for resenting having to look after friends child

[Kamikatze]

I'm an older mum with two kids at uni and my 7 yr old surprise dd still living at home (kind of obvious?) Anyway, I've been thru the hectic young mum years when I never seemed to find time to just smell the roses and am now enjoying every minute of being with my dd, just chilling.
When my dd first started school I was approached by a mum with a son same age as dd. I had not made any effort to socialise at the school gate, been there done that, except for of course slight chitchat and making play dates and so on. ANYWAY(will I ever get to the point?)
This other mum, Jane, decided to get a part time job cos she was bored at home. Her dh works 9 to 5 and is always home to bath kids, make dinner. My dh is often away on business trips and hardly ever home bfore dds bedtime. I'm used to it and these days, don't get uptight about it.
Jane has started calling me several times a week to ask me to pick up her kid and keep him at ours until she or her dh comes to pick him up. I don't work away from home so feel guilty to say no, but I resent having to look after her son so many times a week. I want to spend this time with my dd and no one else. I wouldn't say anything if my dd was happy with the situation but she isn't happy specially cos she's in the "boys are yukky" phase. I feel bad for resenting this child and overcompensate by being extra nice to him which leaves dd feeling jealous. Can anyone come up with an idea of how I can get out of this very one sided arrangement, or should I just accept it and say nothing? Maybe I'm just an old kvetcher and should hang my head in shame for getting pissed off about small things? Please advice!!

bloody well done you!

she's got a screw loose. none of her arguments make any sense!

God i love MN . Enjoy the meal and drink, ignore all her crap she is trying to make herself feel better by putting you down. You sound like a lovely, kind, sensitive person who is a fantastic mum to her dd.

Wow, her poor son is going to grow up with no manners at all with a mother who makes a public spectacle of herself like that. Completely out of order.

Well done Kami! If her dh DARES to call you, tell him you are not a childminder and they need to make proper formal childcare arrangements. And that you are shocked that a mother could shout at you in the street, upsetting her son and your dd.

Well done Kami - Jane sounds like a horrible person. I hope you feel proud of yourself for standing up to her, and showing your daughter that she comes first.

If this bitchwoman gossips like you said she does, ignore it, sounds like the typical playground bully, who makes herself look big by getting people to side with her. She is no friend, they dont do that at all, she is just a user

Well done Kami

The woman is indeed a loon! A huge huge loon! Well done for being assertive, I am in awe of you.
And from now on ignore ignore ignore any attempts of her to talk to you / talk at you. Don't listen to tittle tattle at the school gates - you said you were worried about her turning the other mums against you, well I think the other mums will work out what she is like soon enough!

Stay strong and enjoy the time with your dd.

And enjoy that drink!!

If she does gossip, I'd take great delight in explaining how she's dumped her son on you X days a week for Y length of time and treated you like an unpaid childminder.

What a Bitch!!

Well done you, if anyone says anything in the playgrond, just say you where sick of being an unpaid childminder and being tied down.

Weirdo.(her not you again )

I really don't get why he called you about taking a taxi and wtf has he got to phone you about anyway? You have given them £100's of childcare for free and she berates you in the street? Fucking hell!

OMG - you couldn't write that stuff! What an utter cow.

Just imagine if you had kept on doing that for her for another couple of years, you'd still probably have got that response. You had a lucky escape.

The things she said were just nasty. You and your daughter sound lovely. 'Quiet boring life' my arse. Sending her child round to someone's house after school even though he (allegedly) doesn't like the child because she is too frazzled to cope with them is a better life is it?

Please don't dwell on it. I know you will, but seriously, she sounds deranged.

Well done Kami - so proud for you - hope you enjoy every moment with your beautiful dd and forget this silly mare.

Ah brilliant - well done Kami!! The fact that Jane started shouting stuff that doesn't even makes sense just shows how well rid of her you are. She had no justification whatsoever. Just think of all those lovely afternoons ahead - for you and DD! It's tough to confront people like this but you did it - fantastic!
I am a "busy working mum" and guess what, no-one owes me any free childcare because I get a wage!

Well done Kami!
She sounds like a complete loon!

She sounds awful. Well done for standing up to her. cheeky cow!

Wow kami, well done you for telling her no - and OMG what a farkin' loon she turned out to be.

Hope you enjoyed that wine... have the bottle, I'll post you another!!

For your sake, I hope there isn't a second instalment to this, but if there is, you know we're solidly behind you.

Holy cow. Am still in at her behaviour.

well done kami

well done, she is a huge freako please imagine the earth just opened and swallowed her whole and never waste any of your precious time on her again.

Well done Kami, it can't have been nice being on the end of her deranged tirade.

Still, as we all suspected she is a using cow. You now have proof. Did she ever thank you for everything you did for her? No, she just threw it all back in your face. FWIW most of the other mums at the playground probably all have the measure of her anyway. She will be sniffing out her next innocent suspect to take advantage of.

Well done,