Ok, I'll try to give the necessary info:
Next door neighbour is a friend and her children go to the same school as mine.
She has 3 children, I have 2 all within 4 yrs of each others ages.
My Ds's often ask if they can play with children next door. If they're home I'll say they can call to play. They are allowed to play abut 60% of the time, the rest of the time my friend says 'no they're busy' and oten they then play on their own in their garden.
My Ds's are confused and upset by this. I told them to stop asking for a while.
Then in the summer they've asked about twice and all played ogether really ahppily.
This weekend neighbours had cousins to stay. Yesterady morning 8 children playing games together in neighbours garden, my DS said to DH that sounds great can I play witth them? Dh asked over fence, next doors Ds went to ask my frind if my DS could come and play he came abck and said 'mum says no.'
My DS spends 2 hours watching other kids play next door out of back bedroom window, feeling very sad and forlorn.
Why would anyone do that to a kid?
My Ds's are quiet boys who are honestly no trouble. so it's not that.
so why would anyone have this attitude? I'd be really happy for the kids to play in and out of our houses on an easy going basis, where you kick them out when it's dinner time etc. I really dislike this closed door attitude it seems very cold.
I guess I know the answer to this: we have different attitdes and I've got to accept that.
But I don't like it.