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to ask friend, who came from abroad to visit new baby & family, to leave?

473 replies

RenderedSpeechless · 07/10/2009 11:48

This is my first AIBU, please be gentle with me. i really am in a dilemma about this and willing to consider all viewpoints. she in in house with me now, so typing fast. apols in advance for typos and poss having to 'reveal by stealth'. tia

friend came last week to visit me, newborn and family. after two days she states that she came on open ticket and had come to 'help'. however, as my cousin is living with and helping me, my friend has decided to get a job until christmas, before flying back home.

so, yesterday, she enquired in the local shopping centre and updated her cv. this has MY address and phone number on. she didnt ask in advance and i was too chicken to say anything at the time. im worried this is the thin end of the wedge and that she will need bank account, NI number etc in my address.

the overall situation is far from ideal. she is sleeping on the settee, has a bag in the hallway and another in my bedroom. there are a total of 7 people now living in my 3 bedroom home. no mention has been made,by me or her, about this arrangement. am usually mindful to use appliances at night, when its cheaper. she puts on heating, washing machine, tumble drier without a second thought and its starting to rile me. she also involves with managing children, to which i have commented, but i dont want her to feel gauche and unwelcome. i feel bad typing this post and maybe shouldnt say anything? i have 3 week old, is it my hormones and aibu?

OP posts:
scrimble · 09/10/2009 21:20
MaLopez · 09/10/2009 21:20

That's all you're having.

Well done rendered. Now I can go and get my snack of a chicken drumstick. 33 weeks pregnant and that's my craving of the week!

wilkos · 09/10/2009 21:21

ooooh!!!

omit no detail of her leaving in your next post - the tears, the drama NOTHING!

Longtalljosie · 09/10/2009 21:22

She must be surely - what's she going to do, stage a sit-in?

Rendered - I honestly don't know how you've done this, you must have the patience of a saint dealing with a 3 week old and a freeloader all at the same time...

preciouslillywhite · 09/10/2009 21:23

I reckon it'll just be a frosty muttered "g'bye"

Katisha · 09/10/2009 21:23

She must be doing a last minute sweep of the kitchen...

Kayzr · 09/10/2009 21:23

She'll be getting her food.

Pwsimerimew · 09/10/2009 21:23

Champers on ice over here......

paranoidmother · 09/10/2009 21:24

I haven't refreshed a page so much since the penguin episode!

ladylush · 09/10/2009 21:24

Hope she doesn't cry over her capers

scrimble · 09/10/2009 21:25

Doubt Rendered will be saying "Come and see us again soon". Oh no.

AitchTwoToTangOh · 09/10/2009 21:25

oh my GOD this is just the most compelling thread.

italians who live with their parents, they really just don't have a clue, do they? even the nicest ones.

wilkos · 09/10/2009 21:26

dh is waiting to put a film on and is getting narky

I physically cannot leave my laptop.

MaLopez · 09/10/2009 21:27

Ciao, La Dolce vita Arrivedeci

Naat · 09/10/2009 21:28

I'm on the edge of my seat!!

KEAWYED · 09/10/2009 21:29

My husbands not happy with me.

Good on you Rendered you have got a lot more 'balls' than a lot of us

WickedWitchSouthWest · 09/10/2009 21:30

oooo this is so tense!

SolidGhoulBrass · 09/10/2009 21:30
Heated · 09/10/2009 21:30

The writing on the F5 button is starting to fade. Hurry Up!

WickedWitchSouthWest · 09/10/2009 21:31

lol heated!

Heated · 09/10/2009 21:31

That's to your Banquo-guest, not you Rendered

DuelingFANGo · 09/10/2009 21:32

no news?

preciouslillywhite · 09/10/2009 21:34

[dying for wee emoticon]

JustAnotherManicMummy · 09/10/2009 21:35

Remind me... was it a 10pm deadline?

Is no one doing a countdown?!

Katisha · 09/10/2009 21:35

Do you think there's a Big Row going on?
Or are they all having a goodbye drink?

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