to discipline my 13 month old?

[meltedchocolate]

He is my first DC.

He undertands when i am asking him not to do something (I say 'no' firmly) and knows fine well when he is being naughty. (He waits for me not to look and then runs over to whatever it is) If I have said no on several occassions and he still isnt listening i gentely slap the back of his hand (not that this seems to bother him in the slightest ) I also do the no and maybe slap hand bit when he throws one of his (unbelievable and reletively common) temper tantrums.

Sometimes I feel like I am being too harsh on him and sometimes i deffinately feel my mother thinks i am too harsh on him but he has such a temper (no idea where he could have got it from ) and he does know he is being naughty.

AIBU to discipline him like this? I hope I am not doing too much but I dont really know how to discipline him at the age he is at when he cant talk yet. How do you all discipline a child of this age?

the OP totally utterly gets that now, pran, fear not. she's had an epiphany and everything.

It wasn't until I had baby number 2 that I realised that at 13 months they really are just babies.
OH, don't worry about it...we're all muddling along in this parenting lark if we're being honest. We're learning all the time and making fuck-ups...well I am!

Please, please don't put marmite in his mouth. You don't want to make eating a stressful, scary experience for him, do you?

Sorry OP I'm always doing that!I read pages 1 and 2 than post without realising that the discussion has moved on.

Who are you talking to po?

I wouldn't do that. It would never be in the house for one thing but like you said i want to make sure he eats well and doesn't relate food with stress, a chore or punishment.

That's OK pran - Your opinion echoed everyone elses and I appreciate it - late or not.

Hey melted, glad you had a better day. Amazing how much stress lifts off your shoulders when you realise you don't have to be a stern Victorian disciplinarian, isn't it?

All of you that have slated this new mother should feel ashamed of yourself!, this is a forum where mothers should be empowered, atleast she shared her problem, opposed to repressing her emotions and behaviour at the expense of her son...what if she was mentally fragile as a result of your comments? Many women suffer from post natal depression and such fowl criticisms are uncalled for...we can point our flaws but dont need to be insulting. We ALL have made mistakes raising our children, thank God for learning curves! Melted chocolate...your human like the rest of us that probably have even bigger issues x

I am so stunned by your post!! He is only just one and your slapping his hand? What are you going to do when he is three? Slap him round the head? Dear God

Distract distract distract, he is only testing the boundaries and he can easily be deflected to something else. If he still want to do the same thing start saying you can see a mouse or a frog behind the curtains. He will then think of something else. What pees me off is that you are teaching him to hit other children. Probably mine!

gifty- we all do make mistakes when parenting, although this mother seems to be doubting herself about how she is dealing with her BABY, so if she knows this then why post it in the 1st place, sorry, this just makes me so cross.....

I dont think Op will reply, she posted this nearly a year ago

ooops

Kitcat this thread is nearly a year old. If you read all of it you will see the OPs replies.

At 13 nonths I would just say no and remove him or distract him, He is too young for any more than that. Don't punish for tempr tantrums

Bollox it is a year old. Happy birthday smacky child