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to dump her stuff in her front garden.

86 replies

TheFinger2 · 25/10/2009 20:29

My best friend and matron of honour at my wedding is no longer talking to me. It appears that she has in her mind that I have done something outrageously nasty to her. But I have wracked my brain and can't think of one occasion where she could have a reason to hate me. This is best seen in context I have stood by her even when she on purpose bit me on my hen party leaving teeth marks, changing all the bridesmaids outfits for my wedding then telling me that she had done so after she had done it and generally talking behind my back to friends trying to put me down, they have all stood by me.

I think i have been reasonable but would like others thoughts. I have tried texting her, email and calling her but I get no response.

I am now at a crossroads and can see that she does not want to remain friends but I have parts her kitchen cabinets stored in my garage, am I being unreasonable to just leave them, with a note of course, in her front garden.

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FiveGoMadonTheDanceFloor · 25/10/2009 20:32

my BIL has just said to rearrange this popular phrase, off and f*

Tortington · 25/10/2009 20:32

send her a message tell ing her to collect them or you will dispose of them.

anything else is an episode of easteners - you looking for the drama so you can find closure to the question of why this person won't speak to you.

if you seriously don't know and you are confident in your moral compass then fuck her

MenWhoStareAtMe · 25/10/2009 20:32

she bit you?

scottishmummy · 25/10/2009 20:34

sounds like something from Jeremy kyle,scrapping,biting,she said i said. oh and kitchen cabinet of sourse

JustAnotherManicMummy · 25/10/2009 20:35

And you want to be friends with this person because..?

JustAnotherManicMummy · 25/10/2009 20:36

lol at Jeremy Kyle. Very true.

SquIDGEyeyeballs · 25/10/2009 20:38

Your best friend treats you like this?

Jeez I'd hate to see how people you don't get on with treat you!

scottishmummy · 25/10/2009 20:45

fess up did you tell people about her secret willy?
call her pint a puff?
shag her man?
shag her mum?

DorotheaPlentighoul · 25/10/2009 20:47

at secret willy

kneedeepinthedirtylaundry · 25/10/2009 20:48

freecycle the cabinets!

BratleyEatsBrainsForBreakfast · 25/10/2009 20:51

lol scottishmummy

Send her a text, tell her you don't know what you've done and you're not interested in playing silly games to find out of grovelling at her feet, tell her to come and collect her stuff by a certain date or you'll put it out with the rubbish.

Doesn't sound like a friendship worth fighting for tbh.

IMoveTheStarsForNoOne · 25/10/2009 20:52

Ditch the cabinets - leaving them in her garden is far too reasonable

scottishmummy · 25/10/2009 20:53

do you live in larkhall?sounds normal for larkhall

herjazz · 25/10/2009 21:00

would you shit in the cabinets first?

nah. I'd just leave them where they were if I wasn't arsed about space or stick em on freecycle if I was

She sounds an utter turd. I'd have no desire for any contact ever again if I were you. I'd prob have felt like this after the biting incident tho. Bloodyhell

scottishmummy · 25/10/2009 21:03

deep question.would you shit in a mates cupboard?

maybe that's why she hates her?
if it is wall mounted how do you get yer arse that high

6feetundertheGroundhogs · 25/10/2009 21:09

Hang on, she BIT you, on your Hen night (sounds painful!)

She changed YOUR bridesmaids dresses, without talking to you

AND (as if that weren't enough..)

Bitched about you behind your back.

You are still calling or texting her precisely BECAUSE???????????

FFS Skip her FFing cabinets, Skip her FFing friendship and don't give her a nano-seconds thought.

I've have ditched her at the dresses BTW, BITE me and she'd lose her ffing hair, not to mention her invite to my bloody wedding.

Don't EVER contact, nor acknowledge that excuse for a woman again.

She is clearly green with envy over your life/marriage/happiness and has done everything in her power to sabotage your happiness (and would continue to do so if you stupidly ever give her the time of day).

Original poster
TheFinger2 · 25/10/2009 21:13

The bite was on the thigh and left teeth marks it was no way friendly. I have got to the point she is a bit of a fremeny, i.e. pretends to be your friend but is really your enemy. You are all correct, just needed the reassurance that I was not being out of order dumping her stuff in her garden, don't want to leave the stuff out for collection as I have to pay for the privilege. Where as she lives only 100 yards away (too close I hear you all say) so shall i dump it in her garden. It may seem petty but thought of the inconvenience to her makes me smile.

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RealityBites · 25/10/2009 21:15

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scottishmummy · 25/10/2009 21:16

fuck sake how intimate do you gals get.she bit your thigh.how did that happen

HerBewitcheditude · 25/10/2009 21:20

It's all very soap opera.

Do people behave like this nowadays?

scottishmummy · 25/10/2009 21:21

do you play the banjo and sit on da porch spitting.is your sister your cousin

BratleyEatsBrainsForBreakfast · 25/10/2009 21:23

No! Leave them on her next door neighbours garden!
Make sure her name's on them somewhere.

She's a right Scary Mary by the sound of it!

Original poster
TheFinger2 · 25/10/2009 21:52

scottishmummy she bit me through my clothes after i'd complained about a briuse on my other thigh!
also i do not play the banjo (or the fanjo for that matter),my sister is not my cousin and no i dont have 12 toes either!!

Youre all right ,this does sound a bit soap opera.I've decicded that i'm being too much of a whimp and to say fuck off to her.I dont care if its unreasonable to dump her crap in her garden - i'm just going to do it.

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Twintummy · 25/10/2009 21:54

She sounds like a total cunt.

scottishmummy · 25/10/2009 21:56

hell it all sounds so JKyle!grow a spine chose some friends who dont bite you.as a general rule mates dont bite

anyhoo

how did you be coming to show her the bruise on your thigh?

or is that another aibu