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to ask friend, who came from abroad to visit new baby & family, to leave?

473 replies

RenderedSpeechless · 07/10/2009 11:48

This is my first AIBU, please be gentle with me. i really am in a dilemma about this and willing to consider all viewpoints. she in in house with me now, so typing fast. apols in advance for typos and poss having to 'reveal by stealth'. tia

friend came last week to visit me, newborn and family. after two days she states that she came on open ticket and had come to 'help'. however, as my cousin is living with and helping me, my friend has decided to get a job until christmas, before flying back home.

so, yesterday, she enquired in the local shopping centre and updated her cv. this has MY address and phone number on. she didnt ask in advance and i was too chicken to say anything at the time. im worried this is the thin end of the wedge and that she will need bank account, NI number etc in my address.

the overall situation is far from ideal. she is sleeping on the settee, has a bag in the hallway and another in my bedroom. there are a total of 7 people now living in my 3 bedroom home. no mention has been made,by me or her, about this arrangement. am usually mindful to use appliances at night, when its cheaper. she puts on heating, washing machine, tumble drier without a second thought and its starting to rile me. she also involves with managing children, to which i have commented, but i dont want her to feel gauche and unwelcome. i feel bad typing this post and maybe shouldnt say anything? i have 3 week old, is it my hormones and aibu?

OP posts:
stripeysock · 09/10/2009 22:11

marking my place

Kayzr · 09/10/2009 22:12

As long as she hasn't started crying and making the OP feel bad.

Alibooobaandthe40phantoms · 09/10/2009 22:12

Either there is an almighty row in progress, the OP is weeping with relief and needs to pull herself together, or this is a brilliant joke thread.

nofarkingway · 09/10/2009 22:13

my vote is for a fabaroonie joke thread

WingedVictory · 09/10/2009 22:13

By the way, JustAnotherManicMummy [cool name!], Nessum Dorma is a great choice, as it means "None shall sleep".

I ought to be in bed, and so ought most of us. MN is very naughty.

TheTampaxTeaLady · 09/10/2009 22:14

No update then? bah.

JustAnotherManicMummy · 09/10/2009 22:14

Nooooooooooooooooo! Don't say that

6feetundertheGroundhogs · 09/10/2009 22:15

Consider it done purplecrazyhorse.... LOL!

Mini treacle tartlet anyone?

WingedVictory · 09/10/2009 22:15

Right, bedtime! Mummy can dish the orders, but she must also take them

WickedWitchSouthWest · 09/10/2009 22:16

yum yes pls 6feetunder. Glass of red?

Alibooobaandthe40phantoms · 09/10/2009 22:16

Yes please 6feet

We have no pudding here, 'tis a sad state of affairs.

Ineedmorechocolatenow · 09/10/2009 22:16

Gah... wanted an update before bed...

KEAWYED · 09/10/2009 22:17

I'm gong for wine.

addictedtosuckingblood · 09/10/2009 22:17

I recon the op has gone to bed!!

paranoidmother · 09/10/2009 22:18

right am off to be - marking place to find it before work in the morning night all >

KEAWYED · 09/10/2009 22:18

I'm going to catch up in the morning.

My brain is frazzled

6feetundertheGroundhogs · 09/10/2009 22:18

OOh, wickedwitch.. you shouldn't have

Kayzr · 09/10/2009 22:19

Me too. I can feel my eyes closing.

I bet she updates after we all go.

KEAWYED · 09/10/2009 22:19

I'm still checking arghh!

MUST LEAVE COMPUTER

monkeysavingexpertdotcom · 09/10/2009 22:20

Just going for a GU pud. I'll waddle back in a bit. Hurry up Rendered, it's pack of three.

Wonderstuff · 09/10/2009 22:21

why when I know I can watch the peep show tomorrow do I feel the need to stay up tonight?
Definitly going to bed after that.

summerisover · 09/10/2009 22:21

joke thread methinks.............

RenderedSpeechless · 09/10/2009 22:22

IM BACK!

this is, unfortunately real and not a joke thread. wish it was a joke though.

yes, she's gone. yes, there were tears - lots of them, yes, i feel guilty. dp doesnt understand the double-female emotional overload. db was similarly flummoxxed.

i paused for alcohol before i returned to post this. im feeling light shit, but the booze is drowning those emotions. damn easyjet and cheap flights from italy.

she laid it on thickly - whoever said it'd be a mumbled goodbye was right! hugged everyone else long and tight. dp told her not to be too sad as she would see us again. she said "i dont think so", read my mind i reckon.

so, she's gone. and that's the end of the saga.

OP posts:
monkeysavingexpertdotcom · 09/10/2009 22:22

No, too much detail surely to be a wind-up?

monkeysavingexpertdotcom · 09/10/2009 22:24

See? Well done Rendered, and phew!