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AIBU?

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Original poster

to become an extended bfeeder just to wind my friends up?

148 replies

AutomatedAlice · 08/10/2009 15:53

I was talking with two friends who have similar aged babies (about 11 months) when I said I didn't know when I'll stop breastfeeding. One said,'but at 12 months they go on to cow's milk', and the other said, 'but when you get pregnant with your second you'll have to stop'. So I started playing devil's advocate and mentioned tandem feeding (which actually sounds like quite hard work to me). Both were horrified at the thought.

AIBU to continue bfeeding indefinitely just to see their reaction?

(Sorry if I should have put this in the feeding topic, but I've never had an AIBU thread )

OP posts:
StealthPolarBear · 08/10/2009 15:54

well yes yabu if that's really why you're doing it! but if you're doing it because you don't see any reason to stop then that's fair enough

nickelbabe · 08/10/2009 15:55

sounds like a great idea to me.

tell them cow's milk is for calves, not humans!

moaningminniewhingesagain · 08/10/2009 15:56

YANBU. I love it every time my MIL says he's getting ' a bit big for this now', he is 9mo. I said I plan to carry on until he says 'please remove that breast from my mouth mother'

belgo · 08/10/2009 15:57

YANBU! I understand the feeling of wanting to continue breastfeeding just to feel 'rebellious' when everyone around you thinks you should stop.

Original poster
AutomatedAlice · 08/10/2009 15:58

there is a small possibility that winding my friends up is not my only motivation...

OP posts:
StealthPolarBear · 08/10/2009 16:01

Do it!

Jacksmamwahahaha · 08/10/2009 16:07

YANBU. Go for it. I'm absolutely certain that winding them up isn't your sole motivation. I get so pissed off when people make stupid comments about breastfeeding toddlers. I usually quote the World Health Organization guidelines, and if that doesn't shut them up, give them my "seriously -- fuck off" look.
Good for you.

Indith · 08/10/2009 16:09

I shall keep going to annoy my "how long are you going to feed this one for" father. I was most seriously displeased when ds decided to quit.

missmama · 08/10/2009 16:10

I plan to carry on until he says 'please remove that breast from my mouth mother'

Liking this plan and such beautiful manners!

crazylizzy · 08/10/2009 16:11

YANBU. Anyhoo, I tandem fed, it's not hard.

Jacksmamwahahaha · 08/10/2009 16:12

I'll wean when he says "Mother may I please have some delicious breast milk"

GhostWriter · 08/10/2009 16:16

I'm going to train 2.5yr old dd to say 'I'm not a calf' when MIL asks if she wouldn't prefer some milk out of the fridge. She turned round the other day and told MIL that 'cow's milk is too cold, mummy milk is lovely and warm and comes out of a booby'.

MIL looked like I'd urinated on her best china.

StealthPolarBear · 08/10/2009 16:18

MIL was amused recently when she asked DS where milk comes from and he said "mummy". Well it was either going to be that or the fridge

MoonlightMcKenzie · 08/10/2009 16:19

YABU, Told you it was all for the mother!

mawbroon · 08/10/2009 16:20

Mine already asks very politely for milk. Even when he is really upset!!

He was crying the other day and I asked what would make him feel better and through his sobs, he said "please can I have some of your milk to calm me down, that would be lovely" [awww]

Indith · 08/10/2009 16:27
HKT · 08/10/2009 16:29

YANBU - breastfeeding your baby is the best way, for as long as either of you need to, if you can keep going and it pisses off people who have the ignorant attitude that bfeeding is done for the mother, then all the better

Pixel · 08/10/2009 16:40

I BF ds for 3.5 years but as I had two friends who carried on for longer than me I luckily didn't get any comments from them.

Btw, ds is now 9 years old, nearly as tall as me and still non-verbal. Thank goodness I didn't wait for any polite requests from him! .

Jacksmamwahahaha · 08/10/2009 17:49

Awwww mabroon at your little DS - what had upset him?

pjmama · 08/10/2009 17:54

I stopped bfing my dt when they were 16 months old. They we're perfectly happy to go to bed without it but I cried for an hour!! (DH's quips about "Aw look, they don't need you anymore " didn't help - git.

Sod what your friends think and keep going for as long as you are all happy to!

mummygirl · 08/10/2009 17:56

OP YANBU

You won't be able to bf indefinately, you dc will at some point wean themselves, but not for a few years yet, so go on and do it, show the cows (no pun indended)

MoonlightMcKenzie · 08/10/2009 18:08

lol, - I know an adult who can breastfeed!

ChunkyMonkeysMum · 08/10/2009 18:36

My auntie breastfed her 4th child (DS2) until he was 3. Sorry, but it was too much for me to see this child running around, eating sweets, then coming over, lifting her top and saying "Boobie pease mummy" whilst playing with nipple on her other breast at the same time.......Gross !!!

Needless to say, that actually put me off breastfeeding myself.

franklymydear · 08/10/2009 18:38

By mawbroon on Thu 08-Oct-09 16:20:32
Mine already asks very politely for milk. Even when he is really upset!!

He was crying the other day and I asked what would make him feel better and through his sobs, he said "please can I have some of your milk to calm me down, that would be lovely" [awww]

yuk

surely the child should be saying "may I"

pigletmania · 08/10/2009 18:45

so you do Moonligh,t and do they still bf i wonder at this late age, Moonlight sorry in that case its bitty bitty then