to feel a bit sad after my scan today.

[sally78]

We have a lovely DS but he is very hard work.

This pregnancy has been so so so different and DH had his heart set on a girl........we are having another boy.

We are so lucky to be having a healthy baby and I am sure DH will get over it. The thing is everyone keeps saying "oh I bet you would love a girl, oh it must be you have been so ill, your so much rounder this time" etc etc etc.

I do feel a bit sad, I keep thinking about ballet classes and doing hair for school etc and a little like I'm missing out

Its terrible to feel like this I know I am BU.

I will gladly admit to being a smug mum of 3 girls. But that said, i would no doubt have been a smug mum of 3 boys had that been my destiny. I think that the bottom line is that it is just in my nature to be smug .

Chattermouse.
Although I doubt you will be so smug during the teen years when they all nick your lovely clothes and make up

(Neither will I when I am washing smelly football/rugby kit ad nauseum)

Exactly Lizzy, we all have it coming one way or another....

I wonder if anyone has done any research on that point, the smug mum of girls thing. Perhaps smug women are statistically more likely to have girls? . That would explain it, non?

It would explain me anyway....

That could be it, I am the most un-smug person ever, so I prove the point

Ok so it works for 2 out of 2 so far.

Anyone else care to test this theory? Are you a girl only mum and smug or a boy person and non-smug?

Cor Chattermouse, we are like, dead scientific, innit.

Agreed. Reckon we have cracked it here. some university will be along soon asking if we would be happy to share the outcome of our extensive MN research with them

brushing hair is NOT fun!!!
My DD bleats and moans and screams (yes screams) when I brush it, so no joyful moments there.
Boys are so much more easy going!!!

I have just girls and I'm as smug as hell.

nice furcoat
keep ti to yourself next time love

I also think mums of just girls are generally prettier. I imagine hanging round rainy, windy football pitches does nothing for your complexion and weekend activity clothes are better off being sensible and practical. But I may just be shit stirring now!

I'll do what I want thanks GoppingOtter.

sweet...

not so here

maybe you and I are the exceptions that prove the rule

This is not a reason NOT to find out what you're having, in fact it maybe is a reason so you can deal with any issues you have before the baby comes along. (I hate when people think you shouldn't find out anyway, it's very annoying because the reasons for finding out are personal and often quite deep)

You know deep down you are going to love the baby as soon as he pops out. You are just being honest about your feelings. You'll get over it in a couple of days when you realise how lucky you are to be having a healthy baby.

Well I'm not smug. Just pleased I got what I ideally wanted. I'm too busy and harrassed to give a shit what I look like.

Just read the last bits bout smug Mum's of girls... what are you all on about? I have one DD and another on the way. I grew up with 3 brothers, no sisters and to think I am going to have a girly house now is a bit of a shocker for me. I'm delighted to be having another DD (would have been just as delighted to have a DS) but not smug at all... Anyway, I thought the smug people were the one's who have one of each - you know the perfect nuclear family...

Sally - sorry have only really read beginning of your thread, so sorry if this has already been covered but can i ask whether you wish you hadn't found out? I have a 2yo ds and am now pregnant with our 2nd child, i am trying to decide whether to find out the sex as i would really like a girl. Are you glad you know it's a boy so you don't spend the rest of the pregnancy really hoping it's a girl? Like, you can now move on & start getting excited about having 2 boys which you obviously are now!! Thank you x

Right. I know this turned into a Jude bitchfest, but just wanted to comment to

lovechoc

What an absolutely HORRIBLE and terribly unthinking thing of you to say that 'If DS turns out to be gay, there's my idea of grandchildren buggered.'

I am a lesbian and we are both very excited about bringing children (and grandchildren!) into the world, as are dozens of gay male couples that we know. I'm very that you suggested if your son turns out to be gay you automatically lose your 'privilege' of grandchildren that he may afford you if he were to marry and procreate with a woman. He may choose to be a bachelor (straight or gay), marry a woman and not have children also? God, you've really fucked me off.

hate the expression bitchfest,so derogatory and inaccurate actually - and jude still came back and posted passive and bullied she isnt

posters,taking issue and discussing the points expressed by Jude does not equate to something akin to a brawl

Haven't read the whole thread,which is prob silly of me as it appears to have got heated in places..

Just had something to say that may give perspective to the op.

I have a boy,adore him. Really want another. Got pg, was delighted and we were hoping for another... Had 12 week scan which showed mmc.

At that point I would have done anything for there to just be a baby, a life in there. Nothing else mattered. And you would prob have felt the same.

And kids are not only defined by gender. I know a few wee girls that are 'hard work'!

show me a woman who has ten sons and ten daughters and I might just listen to her generalisations about boys and girls

She would probably be far too exhausted/busy to give an opinion.

This thread is very boring.
Girls, boys, boys girls blah blah bloody blah.

YANBU. Can't be arsed to expl....