to want a Honeymoon with no children?

[Fruitbatlings]

We got married in September and are planning to go away at the end of Feb/beginning March.

We have two children. DS1 is 4yrs and DS2 is 7 months.

I am a Childminder, obviously working from home

DH works all day everyday in central London.

DH wants to bring the children with us
I don't

My argument is, much as I love spending time with our children (and the mindees) I am with our children 24/7.
My dream of a honeymoon is somewhere hot and tropical with no sounds of children, just me and DH for a whole week - peace and quiet!
I really feel like I am due a well deserved break.

DH's argument is, he never really gets to spend time with the children except on weekends.
He is suggesting somewhere like Turkey with a kids club

I've suggested we take 10 days off, go somewhere for a week with no children then take them to Disneyland Paris for 3 days.

He wants to take them to the beach.

I'm going to show this to DH, so how would you feel, if you were either of us? and what would you do?

Awww, bless you! There's nothing worse than a man hanging around, getting under your feet when he should be at work, let alone when he's completely pissed you off to boot!

Has he not even apologised?

he did try to over the phone at 6.15 this morning but then got cut off, I tried ringing back but (I didn't recognise the number) he didn't answer.

He's not apologised since. I just feel like I need a hell of a lot more than a "sorry" Don't know what - a bit of grovelling would be a start

fucking men! Aaaaagggghhhhhh. They're a pain in the arse! I've had such a lovely weekend, now I'm miserable and I want to punch his lights out (not normally a violent person!)

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carribean in march is fab

i got married in antigua - was lovely

mildmanneredjanitor - well in hindsight, yes of course you are right.
I can't understand why it's such a big taboo to leave your children for 7 days out of their entire life. Especially when they will be with close family.
Anyway, looks like I'll be going childless and husbandless now - I can't bloody wait!

aww fruity dont say that

i know dh is being a bit of a prat at the moment but hopefully he will mature and sort things out

i think it is good for parents to have time away from their children and be hubby/wife/lovers again and not just mum and dad

i do pp (proxy parenting - looking after children 24/7 while parents away) and as long as children are cared for by someone they know/love most dont care that mum and dad are away

Well, he has just walked through the door with a bunch of flowers and is cooking dinner so he must be feeling a little guilty. Have just put DC's to bed so will have it out with him in a minute.
I'm going to give him an ultimatum re the honeymoon. Either we go away without the children or I go away with a friend and he can have the boys and either go away with them or stay at home. I really think I deserve this break, it's one week ffs!

Anyway, ooh proxy parenting, I didn't realise there was such a thing. Great idea for people who don't have family nearby

What happened?

Well, I had to ask him for a decent verbal apology (as the first one was a drunken muffled one over the phone which was cut off mid sentence). He says he's really sorry and it's the alcohol which makes him behave like that.

What happened was, he arrived in Richmond at lunchtime on Sunday (from working in Liverpool) and met up with friends and just spent the whole time on a drinking binge with his "mates". I asked him why he just didn't come straight home like he was supposed to? He said he was still drunk from the night before (they all went out after the job - he was driven back to London btw!)
Says he only does it now and again when he has too much to drink.....FFS, Don't do it at all!
He knows he's got to grow up and be a responsible adult. Said he needs to stop going out drinking (duh!)

We'll see how it goes, I still can't really talk to him. Can't really forgive him. I should, but it's happened so much in the past that I'm past caring. He's got serious amount of sucking up to do!

Nice flowers, btw, and dinner was lovely

Fruit, I'm coming to this v late in the day, but YANBU at all. Jeez. My DH and I have made a pact that every 6 months we will go away for three days on our own (am already chomping at the bit waiting for our 3 days in Venice in December). It's just pure and basic relationship maintenance. You NEED time when you have shag till all hours/stay out late dancing/lie in until 11am/eat dinner without having to rush home - all in a holiday environment, preferably with cocktails on tap. I cannot believe the people on here who accuse you of not wanting to be with your kids. You had a life before them and you are entitled to a life after them. Sounds like DS is just not spending enough time with his kids - I suggest he stop spending time in the pub and comes home a bit!!!

what did he say about your suggestion?

yes I do pp - though I cost lots - but i am fab

thanks LittleOne, I know it makes perfect sense. You can't be with your children 24/7 without a decent break! Especially when you're around children for a living.

Not made suggestion yet. Trying to avoid having to speak to him tbh...

Of course you're fab Blondes, worth every penny I'm sure

indeed i am

course you need a break

you have children 24/7/52

ask tell dh what you want

as he is in the dog house - he should be grovelling

how can he not want to spend a few days/week with his lovely wife?