'A bit of porn never hurt anyone -
I take it that you are quite happy for your DCs to act in them, when 18yrs then Emmalina? Or are we back to the double standards where it isn't suitable for your DCs but anyone else's DC is an adult and if they choose to do it it is up to them?
I hate the double standard. It really means that you can have 2 DD's -both born on the same day and both blessed with good looks and intelligence.
It is purely luck of birth, but DD A is born into a stable, well off family and has the best of everything when young, all food is organic (mother shudders at McDonalds), the house is full of books, DD is used to conversation and has pencils, paper etc and an embarrassingly large amount of toys at Christmas and birthdays.
DD B is born to a drug addict mother with no fixed partner, her main concern is actually getting enough food and much of it is takeaway. She doesn't get much mental stimulation at home and the only presents will be charity ones.
DD A has the best education money can buy, her parents are very ambitious for her. She has skiing holidays, plays the violin, joins clubs for her many interests etc.
DD B goes to the local 'sink' school, the teachers don't realise that she is intelligent because she is absent a lot, sullen and monosyllabic. She has had one day trip to the seaside and doesn't get to join any clubs etc.
DD A gets A* at GCSE level, and is predicted top grades at A'level.
DD B had patchy school attendance, didn't complete coursework and decided it was cool to be in with the disruptive crowd. She fails most of her exams.
DD A gets a car at 17 yrs. She has a wide circle of friends and goes out a lot but all to approved places.
DD B leaves school and gets a series of dead end jobs. She is raped by one her her mother's 'dodgy' friends.She takes to hanging around the streets because she doesn't like being in at night.A friend of her mothers notices that she is very attractive with a good figure and suggests 'modelling' work. DD B soon finds out what it involves but the pay is good and it might be a way out and up from her home background.
DD A goes to Oxford. When she is away her parents decide to spice up their sex life with porn films. They watch DD B. It doesn't even occur to them that DD B looks very like their DD, they don't know, or care, that if DD B had actually been their DD, and a biological twin, she would have been at Oxford (she has the brains). They justify it by saying DD B is an adult, she chose the work and she gets paid. Everyone is consenting adults and no one is hurt by it.
Mention to them that if this is the case then their DD could earn a bit of pocket money by doing it and they would be horrified and enraged -'How dare anyone suggest that their precious, lovely, brainy DD should work in the sex industry'!! However they are quite prepared to watch other people's DDs (or DSs), because either they chose or they are trash anyway!! If they happen to come from Eastern Europe or other 'foreigners' then they don't count at all!
If people see a curly haired little churub toddler getting ill treated at home they want something 'done' to rescue the poor DC. However once they grow up they are prepared to watch, the now adult, cherub being abused
and conveniently tell themselves it isn't abuse and the porn actor enjoys being a slab of meat!
I know I have done extremes, but I do think that people who think that porn does no harm should find out a little more about it and how much 'choice' was involved. Also, if it is harmless fun, then why can't your DC do it? Maybe I am misjudging people and they would be happy for their DCs to choose. I would be horrified if my DSs earned money as porn actors, so I don't think it is fair or ethical, to think it is OK for other poeple's DCs.