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Can you take cocaine socially without it becoming a problem?

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whattodonow1 · 09/11/2009 10:15

Father of my 3 children has admitted to me that he has been taking cocaine approximately once a month when on nights out with friends pretty much ever since we got together. Says he spends about £30 a month on it. I trust what he has told me as he is basically decided to put his cards on the table as he doesn't want to lie to me anymore. He knows I'm not into this type of scene and have never been involved in anything like this.

Basically he says he is not ready to give his habit up but hope one day to be in position to do so. I am pleased that he is finally be honest with me with a view that if he told me that he would never touch it again, he'd be lying as he knows that one day he will take it again. He doesn't see it as a big issue as he has been doing it for years and can on some occassions go for a few months without taking anything.

Basically want to know has anyone been in the situation where they or a partner has taken this drug and then grown out of it (partners 29 and most his friends are young with no responsibilities) In a dilema whether to run and struggle with 3 kids on my own or try to ignore this and hope evntually it goes away

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Oblomov · 10/11/2009 21:18

no idea Ronaldinhio. But if you find out, let me know and I'll be there like a shot snort !
Like we all said a long time ago, Op not been back. what a load of tosh this thread is. oh pleeeeeease !

VengefulSinner · 10/11/2009 21:45

PMSL @ Citizen!!! I can't stop laughing!

Thanks for that well needed laugh

And oh, btw - head to E13 area... apparently 1/2g wraps going rate of £20 and you can often barter 1g for £35 or £30.

According to Xp anyways who was a numpty.

piscesmoon · 10/11/2009 22:02

I would give him a straight choice. Drugs and parenting are incompatible.

babybarrister · 10/11/2009 22:21

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CitizenPrecious · 10/11/2009 23:04

yeah, you're right, babyb- the coke trade stinks, and that's why I don't dabble

...but the coke-on-a-steak bobbins has been getting right on my tits and seems to be compelling me to make facetious remarks against my will

[trance like emoticon]

groundhogs · 11/11/2009 01:13

NOoo, CitizenP, it was the colombians that showed it to DH. They don't touch the stuff mostly, just make it and sell it to the people stupid enough to take it.

Most colombians will have at some point 'some' connection to coke production, they are pretty much educated in and understand the process from a to z, but mostly don't abuse it themselves. It's worth too much outside their nation.

Why would I make it up?

groundhogs · 11/11/2009 01:17

think the definition of clueless is actually someone stupid enough to take that shit....

babybarrister · 11/11/2009 07:32

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CoteDAzur · 11/11/2009 08:13

groundhog - No, actually, the definition of "clueless" is someone who so lacks the minimum level of required knowledge on a subject that she will believe anything. Like, say, you, who believes a bit of cocaine on meat will rot it in less than a day. This is completely false, as many people on here with personal experience have told you.

I see several possibilities:

  • You misunderstood the story
  • Your DH misunderstood the Colombians' story
  • His Colombian friends thought it was funny to mess with your DH's mind
  • Your DH thinks it's funny to mess with your mind

What is not possible, not even remotely, is your claim that a bit of cocaine will rot a meat it's dabbed on in a matter of hours.

CoteDAzur · 11/11/2009 08:57

babyb - re your laughable claim that "Colombians don't use cocaine, they sell"

Would that be why that it is LEGAL to possess up to 1 g of cocaine in Colombia? Have you heard that Colombia's Constitutional Court ruled in 1994 that prohibition of drug use violates the right to "free development of personality"? Have you also heard that current government is trying to outlaw personal use of cocaine again, because "the world's largest cocaine producer has become a consumer nation with an addiction problem, according to experts, the government and drug users themselves"

groundhogs · 11/11/2009 09:18

Bless you, seriously... if you think you know what you are talking about....

Pat, pat.

babybarrister · 11/11/2009 10:14

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VengefulSinner · 11/11/2009 10:41

Sorry, but if coke on meat rots in hours then I should have lost my nose time and time again in my early 20's!!

When you sniff coke it sits up your nasal passage for hours.

Years later my nose and septum are fine.

So that theory is tosh IMO.

Agree with everyone that coke is a disgusting drug though. Ruins lives and relationships and puts DC's at risk. From experience
But I must stress, not me putting ds at risk as I stopped touching anything 1yr before conceiving.

