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to ask friend, who came from abroad to visit new baby & family, to leave?

473 replies

RenderedSpeechless · 07/10/2009 11:48

This is my first AIBU, please be gentle with me. i really am in a dilemma about this and willing to consider all viewpoints. she in in house with me now, so typing fast. apols in advance for typos and poss having to 'reveal by stealth'. tia

friend came last week to visit me, newborn and family. after two days she states that she came on open ticket and had come to 'help'. however, as my cousin is living with and helping me, my friend has decided to get a job until christmas, before flying back home.

so, yesterday, she enquired in the local shopping centre and updated her cv. this has MY address and phone number on. she didnt ask in advance and i was too chicken to say anything at the time. im worried this is the thin end of the wedge and that she will need bank account, NI number etc in my address.

the overall situation is far from ideal. she is sleeping on the settee, has a bag in the hallway and another in my bedroom. there are a total of 7 people now living in my 3 bedroom home. no mention has been made,by me or her, about this arrangement. am usually mindful to use appliances at night, when its cheaper. she puts on heating, washing machine, tumble drier without a second thought and its starting to rile me. she also involves with managing children, to which i have commented, but i dont want her to feel gauche and unwelcome. i feel bad typing this post and maybe shouldnt say anything? i have 3 week old, is it my hormones and aibu?

OP posts:
scrimble · 09/10/2009 21:02

Ah you'll miss her when she's gone.

Naat · 09/10/2009 21:09

I'm glued to the laptop! and it's not even mine, I'm at a friend's house I just HAVE to know she's gone!!

Sending you strength vibes!!!

wilkos · 09/10/2009 21:09

god this thread is great!

makes cuppa and pulls up chair....

KEAWYED · 09/10/2009 21:10

Adverts on so I've dashed back

wilkos · 09/10/2009 21:11

whats going on??? [frantic] emoticon

preciouslillywhite · 09/10/2009 21:11

ta for the biccie, MaLopez

..have just read yesterday's bit that I missed. My jaw is on my keyboard once more

..she packed "her" food??

RenderedSpeechless · 09/10/2009 21:11

OK ANNOUNCEMENT! (anywatch watching Benidorm - any other such tv will be missing this!)

Have just got text from darling brother:
"On my way but cant stop for long.see you soon."

OP posts:
ladylush · 09/10/2009 21:12

She gone yet?

JodieO · 09/10/2009 21:12

Keep us updated, I'm refreshing the page all the time hehe.

preciouslillywhite · 09/10/2009 21:12

she'd better be gone before Peep Show

Kayzr · 09/10/2009 21:12

YAHOOOOOOOO!!!!!

KEAWYED · 09/10/2009 21:12

Yay glad I made this bit

Bugger I need more wine

ladylush · 09/10/2009 21:12

crossed post

Katisha · 09/10/2009 21:14

OK I need another 3 outriders to join me on my motorbike escort to make sure the DB arrives.

pigletmania · 09/10/2009 21:14

Oh goody RenderedSpeechless how is your 'friend' taking it are you on speaking terms

JJ · 09/10/2009 21:15

Yay! Find out what A.d. meant, too, if that's not too much to ask. I'm guessing "At dinner".

WickedWitchSouthWest · 09/10/2009 21:16

woohoo! go rendered, go rendered (in an irritating amercian stylee complete with dancing)

preciouslillywhite · 09/10/2009 21:17

katisha

IsItMeOr · 09/10/2009 21:18

Like you'd be concerned that DB wasn't going to be hanging about !

Have to go to bed now (not so small baby keeping us up nights emoticon), but will return in morning to check she has gone.

RenderedSpeechless · 09/10/2009 21:18

Getting the door!

OP posts:
Kayzr · 09/10/2009 21:19

I really should go and sit with DH but I can not pull myself away and my iPod isn't working

IsItMeOr · 09/10/2009 21:19

Oh no, I can't leave NOW!

WickedWitchSouthWest · 09/10/2009 21:19

sitting on edge of seat

citronella · 09/10/2009 21:20

I don't think she's going

Katisha · 09/10/2009 21:20

The MN chapter of Hell's Angels are on the case!