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to ask friend, who came from abroad to visit new baby & family, to leave?

473 replies

RenderedSpeechless · 07/10/2009 11:48

This is my first AIBU, please be gentle with me. i really am in a dilemma about this and willing to consider all viewpoints. she in in house with me now, so typing fast. apols in advance for typos and poss having to 'reveal by stealth'. tia

friend came last week to visit me, newborn and family. after two days she states that she came on open ticket and had come to 'help'. however, as my cousin is living with and helping me, my friend has decided to get a job until christmas, before flying back home.

so, yesterday, she enquired in the local shopping centre and updated her cv. this has MY address and phone number on. she didnt ask in advance and i was too chicken to say anything at the time. im worried this is the thin end of the wedge and that she will need bank account, NI number etc in my address.

the overall situation is far from ideal. she is sleeping on the settee, has a bag in the hallway and another in my bedroom. there are a total of 7 people now living in my 3 bedroom home. no mention has been made,by me or her, about this arrangement. am usually mindful to use appliances at night, when its cheaper. she puts on heating, washing machine, tumble drier without a second thought and its starting to rile me. she also involves with managing children, to which i have commented, but i dont want her to feel gauche and unwelcome. i feel bad typing this post and maybe shouldnt say anything? i have 3 week old, is it my hormones and aibu?

OP posts:
JustAnotherManicMummy · 09/10/2009 21:54

Come on OP... tis nearly 5 mins to Peep Show that 10pm deadline.

Don't make me count it down!

JustAnotherManicMummy · 09/10/2009 21:55

5 mins...

paranoidmother · 09/10/2009 21:56

F5 only does sound for me as on powerbook but I find apple and R works

spicybingowings · 09/10/2009 21:56

4 mins...

Alibooobaandthe40phantoms · 09/10/2009 21:57

Your brother said he couldn't stop long! By my watch it's now 36 minutes since he arrived!

JustAnotherManicMummy · 09/10/2009 21:58

3 mins and counting...

JustAnotherManicMummy · 09/10/2009 21:58

2 mins...

nofarkingway · 09/10/2009 21:58

Oh come on am i the only one that is a leeeetle bit miffed with this thread?

The OP has a 3 week old baby and a farking housefull? seriously who would even entertain the idea of letting the unwanted not even invited guest to stay. As soon as she turned up you would have sain errrrr no im abit busy with my new baby 2 children and a dp and i already have help staying here!!!!

JustAnotherManicMummy · 09/10/2009 21:59

1 minute!

ZacharyQuack · 09/10/2009 22:00

3

spicybingowings · 09/10/2009 22:01

Yes.

ZacharyQuack · 09/10/2009 22:02

damn

Kayzr · 09/10/2009 22:02

She must have gone now!!

Maybe OP is dancing!

6feetundertheGroundhogs · 09/10/2009 22:04

Italian clinging onto leg, OP kicking her off while reaching for bottle...

You kidding citron? she's fallen on that bottle she's been hiding in the fridge.. she's still dancing.

WingedVictory · 09/10/2009 22:04

Ohhhh!

And why is my internet connexion so rubbish at the moment! Bl*y wireless!

Pwsimerimew · 09/10/2009 22:05

what if we all count to ten and shout at OP so she remembers that we're glued to the screen. She might hear us if we shout together.....

6feetundertheGroundhogs · 09/10/2009 22:05

MN overloading it WingedVictory...

Off to find cake and turn up heating...

PurpleCrazyHorse · 09/10/2009 22:07

Sent DH upstairs to change DD1 and will feed her down here while balancing laptop on knees... must know outcome before sleeping... will regret this tomorrow though

WingedVictory · 09/10/2009 22:08

By the way, JustAnotherManicMummy [cool name], Nessum Dorma is a great choice, as it means "None shall sleep".

I ought to be in bed, and so ought most of us. MN is very naughty.

Kayzr · 09/10/2009 22:08

I am resisting the urge to go to bed. ZZZZZZZ

JustAnotherManicMummy · 09/10/2009 22:08

Do you think she might need rescuing?

Or maybe she's settling down with a nice cup of champagne tea and a packet of biccies to celebrate in front of Peep Show?

BrokenBananaTantrum · 09/10/2009 22:09

come on come on come on WTF is happening????????

PurpleCrazyHorse · 09/10/2009 22:09

Ohhh... turning up heating... I'm freezing!

Anyone fancy making me a nice warm cuppa? I have a big bar of choc to share (was for rice krispie cakes, but needs must)

aristoBLACKcat · 09/10/2009 22:09

has she gone yet?

JustAnotherManicMummy · 09/10/2009 22:10

WingedVictory.