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Original poster

..to suspect that all the peopel refusing to see parents at xmas are hte ones

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AlaskaNebraska · 30/10/2009 20:27

who have kittens when parents dont want to see school plays, 1st birthdays, horrendous 8ths birthdays ?

or not
you cant have it both ways

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AlaskaNebraska · 30/10/2009 20:28
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fishie · 30/10/2009 20:32

it makes me remember that thread about mothers of boys thinking twice before slagging their mils for wanting to be with their own sons.

dh doesn't really like xmas with my family, but his mum is dead so no alternative. there is no way i'd want to be just us, how dismal. beside i will have to host it eventually, may as well enjoy someone else's hospitality while i can.

PlantASeedWatchItGrow · 30/10/2009 20:34
Hmm
Lilyloooohhhh · 30/10/2009 20:35

TBH we usually spend xmas trying to see everyone.
I just accept that's the way it is with kids and all.
I get to spend time with me , dp and kids any time of the year ..

cory · 30/10/2009 20:44

I wouldn't know which Mumsnetters are which in this respect.

But I have to say it sounds a fair deal: You don't have to do Christmas round our way, and I don't have to sit through another nightmare evening of school children squeaking out Twinkle Twinkle on their recorders.

Even my mother might be tempted by that one

StewieGriffinsMom · 30/10/2009 20:45

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deaddei · 30/10/2009 20:53

I'm with Stewie.
I would love to have a house brimming with extended family who all get on- but life's not like that for us.
DH has no relationship with his parents, I don't like them, my parents dead.
Oh the Good Housekkeeping December issue looks idyllic, but it isn't going to happen in my house.
We enjoy ourselves in our own way.....

Jux · 30/10/2009 20:55

I am delighted that I don't have to spend Xmas with ILs. If they want to come to birthdays and plays and things, they're welcome to do so, but they don't.

scottishmummy · 30/10/2009 21:00

i think you are making sweeping generalisations.

Ronaldinhio · 30/10/2009 21:03

why do you have to bring innocent kittens into it? eh?

MillyR · 30/10/2009 21:07

I don't know if what you are saying is true or not. it would seem more likely that people who didn't get on with their parents would try to avoid them wherever possible, including Christmas and school plays and birthdays.

alwayslookingforanswers · 30/10/2009 21:12

I don't want to see my parents at Christmas - I wouldn't want them at school plays etc either.

Unfortunately for me I'll have to put with them near DS2's 6th birthday as they'd already made arrangements to come down (for something else - not the birthday - which has since been postponed), still as DH pointed out if I let them come at that time then hopefully I'll have a relaxed and stress free Christmas where the're not involved.

LetThereBeRock · 30/10/2009 21:13

YABU.How do you know what their circumstances are?
One won't automatically get along with one's family just because they are family.

And because someone has given birth or fathered a child it doesn't automatically mean that they'll be pleasant people who you'd want to be around. They could be vile.

Scaredycat3000 · 30/10/2009 21:14
Hmm
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AlaskaNebraska · 30/10/2009 21:14

always
then its not about you is it
its about people who dont want them at XMas for whatever reason " its inconvenient" but then expect unbridled interest hte rest of the eyar

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Lonicera · 30/10/2009 21:15

Even my dh didn't come to my 8 yr old's birthday treat

LetThereBeRock · 30/10/2009 21:15

And how do you know that they expect 'unbridled interest' in their children? What makes you think that you can speak for everyone?

scottishmummy · 30/10/2009 21:15

you are doing much back peddling to no avail.still a honking op

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AlaskaNebraska · 30/10/2009 21:16

what is it with you
its a MN htread not an academic study
i am WONDEING if that is the case.
i am not going aorund rining every one before i start hte thread to find some kind of hypothesis

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Lonicera · 30/10/2009 21:16

Actually I amwrong, it was the 7th birthday, he was there for the 8th

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AlaskaNebraska · 30/10/2009 21:17

"speak for eveeryone"

gah

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scottishmummy · 30/10/2009 21:18

oooh arent you touchy!

Lonicera · 30/10/2009 21:18

Oooh lots of heated posts I'm too slow

AitchTwoToTangOh · 30/10/2009 21:19

"dh doesn't really like xmas with my family, but his mum is dead so no alternative. " terrible that this made me snoooooooort with laughter, fishie.

don't see what's so wrong with the OP, btw. does it refer to another thread or something?

cory · 30/10/2009 21:19

I am fortunate enough to actually enjoy Christmas round my parents, to the extent that we actually spend half our holiday money on air tickets. But school concerts are a horror apart; there is no way I would want to inflict those on my parents, even if they did live just round the corner. Just a totally different dimension of horror. I don't want to be there either!