VengefulSinner · 11/11/2009 10:42

BTW - did the OP ever return??

EdgarAllenPoo · 11/11/2009 20:43

personally i think having parents who are twats puts kids at risk, blaming a substance for poor behaviour when they'd probably have been twats anyway is just part of the addict-consciouness.

CoteDAzur · 12/11/2009 11:31

babyb - I have NOT said "all" Colombians use cocaine "because they are the largest producer". Do you have a problem reading English? What I said was A LOT of Colombians use Cocaine, a FACT that is obvious from:

(1) LEGALITY of personal use of cocaine in this country since their 1994 Constitutional Court ruling

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(2) current government trying to outlaw cocaine again, because Colombia has become a "consumer nation"

... meaning, your earlier claim that "Colombians don't use cocaine" is completely wrong.

Here is part of the article I linked to earlier, for those of us having a hard time clicking on links & reading them before posting replies:
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Colombia sinks in sea of legal cocaine, heroin

By Kim Housego
Associated Press
BOGOTA, Colombia -- Outside a Bogota dance club called Pipeline, a bouncer frisks a young businessman, comes up with a small bag of cocaine, and casually returns it to the owner. He pockets it with a grin and swaggers into the maze of flashing lights and techno beats.

But this laid-back approach may not last much longer. A decade after Colombia legalized possession of 20 grams of marijuana and one gram of cocaine and heroine for private consumption, President Alvaro Uribe wants to restore total prohibition.

The reason: The world's largest cocaine producer has become a consumer nation with an addiction problem, according to experts, the government and drug users themselves.

The 1994 Constitutional Court ruling for legalization was aimed at forcing the government to find more effective methods than law enforcement for combating drug abuse, such as education programs, says Sen. Carlos Gaviria, the former justice who wrote the decision.

But he complains that successive governments never invested enough time and money in the battle.

Meanwhile, drug use has increased by 40 percent in the last 10 years, says Dr. Camilo Uribe, a toxicologist and the president's adviser on drug matters.

No comprehensive study of domestic consumption has been carried out since 1996, but a 2001 survey by the government's National Narcotics Office found that nine of every 100 Colombian city-dwellers aged 12 to 25 regularly use drugs.

Dr. Uribe (no relation to the president) blames legalization for part of the increase, saying it made drugs more acceptable in a society that traditionally frowned upon them as a source of corruption and violence.

"The court decision sent the completely wrong message -- that it's OK to do drugs," he says.

Uribe's presidency has been characterized by sternness on all fronts -- the fight against Colombian rebels, corruption in politics, and drug use. But his attempt to criminalize drug use by referendum last year was killed by the Constitutional Court before the vote could take place. The court said prohibiting drug use would violate the constitutional right to free choice.

Among the smartly dressed crowd at the Pipeline club, the cocaine sniffers say recriminalization would probably push up prices from their current rock-bottom level of $3 to $4 a gram, compared with $75 to $100 in the United States.

"Right now it's cheaper than buying a beer," a 33-year-old bank executive, who gives his name only as Guillermo, says after snorting a line of cocaine in the restroom.

babybarrister · 12/11/2009 15:25

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CoteDAzur · 12/11/2009 16:09

Are you still insisting Colombians don't use cocaine?

Nobody is talking about relative statistics re US, Spain, etc. This is about the ridiculous claim that "Colombians don't use coke, they just sell it". Clearly nonsense, given that personal use of cocaine is legal in Colombia, and they are trying to outlaw it again because of the vast numbers of Colombians with a cocaine habit.

Yes, I am repeating myself, hoping you will understand at some point.

noddyholder · 12/11/2009 16:23

babyb you are misinformed actually.Colombians legally can and do take cocaine and the authoritie have been trying to deal with the situation for yr.There are a lot more of them taking it than us.I remember a few yr ago reading an article in a sunday paper about how the problem of trying to deal with all the addicts was one of the worst in the world.

noddyholder · 12/11/2009 16:24

My s key is sticky orry about the mistakes!

babybarrister · 12/11/2009 16:42

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noddyholder · 12/11/2009 16:52

More over there than here

CoteDAzur · 13/11/2009 14:41

By babybarrister Tue 10-Nov-09 22:21:21
you are totatlly wrong about coke use in Colombia - they don't use in the main - they sell. The users in Colombia tend to be the foreigners surprise, surprise...

Wrong.

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