To be quite worried about this boy, when his mum seems to think he is a girl??

[hulahoopyfingers]

Yes I know don't be so judgy

Yes I know it is none of my business, but tbh I am actually quite worried/bemused/not sure what to say about this situation

We met a new mum about a year ago who has two children a girl of 5 and a boy of 2

When we first met them the boy had just turned 1. To cut a long story short the mum dresses and treats this boy as a girl. He had lovely long hair to his waist which is often in plaits, hairbands, tied up with ribbons. He wears girls clothes, not just girly clothes but pastel patent shoes, frilly socks, girls blouses and tops, the other day I saw him in pink cords with flowers on the pockets.

To look at him you would think he was a girl. I did for the first 3 times we met. He has a unisex name and I wasn't sure who she was talking about whenever she said he or him. Everytime I am with her and we met other people they think he is a girl and say she etc the mum doesn't correct them at all.

I don't know why this is bothering me. My DS has quite long hair himself. It wouldn't be bothering me at all if I thought he was inputting into it himself and saying I want to wear this or I want my hair up but he doesn't talk yet.

I just keep getting a weird this is not right feel about it.

I am waiting for the influx of YABU and here is why

is it appropriate to be discussing a family in such identifiable terms on a public talk board?

Its really strange....and im not one for following 'the norm'.

Well, TBH if you don't want to come to the general notice of people in your local area, don't dress your son in tutus and frilly dresses.

but this isn't their "local area" is it.

FBB - I think I know you, and who you're talking about! There can't be so many little boys wandering around in sparkly red shoes?

Obviously quite a few posters concerned about this ....

Lordy, yes MrsFawlty - sounds like it is the same family. I won't ask who you are in RL! (Wonders was it the big bum which gave me away...)

Oh I am so envious - nobody round where I live is a mumsnetter and I know because ive dropped lots and lots of hints and just get fuzzy looks when i talk about fanjos and norks and pour scorn on fruit shoots and value ham.....

start an embarrassing thread about the state of your nethers nickschick and i can guarantee someone will come out of the woodwork

Nope, not the bum, the NI and cake ref on your profile! I'm the one with two boys with slightly unusual names - I just wanted to say hello so you'd know it was me, IYSWIM! (Not quite sure what the general MN etiquette is when spotting someone you know, I've never done it before!)

lmao.....I remember one when i first joined mumsnet about someone who tied a thread around a skintag on her butt and was in agony .......my neighbour who I didnt know very well at the time was limping badly and I truly thought it was her .

It wasnt,she has a dodgy hip!!

I am slightly freaked out that all these people who know each other have found each other so quickly on a thread. Makes me worry for RL anonymity in general (although I realise this is an unusual situation)

Unless they are, in RL, ringing each other up to say "you know that family we all know, well they're being discussed on a mumsnet thread, go and have a look"?

nickschick, I remember that thread!

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Out of interest, would anyone think it was so strange if the child in question was a girl who was dressed like a boy and had a boyish haircut and an androgynous name?

Nickschick
i only know one other mner on here , we told each other has been fine although not sure we frequent the sex threads as much now

interesting scarlet...

Scarlet but then i guess it is more accepted to see girls with short hair and trousers on , boys with ribbons and skirts isn't..

OK am going to ask for thread to go, because tbh it is freaking me out slightly how many people seem to know who I am talking about

Dorothea - it is weird, but the people FBB and I know are quite noticeable. Not sure we're talking about the same people as described in the OP though?

I was drawn to the thread title because it sounded familiar, totally coincidental, no phoning up of other people! It can't be that common though, can it?

waves at Mrs Fawlty

Dorothea, the family in question are very high profile in the sense that they wear their 'differences' very visibly. I don't know the other 2 posters who know them but have a very rough idea about who they might be. However I would imagine that there are a great deal of people who would know who the family in question are, from the clues given. I suppose it is one of the prices you pay if you choose to live your public life in a very different way from the norm.

Bloody hell, am I the only one here who doesn't know this family ...?

I'm with Reality