label for any problem

Kids who misbehave are all ADHD

Blokes who are mistreat women and children are either NPD or Depressed

Women who lose the plot are either depressed or got PND

Kids who are simply a bit thick all have some sort of dyslexia

I think this simply excuses kids who are badly parented, blokes who are scume bags, women who are bonkers and kids who are stupid, and it takes away time, focus amd resources from people and children with genuine problems.

.........YABU

yabu, ignorant and nasty.

well done on your hat trick

IT'S PC GORN MAD

Yabu and reactionary and thoughtless.

Sorry I should clarify

I recognise that ADHD is a genuine condition, as are Depression, P.N.D, dyslexia, autism, aspergers etc etc

It just seems that no-one be it Adult or Child is responsible for their actions nowadays.

Sorry if I upset anyone

You are being weird.

• doesn't quite cover it.........nor does

Did I fall asleep and wake up in the 1950's?

Is that a label you're trying to slap on the OP there Gibbon.

SHAME ON YOU.

I agree, Useful. I'm so sorry that others have rushed to judge and criticise you, look at the labels they've given you: "reactionary" "thoughtless" "ignorant" "nasty" !!!

Your point is a good one, I for one think we should call a spade a spade (or is that racialistic now!!!!!!!!).

How do you feel about the label "arsehole" or is that too simplistic?

so what's your excuse, OP? or haven't you got the brains to think one up?

Crack (oh, how apposite), I think that sort of language belongs on the other thread.

At least nowdays these things are being recognised as conditions and treated properly with medicine or theraphy

There was a time when you would have been locked up and labelled as just 'mad'

Reactionary and thoughtless, etc aren't labels.

They are adjectives.

Can't you label someone with an adjective?

Give the OP a break, people. She is attitudinally-challenged.

You could, but I find those ones which type out the name on a piece of plastic MUCH more effective.

Actually, I think you have a point. There are cases where people desperately want their children or whoever diagnosed with something, anything, rather than just accept that they're simply not perfect. I'm not saying that anyone who genuinely has a problem is making it up, just that there isn't always an explanation for certain kinds of behaviour. Sometimes people are just unpleasant.

Although there are people who genuinely suffer from these difficult conditions, I think there is a point here. Im a teacher, who year upon year has had to deal with children whose parents are trying to find any label they can to excuse their child's behaviour, when it's commonly due to poor parenting.
We tend to pick up on genuine examples of children with dyslexia/ADHD during a child?s time in school because as teachers we can recognise the signs and in these cases the children have no control over their condition. But there are plenty that are simply badly behaved and some parents would rather have a label than accept their responsibility in creating a child with no knowledge of appropriate behaviour or boundaries.
I have a parent of a child in my class who has had him tested for adhd, aspergers, dyslexia and autism but he's come up negative each time and runs rings around her. However I have another child in my class who genuinely can't keep still for a moment, but is perfectly polite and tries really hard despite clear signs of adhd.

I agree with lequeen and clairey. I work with children with special needs too, and obviously a lot of them have a genuine medical condition.

There was one little boy though, who was simply just a brat. He was very babied and spoiled by his mother, and when he got to school and no one let him win all the time or gave him a gold star on every paper, he couldn't handle it. His mother pushed us to "find a diagnosis" and brought in all these things she'd read about oppositional defiance disorder. Give me a frakkin break, people!

The thing I don't get, too, is when did we stop accounting for differences in personality? Some kids, yes, have issues with authority. They are hardwired to be so and always will be. You can work with that! We had a poster up at a school I used to work in that said, "You can't turn a bully into a flower child, but you can turn him into a knight."

Children (and people in general) are not all the same, nor should they be. It's wonderful when a child gets much needed help (through therapy or meds if they need them) but slapping a label on everyone right left and center just for being different has got to stop.