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Original poster

sexist shite or me being precious?

143 replies

themoon66 · 24/09/2009 10:26

I am a member of a forum that is mostly blokes - www.theroadster.net

there are a small handful of women on it only.

Someone has posted this

I want it removing, but I know from previous experience I will get shouted down by blokes saying it is coz I am jealous, not as pretty, yadda yadda. All the usual lazy, ill-thought out responses really.

Also I know I will get very little to no support from the other women on there, given that a couple of them have already posted that they don't mind it.

am I being precious?

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LadyGlencoraPalliser · 24/09/2009 10:30

You are not being precious, no. But if they are too thick to see that it is a load of sexist shite, then you'll be banging your head against a brick wall trying to get it removed.

AstronomyDomine · 24/09/2009 10:30

a bit (sorry!). I keyed in "dance" into the box in the link - quite funny actually.

WidowWadman · 24/09/2009 10:31

Well, it is sexist shite, but I doubt that anyone over there will care or remove it.

I got strange looks when I mentioned at work that I found the nudey calendars on the walls quite offputting.

Original poster
themoon66 · 24/09/2009 10:33

One of the moderaters has offered to remove it, but a couple of the women have said they don't mind.

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Original poster
themoon66 · 24/09/2009 10:35

Urgh... just noticed that one of the blokes has more or less said he's using it as a wank-aid (vom)

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waitingforbedtime · 24/09/2009 10:35

A wee bit precious maybe. Doesnt really bother me tbh.

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 24/09/2009 10:35

Of course it is sexist shite. But they won't take it down. They won't see why it may be funny but the humour is based on oppression and control of women. Meh.

TrinityRhino · 24/09/2009 10:36

I wouldn't care about it

and nudey calenders? wouldn't care either, would maybe add a male one though

BunnyLebowski · 24/09/2009 10:37

Eh? I put in touch your toes and one of the bints gave the other 2 a wedgie?!

Also something I typed made them give me the finger!

Original poster
themoon66 · 24/09/2009 10:39

I think some of the blokes are putting a wee bit more than 'touch your toes'

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Fruitbeard · 24/09/2009 10:42

I typed in

have you no self-respect?

and they all shook their heads... oh dear.

I don't think you're precious. It's horrible. And the one on the right should wear a size bigger shorts, they look really uncomfortable and are giving her a muffin top despite her slim figure!

Original poster
themoon66 · 24/09/2009 10:43

at Fruitbeards 'have you no respect'.

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WidowWadman · 24/09/2009 10:43

Trinity Rhino - a well, I find them unprofessional (even if they're christmas gifts from suppliers), especially as they're not tasteful nudes, but rather cheap, iyswim. I don't think they should be hanging in an office, especially when customers are coming in.

StableButDeluded · 24/09/2009 10:43

I think a bit U. It IS sexist, but also I suppose to be expected on a 'blokey' forum. It is so annoying when some men trot out that lame old thing about being jealous though, they just can't seem to get it

I suppose a lot of it is to do with the way men and women react to this sort of thing. some men actually find that sexy, whereas if someone posted the same thing on here, but with three muscly blokes in thongs rubbing cream into their chests, we'd all probably just go 'Arf!'

To clarify the cream-rubbing, I typed in 'clean the car' and the girl took off her bra & rubbed cream into her boobs Poor deluded creature cannot follow a simple instruction.

daftpunk · 24/09/2009 10:44

yabu..

if you post on a male dominated forum you have to expect that sort of thing...i don't think the men are thick...they just like porn....most men do.

IneedacleanerIamalazyslattern · 24/09/2009 10:45

Doesn't really bothe me TBH I have seen the male equivelant as well.

hatwoman · 24/09/2009 10:46

sympathy - but not sure what to say. I look at a forum that's mostly blokes and noticed a real laddishness wey-hey-ness about it (stupid comments about a good looking woman who won a race, that sort of thing). sadly it just put me off.

but, to answer you q - no you're not being precious

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themoon66 · 24/09/2009 10:49

As opinion seems fairly divided, I best just keep my mouth shut then

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StableButDeluded · 24/09/2009 10:56

I'm with WidowWadman. I don't think there should be nudey calendars of either sex in places where both men & women work. Cheap or otherwise. I don't want some random woman's fanjo in my face, as it were...

In the same way I don't want semi-nude women OR men in suggestive poses in cheaptatty newspapers.

But on a forum you don't 'have' to look at it so not so clear cut.

morningpaper · 24/09/2009 10:59

I typed in 'clean the car' and they covered themselves in shaving foam

morningpaper · 24/09/2009 11:01

I typed in "make my dinner" and they all started snogging each other

We need a Housewife version

Original poster
themoon66 · 24/09/2009 11:08

I typed in 'get some clothes on' but they just shook their heads.

They are awfully stupid

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morningpaper · 24/09/2009 11:10

I typed in "self-actualise" but they shook their heads

I tried "Read Germaine Greer" and one of them returned with a copy of the Sun

Stayingsunnygirl · 24/09/2009 11:12

I suggested they learn philosophy, and they just waved at me.

Fruitbeard · 24/09/2009 11:13

Given the turn Germaine's taken lately I'd say the Scum is probably the place most suited to her 'all women are shit except MEEE' burblings...